So im at my first OBGYN appointment

[MichaelD]

Dont get married, she can get WIC and food stamps as a single mom.

Speaking as someone who got screwed with 18 years of child support, I would ONLY endorse the above line of thinking if you truly can't stand the woman you knocked up...which was my case, exactly.

If you're dating and happy and things are going well and the "ultimate oops" happens, give marriage a shot. You may wind up happy.

No marriage = you pay child support
Marriage = possibly you are happy
Marriage doesn't work out = you pay child support

She can't lose! (read that again).

 

[jagec]

To their kid, fourteen years or so from now, when the hormones start kicking in.

Huh? That doesn't make any sense.

 

[quikah]

Were still thinking about next summer for our wedding. We already live together. Were not in a rush to get married.

Oh yeah, it will be SOOO much more fun to plan/have a wedding while dealing with a 3-4 month old.

On a serious note, do everything you want to do now cause you won't have the time/money later.

 

[tooriski]

you'll do fine, my son was 3 months old when my wife and I got married. now we have another 5 month old girl. couldn't be happier with my life.

 

[rcpratt]

I went to a gyno appointment with my gf after 6 months. Is that weird?

To be fair, she had some weird shit going on.

 

[shortylickens]

Pics of preggo?

 

[D1gger]

I've been a father for just about 23 years, and I still have significant doubts!

 

[jagec]

I went to a gyno appointment with my gf after 6 months. Is that weird?

To be fair, she had some weird shit going on.

One of my friends in high school was from Taiwan, and while he was fluent in multiple languages, his grandparents weren't.

The upshot of that was that he had to go with his grandmother to her gynecologist appointments and translate from the other side of the curtain.

WORST. JOB. EVER.

 

[ichy]

I went to a gyno appointment with my gf after 6 months. Is that weird?

Yes.

 

[SagaLore]

Have as much unprotected sex as you possibly can, because by the third trimester you're going to get cut off and it will be at least a year before you have sex again.

 

[MagnusTheBrewer]

Have as much unprotected sex as you possibly can, because by the third trimester you're going to get cut off and it will be at least a year before you have the energy to have sex again.

FTFY.

 

[kevman]

Mid 30's ? Better Nate then Lever.

 

[aldamon]

I've been a father for just about 23 years, and I still have significant doubts!

Thank you for the honesty.

 

[quikah]

Have as much unprotected sex as you possibly can, because by the third trimester you're going to get cut off and it will be at least a year before you have sex again.

It was the opposite for me on the last one. Wife was constantly nauseous for the first trimester so no sex. Pretty good after that, though it was getting awkward towards the end.

But 1 yr after? WTF, that is lunacy. We were back at it after the 6 week check for both our kids, though certainly less frequent due to being a bit tired. I can see maybe 2 or 3 months if it was a c-section.

 

[akshatp]

Me and wifey just went for our 24 week checkup for our first. You think you are stressed now? LOL wait as time passes and different thoughts creep into your head and you lie awake all night wondering how you are going to cope.

Yea, thats what I am going through now lol. September is coming fast and I am freaking out! Add to that we are moving at the end of the month, have a baby shower in July, and of course a busy work schedule due to layoffs. Shit I think I just freaked myself out a little more.

On the brighter side, we just came back from our "baby moon" in Puerto Rico and I got some good maternity shots at morning sunrise a few days ago.

Enjoy

http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/akshatp/photo.PNG
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http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/akshatp/photo2.PNG

PS they are straight off the cam, no post processing so gimme a break!

 

[borisvodofsky]

Only thing different between her and i now and when were married is a piece of paper with our names on it.

It's not just a piece of paper, it's a commitment. The fact that you're so laid back about it, makes it seem like you don't realize how serious it is to have children.

Best wishes. :thumbsup:

 

[borisvodofsky]

Have as much unprotected sex as you possibly can, because by the third trimester you're going to get cut off and it will be at least a year before you have sex again.

Psssh... Fleshlight.. I don't know why people bother with women. :thumbsup:

 

[borisvodofsky]

you'll do fine, my son was 3 months old when my wife and I got married. now we have another 5 month old girl. couldn't be happier with my life.

yea? Pic of your sports car, beach house, and content wife.

 

[borisvodofsky]

Speaking as someone who got screwed with 18 years of child support, I would ONLY endorse the above line of thinking if you truly can't stand the woman you knocked up...which was my case, exactly.

If you're dating and happy and things are going well and the "ultimate oops" happens, give marriage a shot. You may wind up happy.

No marriage = you pay child support
Marriage = possibly you are happy
Marriage doesn't work out = you pay child support

She can't lose! (read that again).

You're a selfish bastard. She has to raise a child without a husband. All of her dreams and hopes are gone.

And there's you sitting there pointing and jesting. You weren't meant to reproduce. I hope your child grows up to be nothing like you.

 

[Nintendesert]

Congrats on your bastard! :thumbsup:

 

[borisvodofsky]

Congrats on your bastard! :thumbsup:

LOL you people are mean!! or just very young. both.

 

[grohl]

Congrats. Been there done that but lots of spot on advice in this thread.

 

[Praetor]

That's one set of emotions. The other one hard to describe is when your wife/babymamma and baby are getting wheeled out of the hospital, putting the munchkin in the car seat and driving home the first time. Then getting home and realizing...I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT TO DO WITH THIS THING!!!!!!!!!!!

First one is a lifechanger. Our second one has been like 1/10th the anxiety and drama of the first.

We had 5 years in between children. By the time my daughter came around, it was like starting all over again because we had either forgotten so much or had put an emerald filter over our collective memories.

I think the best advice I could give a soon-to-be parent is: relax and enjoy this. Read to your child while s/he is still in the womb. When s/he comes out, enjoy and wonder at the small things. Soon (too soon!), they will be up walking and talking. If you blink, you'll miss it.

 

[slsmnaz]

I guess the key is to realize you really have no clue and are going to freak out occasionally. We recently went through my 7mo son's first illness and I was sure he was going to die (not really but it was scary).

Some advice, don't google everything that happens because there is really some scary stuff on the internet. Every symptom seems to point to a deathly illness

 

[JTsyo]

That's one set of emotions. The other one hard to describe is when your wife/babymamma and baby are getting wheeled out of the hospital, putting the munchkin in the car seat and driving home the first time. Then getting home and realizing...I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT TO DO WITH THIS THING!!!!!!!!!!!

First one is a lifechanger. Our second one has been like 1/10th the anxiety and drama of the first.

heh, this was my wife. She wanted to stay in the hospital for an extra day or two. Of course insurance wouldn't cover that. After we got home though, it was just natural.

Congrats OP, hope all goes well.