So my girlfriend is going to see her ex tonight.... *UPDATE 3*

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: meltdown75
die thread, thread... die.

*kicks the thread while it's down* *kick* *kick* DIE ARRGGGHH!

 

[jiwq]

Originally posted by: columbiaflier

Originally posted by: Cable God

Originally posted by: FoBoT
dump her and find a new gf

Dude, she's not ever going to be faithful to you. You will find one that will. Get rid of her before she tears you down.

He's not going to listen. He's only looking for the few posts that support his delusion (and even those say she's in the wrong) and just ignoring everything else. He's such an idiot.

.......... she still loves you!

 

[piroroadkill]

Originally posted by: PingSpike
After reading your second update here is my advice:

Kill her and her boyfriend. And then kill yourself.

That, but without the last bit.

 

[TheBDB]

Originally posted by: piroroadkill

Originally posted by: PingSpike
After reading your second update here is my advice:

Kill her and her boyfriend. And then kill yourself.

That, but without the last bit.

No no he needs to die too.

 

[Ruroni]

This thread must be a farce. I can't see any self-respecting human enduring this.

Is there really a question, or were you looking for a reaction out of people?

She probably cried that first night because he told her that he wasn't leaving the NEW GF for her; or simply, she felt a little guilty about her behavior.

She doesn't mind him touching her; hence she'll continue to see him, time and again. If I had to wager, I'd bet they're actually having sex; it's unlikely a grown adult male is going to see her, unless she's giving him a reason. Unless you do some soul searching and rethink your position you're probably going to be a cuckold, once you get married (to whomever you marry), because you seem to have little self respect, or because you like the drama.

I understand the whole freedom thing and what not, but really, she's made it clear it's a sexual thing when she tells you she goes to him, for him to make her feel diserable (achieved through some form of sexual gratification). If it were anything other, she'd see him with either you or his girlfriend around (for checks and balances & out of respect for you and her).

The guy, whether he is trust worthy or not is irrelevent. He owes you no loyalties, he's not YOUR friend; she is. It is her responsibility to defuse any threatening position. The fact that she doesn't make any efforts to elude it, but instead seeks him out, means she's still searching for something.

The fact that you guys have talked about it only alleviates any sense of guilt she might have had, now that's she's been open and honest with you about it. She's put the ball in your court, sort of speak.

As for putting feet down and what not, you don't own her. Giving her the benefit of the doubt and telling her and yourself that she needs to move on to someone else if she's not ready, willing, & able to be with you is the only self respecting, foot putting down, honorable behaviour you have left (I undersand it can be easier said than done for most guys like you). And even then, hope that she will be honest and straight forward, and not that she'll read that as an indication that it is time to see him behind your back; which is my expectation.

Note: My argument becomes depleted if the 2 of you are Asian. Although you did allude to her hair being different when she wakes, so that excludes her from being asian, since asian hair doesn't really change much, until you apply serious chemistry to it.

 

[vtecluder]

This thread is still active? :Q

 

[lavaheadache]

Originally posted by: vtecluder
This thread is still active? :Q

hehe, I was thinking the same thing. Its great laughing at someone elses expense

 

[MegaWorks]

Originally posted by: lavaheadache

Originally posted by: vtecluder
This thread is still active? :Q

hehe, I was thinking the same thing. Its great laughing at someone elses expense

Same here

 

[kwan888]

It's time for a Pootietang pimp slap.

 

[Nocturnal]

I had a girlfriend like that, man that sucks man. All I can say is that sucks. I would hate it if my girlfriend told me "He makes me feel desireable" WTF!! I'd end it and find a new girlfriend.

 

[superpandapower]

LOL, this thread has been a hilarious read. I didn't know that there were still some people like wardemon who are so oblivious to the truth. LOL

 

[Ikonomi]

Hey WarDemon, break it off with her. If she needs another guy, an ex-boyfriend, to feel good about herself, then there's a problem. From reading this thread, it sounds like there's a problem with her, a problem with you for letting yourself be a human doormat, and with your relationship. She is pwning all over you.

Really, dude. You are getting owned.

 

[columbiaflier]

Originally posted by: Ikonomi
Hey WarDemon, break it off with her. If she needs another guy, an ex-boyfriend, to feel good about herself, then there's a problem. From reading this thread, it sounds like there's a problem with her, a problem with you for letting yourself be a human doormat, and with your relationship. She is pwning all over you.

Really, dude. You are getting owned.

He's a loser.

 

[dabuddha]

Wow sorry but you're just backup. She wants her ex back.

 

[rz8168]

This thread is hilarious!
Apparently to me WarDemon is n00b to this relationship... obviously, he doesn't handle this situation mature enough to be a man! The girl cried after she got molested by ex bf because of guilt. If she's willing to see her ex bf after being molested, she still has feeling for her ex bf. Dump her like everybody else suggested.

 

[otispunkmeyer]

just be forceful, lock u and her in a room, say me or him? we arent leaving till you decide, and the only acceptable answers will be you or him.

put your foot down man or shes just gonna play you like a pack of top trumps

 

[imported_Schmitty]

I feel I want to end my lift after reading 23 Pages of this crap. Dude. tell her its you or him. there is no compromise in this situation. if you dont, she is going to end up having sex with him, not telling you and the paranoia is going to get to you until you snap and all hell breaks loose. If you dont your in for some hurtin. Trust me!

 

[Megadeth]

Fvcking Pathetic! Your only 19 so I will cut you a little break because I was a bit naive when I was 19 also... You learn a lot in 4 years about relationships... I am sure she is going to "break your heart" in a bad way because you are so "in love" with her... Face reality, you have a lot of broken hearts ahead of you if you keep being such a gullible wimp thinking that the GF you have now will be with you forever.
People change and grow apart a lot after their teens... Let me give you an example of a GF I had when I was 19.... First Major Heart Break....
I was 19 she was 21, we had been going out for 6 months or so.... Things were going okay then one day this company is doing networking though the building she works at and this guy running cables thought the building started talking to her and showing interest.... Days later he brings her flowers.... She insists that she has no interest in hanging out with him or anything... Weird thing is though that she seems different around me after that.... Anyways, a week later We were on our way to class (We took a college class together, BTW bad idea to do with your GF) and she mentions to me that she wont be needing a ride home from me because she is meeting a friend for coffee and the friend is picking her up at the college.... I asked her which friend and she said Christina... The Network Guys name is Chris...
Unlike you, I am not a gullible Stupid Fvck and I instantly suspect something... After class gets out we go by the exit of the college building and she says I can go ahead and that her friend will for sure be there... I tell her (knowing something is up) that I will wait and make sure that her friend shows up incase she really does need a ride from me.... She gets all panicky, goes to the bathroom comes out a few minutes later (looked like she was crying) and tells me the truth.... Then she proceeds to give me some line of Sh!t that he just want to talk about religion with her because he knew she was pretty religious (here is a good point, just because your religious and go to church does not make you a good person...That?s another topic all together) So, he shows up minutes later... Well... I decided to trust her (19 and naive) and a week later is Valentines Day... We had plans, reservations ect.... Well... She never showed up, I called her house and her cell phone, Her mother said she was out and didn?t know where.... Well, she finally called me around midnight and says she should be home soon and we can "talk"... I got a little anxious and went over her house at 1:00 am because she hadn?t called yet and there she was with this guy in his car in the driveway making out.... I got out of my car; she got out of his car and started yelling at me for coming over so late. She went inside real fast and came back out with some stuff I had given her and gave it all back and said we were through "Yeah, you think!" Her nickname now is Satan

Moral of my story I guess is that when you see little red flags do something about them right away!
Man, I feel like I was as pathetic back then as you are today. I had a couple short relationships after that, and now I am in one that is going on 3 years. I still watch for those little red flags even in this long-term relationship... If you watch for them they are very very noticeable.

 

[columbiaflier]

Originally posted by: Megadeth
Man, I feel like I was as pathetic back then as you are today. I had a couple short relationships after that, and now I am in one that is going on 3 years. I still watch for those little red flags even in this long-term relationship... If you watch for them they are very very noticeable.

Indeed. But he won't notice them because he doesn't want to notice them. And even if he does, he'll just make up excuses for her so he can believe their relationship is perfectly intact. He's a loser.

 

[jiwq]

I wonder where OP went... does he not want us to keep bumping this thread?

 

[91TTZ]

Originally posted by: jiwq
I wonder where OP went... does he not want us to keep bumping this thread?

He's either:

1.) Laughing his ass off because of the successful trickery he pulled on us

2.) Crying his ass off because of the successful trickery she pulled on him

 

[liquidblue]

I'm sure OP won't post when the

inevitable
/ASmith

happens.

Maybe this will come up in the Unresolved ATOT Topics thread eventually.

Megadeth, that was brutal! If Karma does work the way it should, she'll be nicknaming someone Satan.

 

[MrChad]

Originally posted by: 91TTZ

Originally posted by: jiwq
I wonder where OP went... does he not want us to keep bumping this thread?

He's either:

1.) Laughing his ass off because of the successful trickery he pulled on us

2.) Crying his ass off because of the successful trickery she pulled on him

He's planning her birthday gift

 

[Terumo]

Originally posted by: MrChad

Originally posted by: 91TTZ

Originally posted by: jiwq
I wonder where OP went... does he not want us to keep bumping this thread?

He's either:

1.) Laughing his ass off because of the successful trickery he pulled on us

2.) Crying his ass off because of the successful trickery she pulled on him

He's planning her birthday gift

He's cruising for a bruising then. He's not very upset if he's asking for ideas for a Valentine gift for her. Guys really upset would be hitting the bottle and too miserable to be around.

And the HD comment says something in it's own right: tightwad.

She'll be leaving him since a HD is more valuable. Which may explain why she's basically dating her Ex again, too.

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: Megadeth
Fvcking Pathetic! Your only 19 so I will cut you a little break because I was a bit naive when I was 19 also... You learn a lot in 4 years about relationships... I am sure she is going to "break your heart" in a bad way because you are so "in love" with her... Face reality, you have a lot of broken hearts ahead of you if you keep being such a gullible wimp thinking that the GF you have now will be with you forever.
People change and grow apart a lot after their teens... Let me give you an example of a GF I had when I was 19.... First Major Heart Break....
I was 19 she was 21, we had been going out for 6 months or so.... Things were going okay then one day this company is doing networking though the building she works at and this guy running cables thought the building started talking to her and showing interest.... Days later he brings her flowers.... She insists that she has no interest in hanging out with him or anything... Weird thing is though that she seems different around me after that.... Anyways, a week later We were on our way to class (We took a college class together, BTW bad idea to do with your GF) and she mentions to me that she wont be needing a ride home from me because she is meeting a friend for coffee and the friend is picking her up at the college.... I asked her which friend and she said Christina... The Network Guys name is Chris...
Unlike you, I am not a gullible Stupid Fvck and I instantly suspect something... After class gets out we go by the exit of the college building and she says I can go ahead and that her friend will for sure be there... I tell her (knowing something is up) that I will wait and make sure that her friend shows up incase she really does need a ride from me.... She gets all panicky, goes to the bathroom comes out a few minutes later (looked like she was crying) and tells me the truth.... Then she proceeds to give me some line of Sh!t that he just want to talk about religion with her because he knew she was pretty religious (here is a good point, just because your religious and go to church does not make you a good person...That?s another topic all together) So, he shows up minutes later... Well... I decided to trust her (19 and naive) and a week later is Valentines Day... We had plans, reservations ect.... Well... She never showed up, I called her house and her cell phone, Her mother said she was out and didn?t know where.... Well, she finally called me around midnight and says she should be home soon and we can "talk"... I got a little anxious and went over her house at 1:00 am because she hadn?t called yet and there she was with this guy in his car in the driveway making out.... I got out of my car; she got out of his car and started yelling at me for coming over so late. She went inside real fast and came back out with some stuff I had given her and gave it all back and said we were through "Yeah, you think!" Her nickname now is Satan

Moral of my story I guess is that when you see little red flags do something about them right away!
Man, I feel like I was as pathetic back then as you are today. I had a couple short relationships after that, and now I am in one that is going on 3 years. I still watch for those little red flags even in this long-term relationship... If you watch for them they are very very noticeable.

Yikes.....all I can say is be happy that you found she was so....unstable before you got married to her. I would of been more verbal about it myself.