Guy, you live in Chicago. I know you don't want to think about finding someone else, but at least you live in a city with millions of other people. My advice is to let this girl make the first move. If you jump all over e-mails, text messages, or written messages it won't give her a chance to miss you.
I'm not an advocate of playing games, but I recommend taking some time to yourself, getting into the gym, exploring hobbies, etc. Try to meet some new friends where you live. Don't try to get in touch with her for a few days. Make it seem like you aren't thinking about her, and if she does message you, take at least a day or two before you reply. Don't send her an e-mail 5 minutes after you get one.
I'm not going to encourage you to completely give up on her. 8.5 years is a long time. However, be careful and protect yourself.
R
I'm not an advocate of playing games, but I recommend taking some time to yourself, getting into the gym, exploring hobbies, etc. Try to meet some new friends where you live. Don't try to get in touch with her for a few days. Make it seem like you aren't thinking about her, and if she does message you, take at least a day or two before you reply. Don't send her an e-mail 5 minutes after you get one.
I'm not going to encourage you to completely give up on her. 8.5 years is a long time. However, be careful and protect yourself.
R