Originally posted by: WayneTeK
Originally posted by: jdiddy
This sounded like your first real experience. You get a mulligan learn from your mistakes and try again. You live in SoCal man the hotbed of Asian females should'nt be that hard. You think you'll never find the girl that measures up to her but you will. Its happened to almost everyone then bam out of nowhere you find the right girl. And if your looking for some hunnies check out the new DNB in Arcadia ohhhhh yah lots of eye candy.
*sigh* that place reminds me of her too... she lives around there.
Originally posted by: Shelly21
I'm sorry, try a non-asian woman next time. I can assure you, that she'll probably won't be as quiet.
Now, I don't see this one as a bitch, because you are the one who's imagining this relationship in your head (understandable, your first time. And with her being quiet, she probably has a very hard time trying to figure out how to tell you no. You're the one who's buying everything, so that part is your fault. You're lucky she didn't string you along and take you for everything before dumping you.
Lunch time for me, I'll post more later.
Originally posted by: DrPizza
Waynetek.... I feel for you.
Been there, done that.
Worse yet, her mom liked me and wanted her to end up permanently with me... that pushed her away even more. But, I was completely infatuated with her.
Here's how you get over it:
Have fun.
Date others.
Plenty of others. Try for a new girlfriend each week - nothing steady.
Maybe you'll run across someone that the chemistry really mixes well... maybe not.. but, you'll be enjoying yourself.
Most importantly: make sure this girl finds out how easy you're finding it to date others and move on from her.
1 of 2 things can happen: You'll find happiness with someone else and discover that the world IS full of people just as good as her
Or... she'll come back, begging for a 2nd chance.
(that's what happened to me... we just celebrated our 15th anniversary 2 weeks ago.
Originally posted by: PanzerIV
I am not going to bash you because you've had enough of that here. Hell, at least you asked her out and dated her briefly unlike another infamous poster we all know and don't love.
She saw you as a friend and that is all. She's not sexually attracted to you which is quite evident in her email and actions. She knows she had a good thing in you but you aren't the type she can see herself having kids with and frolicking on the beach. It's not gonna happen. You made a mistake and spent a lot of money you shouldn't have but what's done is done.
You don't have to be a total ass in the future with women but do not worship the ground they walk on, nor go overboard on the spending. Act like you have some experience even if you don't and take things slow. That's another thing that killed things with the ex. She's beyond your level. She's been out before and undoubtedly gets asked out all of the time. She has experience and she's not ready to settle down and told you as much in the email. You weren't her type.
Look at this as a learning experience. Take some time to think things over and get through your depression. Then start gaining the courage to ask a few more girls out but spend moderately. After one or two dates with different women which will hopefully go well you won't even miss her anymore.
Good luck!
Originally posted by: HamSupLo
listen to what these fellas say about Taiwanese girls, proceed with caution.
Originally posted by: WayneTeK
Originally posted by: HamSupLo
listen to what these fellas say about Taiwanese girls, proceed with caution.
why are Taiwanese girls so dangerous???
Originally posted by: Doboji
As for the money....
Did you have a good time?... Did you get joy in the spending of that 2000? Or was it all gifts... if it was all gifts... GO GET THEM BACK AND SELL THEM.
If it was on doing things together... then don't look at it as money spent on HER look at it as money spend on you spending time with her... and don't feel so bad about it.
-Max
Originally posted by: WayneTeK
Originally posted by: Doboji
As for the money....
Did you have a good time?... Did you get joy in the spending of that 2000? Or was it all gifts... if it was all gifts... GO GET THEM BACK AND SELL THEM.
If it was on doing things together... then don't look at it as money spent on HER look at it as money spend on you spending time with her... and don't feel so bad about it.
-Max
most of the costs involved doing things together... gift wise though, i probably only spent $200... but this includes bday gift, new job gift (pen), roses, shirt, and car seat cover..
I don't feel all that bad about how much i spent... I'm more upset at how decieving she was.
Originally posted by: Doboji
Originally posted by: WayneTeK
Originally posted by: Doboji
As for the money....
Did you have a good time?... Did you get joy in the spending of that 2000? Or was it all gifts... if it was all gifts... GO GET THEM BACK AND SELL THEM.
If it was on doing things together... then don't look at it as money spent on HER look at it as money spend on you spending time with her... and don't feel so bad about it.
-Max
most of the costs involved doing things together... gift wise though, i probably only spent $200... but this includes bday gift, new job gift (pen), roses, shirt, and car seat cover..
I don't feel all that bad about how much i spent... I'm more upset at how decieving she was.
She didnt decieve you... she liked you... she doesnt have to be inlove with you right away... it's a building process... Seems to me she was very honest with you... and very sweet about it to boot.
Just move on... don't be so bitter... the dice didnt hit for you... thats all.. no big deal...
-Max
Originally posted by: WayneTeK
Originally posted by: Doboji
Originally posted by: WayneTeK
Originally posted by: Doboji
As for the money....
Did you have a good time?... Did you get joy in the spending of that 2000? Or was it all gifts... if it was all gifts... GO GET THEM BACK AND SELL THEM.
If it was on doing things together... then don't look at it as money spent on HER look at it as money spend on you spending time with her... and don't feel so bad about it.
-Max
most of the costs involved doing things together... gift wise though, i probably only spent $200... but this includes bday gift, new job gift (pen), roses, shirt, and car seat cover..
I don't feel all that bad about how much i spent... I'm more upset at how decieving she was.
She didnt decieve you... she liked you... she doesnt have to be inlove with you right away... it's a building process... Seems to me she was very honest with you... and very sweet about it to boot.
Just move on... don't be so bitter... the dice didnt hit for you... thats all.. no big deal...
-Max
you see, i realize this... i just keep on telling myself she is deceptive so i can make myself feel better about it.. but in reality, i know she is sweet and kind.... but the only way i can comfort myself and move on is by tricking myself into believing she is a WITCH...
Originally posted by: Linux23
i'll date you for 2k. you may even get a big hot juicy man kiss.
Originally posted by: WayneTeK
EDIT#2: I think i was more attached than anything else...?
EDIT#1: Ultimately, i hope she regrets her decision one day.... I hope so........ and then thinks back to the good times we had and how i treated her right.
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So after spending $2000 on this girl and driving every week to pick her up, treat her right, sending roses to her workplace, and surprising her with little gifts every now and then, I am left in the dark... She broke it off with me in 5 days after we got together. I cannot believe she pulled this stunt on me.. I'm sort of disappointed in her decision because i truly did like her and i would've done anything for her, yet she still didnt' feel the same way about me. I'm soo bitter...
And worse of all, i didnt' even kiss her yet. But perhaps it was better i didnt' kiss her because it might make me even more attached? Ladies, can you please shed some light on this issue about the kiss?
Here is the email she sent me.
Hi. I'm thinking you probably don't want to talk to me right now, so
that's why I'm writing you an email. I feel really awful that you
didn't get any closure from our conversation last night, so I'm going
to try my best to give that to you. I don't really know where to
start, so I'll just use Waterfront Hilton because that seems like a good
reference point.
Like I said last night, I really wanted to like you as more than just
a friend, so that's why at Waterfront I said we were dating and not
just friends. I guess I did lead you on from that point and it's
really just selfishness on my part. I wanted to keep dating you
because you're everything I look for in a guy. Unfortunately, there
are very few people like you out there and because of that, I honestly
thought that if I just let you go I would never find someone as
genuinely nice as you. I already knew, before you told me, that you
would do anything for me, which made staying with you even more
appealing. It amazed me that someone can actually like me that much
and I liked that (not that I'd ever had the intention of telling you
to do stuff for me).
I actually contemplated on whether or not to just be your girlfriend
and hope that as time progressed, I could see you as more than just a
friend. But that would just be evil of me to make you like me even
more and then break it off (in the event that my feelings didn't
change towards you). I don't think you fully understand just how much
I want to get over the "seeing-you-as-just-a-friend" hump. The sad
thing is, there's really nothing you nor I can do to change that. I
just want to tell you that, literally, it's not you but me. I know
you think 'how can I see you as just a friend when we weren't close
friends to begin with', but I don't think people have to be great
friends to see one another as just a friend.
I apologize for hurting you, wasting your time, and deferring you from
your school work. I really liked going out with you and if it seemed
that I wasn't excited about
going out with you, I apologize for that too. I'm also sorry for
making you backtrack on your 3 goals for the year. I know you
probably have all these walls built now for the next girl to break
down and I'm really sorry to put you in that position.
Per our conversation last night, I did indeed tell your friend that I never
had a boyfriend because I can't see myself with only that one guy.
However, I don't think that applies to you because it's not the 'being
solely with you' that comes to question, it's seeing you as a romantic
partner, not just a friend. I know you want an explanation as to WHY
I can't see you as more than just a friend. But the truth is, I just
can't...there is no explanation. I think there's just this barrier
that's blocking the chemistry between us. There are no secret hidden meanings behind what I
say.
I don't know what else to say. You can accept what you want from this
email. I hope reading this doesn't make you even more
mad/disappointed/bitter/upset because that would defeat the whole
purpose of closure. I hope you get your broker license...take care
and don't go changing because you make a great boyfriend just the way
you are.
~NAME HAS BEEN REMOVED TO PROTECT THIS WITCH
So what does this letter mean? Does this letter make her sound even more of a money grubber/selfish gal or perhaps i'm wrong about her?
I really don't want to let her go though.. she's sooo special to me. i love everything about her from the way she laughs, talks, cuteness, cleanliness, personality... she is soo observant as well.. her intelligence, grace... i also love how she has this cute grin when she misses a shot after playing pool... i love how she is so sweet at times... but she pulls this stunt on me out of nowhere... i just realized she wasn't the cute bunny in the cage, but more like a snake... :brokenheart:
should i not give up on her and still pursue this issue or just drop it? i feel like if i dont' give it my ABSOULTE all, i'll lose a good thing in my life... her.
Originally posted by: WayneTeK
no, we were official for only 5 days.... it took 4 months to become official... and once we became official, it only lasted 5 days because she broke it off on the 5th day..
Originally posted by: JEDI
Originally posted by: WayneTeK
no, we were official for only 5 days.... it took 4 months to become official... and once we became official, it only lasted 5 days because she broke it off on the 5th day..
wow dude..and u didnt even get a kiss?
live and learn i guess..
Originally posted by: WayneTeK
Originally posted by: JEDI
Originally posted by: WayneTeK
no, we were official for only 5 days.... it took 4 months to become official... and once we became official, it only lasted 5 days because she broke it off on the 5th day..
wow dude..and u didnt even get a kiss?
live and learn i guess..
unfortunately, no.... i think it may have been for the better though.. honestly because i think i woudl have been more attached...????? thefemale side of me stabs myself in the poon area for not doing it... the other side of me says it's for the better..