So the girl i spent close to $2000 decides to break it off with me.. 2k in 4 months.. I hate women...

[manly]

Don't worry, there's always Plan B.

:beer:

 

[BaboonGuy]

of course you must also ask for a full refund on your $2000 since you didn't get no poon tang

 

[phonemonkey]

Wow, 2k in 5 days. I think you and your checkbook should be glad that she wasn't with you for a long time. Better luck with the other ladies out there :beer:

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: WayneTeK

Originally posted by: 0roo0roo
sounds like zero chemistry

well, sort of... she was relaly quiet and i'm the talkative one... i dont' understand how she says we dont' have great chemistry because she isn't doing her part to help this chemistry out... she's soo quiet,all the time... but i've come to accept this as who she is.... despite how she thinks, i like how she is quiet.

ever wonder if she's ususally not quiet?

Definiately sounds like no chemisty.

 

[flxnimprtmscl]

I don't get it... You spent 2k in 4 months but have only been with her for five days Either way, Manzelle said it best. Good luck with your next relationship.

Btw, no offense intended and I'm not trying to kick you when your down, but... Judging from your post I'm going to go out on a limb here and guess that you might have acted a little over anxious and perhaps clingy in your relationship with her. If so, you might want to tone that down a notch. If not, ignore that comment.

 

[DAM]

I agree with flx, you put way too much into this up front. which to my knowledge absolute disgusts most (some) women. you have to have some self respect, you would do anything for this girl after knowing her for 4 months? you spent $2k on her, did she ever take you out to dinner? did she ever do anything special for you?

relationships are a 2 way street, if you find youself in a one way road you're on the wrong street.


dam(R)

 

[Renob]

Dude Get over it and Move on, your young and it wont be the first time things dont workout.

 

[Trygve]

I'd recommend giving up on her. The most you can realistically hope for is that every few years when she needs some emotional and/or financial bailing out, she'll show up on your doorstep and you can go through the same sequence of events before she decides that you're "just a friend" again.

 

[GtPrOjEcTX]

I think, they've known each other for 4 months, and were friends. then about a week ago, she said the comment jokingly about him being her boyfriend. the OP took it too seriously and this is the way the girl is breaking it off.

btw, he spent a lot of money while they were friends and even more in the past ~week.


hit the target?

 

[isasir]

Damn, I've been with my GF for over a year and I don't think I've spent $2k on her...

Aren't you the infamous "Stick out your hand" guy?

It does seem like you need some more experience with dating, since you did a lot of things wrong in this relationship. I'd suggest you try and do some reading up on how to approach dating, since spending so much money on a girl early on isn't the way.

 

[tooltime]

that's lame, but she could have broken it off a lot later too

 

[Muadib]

Guess you never heard that money can't buy love. You should be thankful that she was a girl with some values, she she let you off easy.

 

[welst10]

pics?

 

[brunswickite]

dude you spent 2k in 4 months and she wasnt even your gf....

i have been going out with my gf for almost 2 years and have known her for 4 years and i dont think i have spent that much on her...

 

[Manzelle]

Originally posted by: brunswickite
dude you spent 2k in 4 months and she wasnt even your gf....

i have been going out with my gf for almost 2 years and have known her for 4 years and i dont think i have spent that much on her...

2 years and not even $2000? That's like $2.75 a day you cheap bastard...

 

[y2kc]

should i not give up on her and still pursue this issue or just drop it? i feel like if i dont' give it my ABSOULTE all, i'll lose a good thing in my life... her.

that decision has already been made for you. to pursue her further would be stalking (IMHO). let her be. reply to her e-mail in a classy way, tell her you appreciate her honesty, that there are no hard feelings and wish her well.

who knows, women are crazy, she may reconsider but the key is a graceful exit. if you get weird on her now you have absolutely no shot. the fact that you think she's evil because she doesn't dig you is a bit much... women sense these things.

sounds like you tried too hard to be mr. right

personally I think you need to forget about this chick, they come and go... like the rain.

 

[rh71]

not to sound like an @$$ but if we can see pics of both you and her, we can do a better analysis on the truthfulness of "it's not you, it's me" ...

Anyone see that Joey episode ? You should match ratings. What do you rate yourself and what would you rate her ?

If you guys are close in that department, then I'd say it's definitely a chemistry thing and in that case, I back what Whisper initially said through and through.

 

[yllus]

It's your fault. You needed to set yourself up in her mind as being potentially more than just a friend, and you fscked that up. You acted platonic with her for so long that she can no longer imagine you as anything different.

Learn one thing: First impressions are everything in dating. You don't need to go overboard, but don't let there be any mistake that you're flirting with her from the first date onwards. If she rejects you then, well then at least you'll know right away and won't feel like an utter moron for spending $2k on a girl you haven't ever...you know.

 

[StageLeft]

I've never spent $2k on a woman in 4 months. I feel bad for you that she left you, but spending that amount of money on her is your own damn fault. Were you going to spend $6k/year on her?

 

[arcenite]

2k in 4 months... just to make you feel better, you could build a serious computer with that.

 

[arcenite]

Originally posted by: Manzelle

Originally posted by: brunswickite
dude you spent 2k in 4 months and she wasnt even your gf....

i have been going out with my gf for almost 2 years and have known her for 4 years and i dont think i have spent that much on her...

2 years and not even $2000? That's like $2.75 a day you cheap bastard...

i've been dating mine for over 2+, and don't think i've ever spent half that... (i'm about to though )

 

[ultimatebob]

So, let me get this straight.... 4 MONTHS, and you never got to kiss her?!? Sorry man, but that's pathetic. It sounds like your relationship was doomed from lack of chemistry since the first or second date, and that she was just keeping you around because you were nice to her and bought her lots of stuff.

Anyway, I hope that you learned an important lesson, and that you try to kick up the romance a bit earlier next time. Let's face it... if she's not acting physically attracted to you by the third date, it's probably NEVER going to happen.

 

[HardcoreRobot]

a fool and his money are soon parted

 

[mugs]

Spending $2000 in 2 months was probably a bit overboard, especially since it sounds like you only saw her on weekends... but what's more disturbing to me is that you kept track.

Sorry it didn't work out for you, but I think you've learned some valuable lessons about relationships. It sounds like you came on pretty strong with this girl... saying you love her after only 2 months, etc. Take it easy next time.

 

[brigden]

Sounds like you're more to blame with this one, mate.

From what I've read, it sounds as if she was never attracted to you to begin with, and unfortunately, that's the bottom line.

I'm willing to bet she never forced you to spend all that money on her, and by continuing to do it and then call her selfish when you stopped seeing each other is a little unfair to her. Yes, women like having money spent on them, and yes, women love receiving attention, but here's the newsflash: so does everyone else.

Personally, I found her email to be likely honest of her true feelings, but she sugar-coated the bit about not being attracted to you.

My advice: Suck it up and learn from your mistakes. You've got a lot to learn about women, and this was a good lesson, albeit an expensive one. Don't think any less of women over this; it was probably your fault. Have a beer and move on.