So I take it your username isn't just a catchy name you came up with? lol....
Its probably some really good wisdom you just dropped there brotha....thank you.
Originally posted by: exdeath
Originally posted by: GrantMeThePower
Originally posted by: exdeath
Originally posted by: ggnl
Originally posted by: exdeath
Originally posted by: JS80
whoa wtf!
My thoughts exactly.
So, uh....you want to talk about it?
p.s. Happy b-day OP!
Nah, I'm through with it, just felt like woman bashing to share my sympathy with OP.
And yeah, Happy Birthday. :beer: Don't feel bad about the timing, mine canceled our long in the making wedding Dec 24, 2005 with everything pretty much in place with only less than two months on the clock. Merry Christmas :roll:
I'm going to start only loving my car from now on. She will never cheat on me, and she always loves me in return when some punk comes rolling around sniffing for trouble at the merges and stop lights. All I have to do in return is keep the oil clean and keep her fed with a steady diet of rice and she squeals with delight :evil:
Happiness is being stroked and blown at the same time *snicker*
Wow, bro, it may have been my thread to start, but that was some stuff to put it in perspective. Very sorry to hear about all that. Sounds like you've got your head on straight now. I gotta get there too....everyone says it takes time.
Find something you are passionate about (cars, computers, games, whatever, martial arts, weight lifting, whatever) and indulge yourself in it. Don't even give her a second thought. Shes not the person you wanted to be with, shes somebody else now. She doesn't deserve the time of day from you.
Originally posted by: GrantMeThePower
Originally posted by: exdeath
Originally posted by: GrantMeThePower
Originally posted by: exdeath
Originally posted by: ggnl
Originally posted by: exdeath
Originally posted by: JS80
whoa wtf!
My thoughts exactly.
So, uh....you want to talk about it?
p.s. Happy b-day OP!
Nah, I'm through with it, just felt like woman bashing to share my sympathy with OP.
And yeah, Happy Birthday. :beer: Don't feel bad about the timing, mine canceled our long in the making wedding Dec 24, 2005 with everything pretty much in place with only less than two months on the clock. Merry Christmas :roll:
I'm going to start only loving my car from now on. She will never cheat on me, and she always loves me in return when some punk comes rolling around sniffing for trouble at the merges and stop lights. All I have to do in return is keep the oil clean and keep her fed with a steady diet of rice and she squeals with delight :evil:
Happiness is being stroked and blown at the same time *snicker*
Wow, bro, it may have been my thread to start, but that was some stuff to put it in perspective. Very sorry to hear about all that. Sounds like you've got your head on straight now. I gotta get there too....everyone says it takes time.
Find something you are passionate about (cars, computers, games, whatever, martial arts, weight lifting, whatever) and indulge yourself in it. Don't even give her a second thought. Shes not the person you wanted to be with, shes somebody else now. She doesn't deserve the time of day from you.
So I take it your username isn't just a catchy name you came up with? lol....
Its probably some really good wisdom you just dropped there brotha....thank you.
Originally posted by: NightDarker
In regards to exdeath... I agree that women should ****** end one relationship before starting another. no idea why they insist on doing such things... but i agree completely.
Originally posted by: exdeath
Originally posted by: NightDarker
In regards to exdeath... I agree that women should ****** end one relationship before starting another. no idea why they insist on doing such things... but i agree completely.
Women are demons. How else do they constantly bleed for 1/4th the year and not die? You only see that kind of thing in anime!
Originally posted by: topslop1
Here's the deal man: Men are logical. Women are emotional.
You figure out the rest. Basically, at least in my experiences, I haven't found stability in a female, and especially watch out if they are into partying/drinking. Now these are younger girls (18-20) but even still.
I miss my girlfriend of a year and a half immensely - she just went to europe on a school trip, effed some guy, came back and told me it was all over. She just shut down the emotion of a year and a half in less than 10 days. She just bottled it up somewhere, and then killed it. Unbelievable. And not to mention, two weeks later she's starting some deep emotional relationship with someone. I can't begin to imagine. So women have freaking misfires, like total meltdowns and for whatever reason will shut down or move away or just bottle up and leave.
So my advice? Don't take it too seriously, and try not to fall for it. I'm no longer a hopeless romantic and it will take ALOT of convincing or the absolute special/right girl for me to "fall in love" again. Until then I will be a single man and at least try to enjoy myself. I do miss being and having sex with one girl though, after awhile of chasing randoms you can't help but feel like a man-ho.
Originally posted by: GrantMeThePower
Grr...this girl was like the love of my life. I've had 4 girlfriends of over a year and a half, and when I was with this one i knew I wanted to spend the rest of my days with her. We were immensely happy. And then she went off the deep end and became a born again, with goals of "walking in the footsteps of Jesus" and "living a crazy life that makes no sense but is the path God has for me" and said she needed to rescue people and help the world....on her own.
So she left me, hurt me (by trying to help people, lol), and really...it sucked.
That was six weeks ago. I've still been sad, obviously, still think about her daily and just do what I can to get through the days.
Last night she texted me, "Hey, i've been thinking about you a lot recently and hope you're doing well. feel free to call or text if you want".
B!tch!!!!! What is that text supposed to do, but increase the pain? How do I respond? Eff that. Its just more selfishness and she's feeling guilt on some level and wants to know I'm ok.
If I write back and tell her the truth-I'm sad and hurt and think about her all the time-it does nothing...sounds melodramatic and laced with guilt. If i pretend I'm great...well eff that too, because then she'll think, "awesome. He's great, i'm great, woo hoo!" So i'm just not going to write her back, BUT now i'm stuck with the thoughts that she's restirred up.
PSA: CHICKS SUCK.
Oh yeah, and add on top that my birthday (that obviously we were going to spend together) is next week and I've been sad that I won't have her around, and she does this to get me to realize it even more. Hatred becomes me.
BIRTHDAY UPDATE-
WOw....first of all, I did NOT think this was going to get bumped...especially on my birthday! LOL.....so weird.
And thanks to those of you who remembered it was my birthday. Crazy you noticed...but very appreciated.
So, since this was bumped, I will let you all know something that happened today. As I've mentioned (as have you) its my birthday...and i"ve wondered whether she'd A) remember and b) write or call.
Well, not only did she not call or write (at least so far-which I'm partially thankful for, because i guess I just want her to go away) but i got a friend request invite from her on facebook...and i've already canceled my account months ago. WTF?!?!?!?!?
I mean, really! The freakin odds....not only does she send me that crap in the first place...but on my birthday!!!!
Originally posted by: NightDarker
Yep... I've learned this the hard way. My girlfriend recently decided that going on a break would be a great idea so she can go do stuff with her friends. She said she wasn't happy with our relationship. I have no idea why, it wasn't anything I did wrong... I was always the hopeless romantic type. And all of a sudden she just leaves and says "We need a break."
I dated her for two years and she just wants to throw it away like dish water. Unbelieveable... she doesn't even want to bother working anything out. Not to mention she just keeps saying that I don't understand why she's doing it. Granted, I really don't, but I think its really irrational and a stupid mistake. I told her that we don't have to go on a break to go do stuff with your friends...
It all started a week ago on Friday. She calls me last minute and says she wants to go do something with her friend. I was a little upset because I was looking forward to seeing her all week. So, I told her I would be upset about that and then she freaked out on me. I ended up going down there, and then she said we needed to go on a break.
Give me a #@$%ing break. Its not that hard to manage your time between, work, school, friends, and romantic relationships. The only real reason I could see her doing this if she wants to go date some other guy (like exdeath mentioned). And this way, she can still come back to me if the waters are bad. I'm a little lost in what to do here...
Originally posted by: NightDarker
Yep... I've learned this the hard way. My girlfriend recently decided that going on a break would be a great idea so she can go do stuff with her friends. She said she wasn't happy with our relationship. I have no idea why, it wasn't anything I did wrong... I was always the hopeless romantic type. And all of a sudden she just leaves and says "We need a break."
I dated her for two years and she just wants to throw it away like dish water. Unbelieveable... she doesn't even want to bother working anything out. Not to mention she just keeps saying that I don't understand why she's doing it. Granted, I really don't, but I think its really irrational and a stupid mistake. I told her that we don't have to go on a break to go do stuff with your friends...
It all started a week ago on Friday. She calls me last minute and says she wants to go do something with her friend. I was a little upset because I was looking forward to seeing her all week. So, I told her I would be upset about that and then she freaked out on me. I ended up going down there, and then she said we needed to go on a break.
Give me a #@$%ing break. Its not that hard to manage your time between, work, school, friends, and romantic relationships. The only real reason I could see her doing this if she wants to go date some other guy (like exdeath mentioned). And this way, she can still come back to me if the waters are bad. I'm a little lost in what to do here...
Originally posted by: NightDarker
Originally posted by: topslop1
Here's the deal man: Men are logical. Women are emotional.
You figure out the rest. Basically, at least in my experiences, I haven't found stability in a female, and especially watch out if they are into partying/drinking. Now these are younger girls (18-20) but even still.
I miss my girlfriend of a year and a half immensely - she just went to europe on a school trip, effed some guy, came back and told me it was all over. She just shut down the emotion of a year and a half in less than 10 days. She just bottled it up somewhere, and then killed it. Unbelievable. And not to mention, two weeks later she's starting some deep emotional relationship with someone. I can't begin to imagine. So women have freaking misfires, like total meltdowns and for whatever reason will shut down or move away or just bottle up and leave.
So my advice? Don't take it too seriously, and try not to fall for it. I'm no longer a hopeless romantic and it will take ALOT of convincing or the absolute special/right girl for me to "fall in love" again. Until then I will be a single man and at least try to enjoy myself. I do miss being and having sex with one girl though, after awhile of chasing randoms you can't help but feel like a man-ho.
Yep... I've learned this the hard way. My girlfriend recently decided that going on a break would be a great idea so she can go do stuff with her friends. She said she wasn't happy with our relationship. I have no idea why, it wasn't anything I did wrong... I was always the hopeless romantic type. And all of a sudden she just leaves and says "We need a break."
I dated her for two years and she just wants to throw it away like dish water. Unbelieveable... she doesn't even want to bother working anything out. Not to mention she just keeps saying that I don't understand why she's doing it. Granted, I really don't, but I think its really irrational and a stupid mistake. I told her that we don't have to go on a break to go do stuff with your friends...
It all started a week ago on Friday. She calls me last minute and says she wants to go do something with her friend. I was a little upset because I was looking forward to seeing her all week. So, I told her I would be upset about that and then she freaked out on me. I ended up going down there, and then she said we needed to go on a break.
Give me a #@$%ing break. Its not that hard to manage your time between, work, school, friends, and romantic relationships. The only real reason I could see her doing this if she wants to go date some other guy (like exdeath mentioned). And this way, she can still come back to me if the waters are bad. I'm a little lost in what to do here...
Originally posted by: exdeath
Originally posted by: NightDarker
Originally posted by: topslop1
Here's the deal man: Men are logical. Women are emotional.
You figure out the rest. Basically, at least in my experiences, I haven't found stability in a female, and especially watch out if they are into partying/drinking. Now these are younger girls (18-20) but even still.
I miss my girlfriend of a year and a half immensely - she just went to europe on a school trip, effed some guy, came back and told me it was all over. She just shut down the emotion of a year and a half in less than 10 days. She just bottled it up somewhere, and then killed it. Unbelievable. And not to mention, two weeks later she's starting some deep emotional relationship with someone. I can't begin to imagine. So women have freaking misfires, like total meltdowns and for whatever reason will shut down or move away or just bottle up and leave.
So my advice? Don't take it too seriously, and try not to fall for it. I'm no longer a hopeless romantic and it will take ALOT of convincing or the absolute special/right girl for me to "fall in love" again. Until then I will be a single man and at least try to enjoy myself. I do miss being and having sex with one girl though, after awhile of chasing randoms you can't help but feel like a man-ho.
Yep... I've learned this the hard way. My girlfriend recently decided that going on a break would be a great idea so she can go do stuff with her friends. She said she wasn't happy with our relationship. I have no idea why, it wasn't anything I did wrong... I was always the hopeless romantic type. And all of a sudden she just leaves and says "We need a break."
I dated her for two years and she just wants to throw it away like dish water. Unbelieveable... she doesn't even want to bother working anything out. Not to mention she just keeps saying that I don't understand why she's doing it. Granted, I really don't, but I think its really irrational and a stupid mistake. I told her that we don't have to go on a break to go do stuff with your friends...
It all started a week ago on Friday. She calls me last minute and says she wants to go do something with her friend. I was a little upset because I was looking forward to seeing her all week. So, I told her I would be upset about that and then she freaked out on me. I ended up going down there, and then she said we needed to go on a break.
Give me a #@$%ing break. Its not that hard to manage your time between, work, school, friends, and romantic relationships. The only real reason I could see her doing this if she wants to go date some other guy (like exdeath mentioned). And this way, she can still come back to me if the waters are bad. I'm a little lost in what to do here...
Shes got someone else, definitely. Do not take her back. Do not be her security blanket she can run back to. You deserve better than some whore who is only using you because you are familiar, comfortable and convenient.
Originally posted by: Accipiter22
hopeless romantic? She felt smothered.
Originally posted by: sm8000
Damn, I'm sorry dude. Is that rachelmb?
Originally posted by: PeeluckyDuckee
Hell, at least she text'd you. I'm still looking at my phone making sure the battery's in and connected to the network. My day will never come and have slowly come to accept that.
Anybody got a gun and wanna see if the trigger works? lol. These days, beer is my best friend.
Cheers bro :beer:
Originally posted by: exdeath
My ex finance of 5+ years got a sudden hair up her ass and decided to relive her repressed teenage high school years. Now that she has lost weight and gained self esteem, she's living the life she couldn't before, and turned into a total attention whore and wants to ****** everyone on her buddy list that so much as drools over her.
She canceled the wedding two months before because one of her emotional romantic flings on the internet, whom I didn't previously know about and who disappeared and stopped talking to her without incident a year before, decided to reappear.
She did a good job of hiding it from me for the last year or two and convinced me that she wanted to start over when I did find out. She pulled the BS of trying to make me feel like I was misunderstanding thing, etc. But knowing what I found out the first time, it was easy to see things that I was oblivious to before and I knew she was full of it. I don't know, something about ignoring and blowing me off every weekend while pounding keys on her keyboard non stop till 6am every night... she would use the excuse that I did the same thing not long before, even though I had made a serious effort to be more affectionate even though it was too little too late. In my defense, I was coding or playing video games, plain for her to see, unlike her ways of hiding windows when I'd walk by.
Shes never physically cheated on me, but only because I called her on it and caused her to back out when I suspected thats why she wanted to meet one of her out of state 'friends' (who always happen to be guys) and because they are all out of state. She tries to justify it to herself and to me by saying it wasn't physical, but it makes no difference to me. B1tch.
Shes a lost cause to me, I will not chase a hollow empty shell that looks like the woman I knew and loved. It's not her anymore, I don't care how good she looks on the outside or what memories I may have, I will be forever scared with the ugliness I see inside her NOW.
Shes currently stalking someone in another state who doesn't want anything to do with her. I can see why. I know shes psychotically obsesses with this dude for some reason, but she insists to this day there it's not like that. I don't take kindly to my intelligence being insulted repeatedly in the name of some sneaky womans pride. I'm tired of the deception and manipulation.
All this from the woman I would lay in bed with not three years ago imagining what our kids would be like, etc.
I pulled the plug on that sh1t myself. Shes trying to act friendly and say I'm still her best friend and all that crap, but the things she still gets a rise off doing behind my back hoping its going to hurt me are not things you do to even a friend. So I will play the game she does by acting like we are still friends, then cut her off completely after we move.
Though we still live together and officially broke up barely this year, the last time I really saw the woman I intended to marry was the summer of 2005. For all intents and purposes it was over then. I did my best, but I've had almost two years now to realize that it was over then, etc. She died in 2005. I don't know who this b1tch is I live with now, and the sooner I never have to interact with her again, the better.
Are there any women in the world anymore who just want a husband that will always be loyal and who doesn't think about sex all the time, 2.5 kids and a white picket fence? The worst thing I will do to you is ignore you when a new Metroid, Zelda, or Xenogears related game comes out, but then any woman of mine I would expect to be doing the same, or at least fighting me for the controller, otherwise I'm not interested.
So far every relationship that I thought was perfect, not only myself, but my friends as well, ended with the woman starting another relationship before ending the current one. Grrrr, at least ****** own up and end it first, what is it with women always testing the waters with new guys while sticking close to their current security blankets? And I can't stand women that b1tch that they always find the one guy that doesn't want them for sex... DUH! Go be a ****** hooker or buy a dildo if all you want is d**k 24/7. Some guys believe it or not are capable of thinking with their brain and not their package. You get a guy that is all sex, beer, and football, and complain that hes not romantic or affectionate enough that he just wants meaningless sex. Get a guy who is more affectionate and caring and doesn't care about sex as much, and you complain you don't get boned 8 times a night. Bipolar hoes.
She was my first and only, and she basically wasted 7 years of my life and destroyed any chance of my being happy and careless in a relationship ever again. I was once 100% trusting, oblivious, and childlike in relationships, now I will always be untrusting and skeptical over everything, esp. things that are similar to things she did like staying up on AIM all night and acting nervous when I walk by.
Meh, I have better things to do with my life than worry about stupid horny hormonal psycho women. And I'm not losing sleep over someone so shallow as to cancel a wedding because an old name pops up on a buddy list out of the blue one day.
PS: Don't reply at all, change your number if you have to. Erase her. Cease to exist in her world. And if she did realize what she did and sincerely wishes she could change it back, don't fall for it. As soon as shes content she will do it again, and it will always be easier than the first time. And therein lies the problem. The first time is always the hardest. After that, it becomes easier, even routine and trivial and before long they get so twisted about it that they don't even see why its wrong anymore. Make her live with her choices and let it hurt. Fvck her.