Stupid ex-girlfriends

[Aikouka]

Originally posted by: GrantMeThePower
That's a really good point. Hopefully she does learn how her actions do have an effect on those around her, and especially on those that care about her. As soon as she started "living like christ" she started hurting everyone...myself, her brother, her mother, her friends. She just thinks that those are the sacrifices she has to make to really create change for the poor.

Its really sad.

Buy her a book by Max Weber. I love his line that goes something like, "The poor are necessary; Someone has to clean my streets." She'll love that.

 

[apac]

Originally posted by: GrantMeThePower

Originally posted by: apac
Looks like you've already taken some good steps in moving on. Just because you think about her every day doesn't mean you still want to be with her. Funny how you can love someone and put up with all their sh!t for a while, but in retrospect you realize that some girls are just nuts. Ask yourself - do you truly think it would have worked out in the long run considering who she became (versus who she was when you met)?

Yeah, exactly. I think about her every day and am sad. Just like I said. But really what I'm thinking about and missing is the person she was before. The one I laughed with and loved. I know that that person doesn't really exist right now any longer. I'd just held out hope that she'd learn to find balance in life. I don't have that hope anymore, but the sadness of loss and love still exist.

Yup, been there, done that pretty recently myself. A great way of getting rid of that sadness is feeling good about yourself. Start going to the gym, get a haircut, hang out with friends, go talk to attractive women just for the hell of it. I found that after doing that for a while you'll realize that you've had so much fun on your own that you can shrug off the sadness, cause everything else is going so well.

 

[Kev]

Originally posted by: sao123

Originally posted by: GrantMeThePower
Grr...this girl was like the love of my life. I've had 4 girlfriends of over a year and a half, and when I was with this one i knew I wanted to spend the rest of my days with her. We were immensely happy. And then she went off the deep end and became a born again, with goals of "walking in the footsteps of Jesus" and "living a crazy life that makes no sense but is the path God has for me" and said she needed to rescue people and help the world....on her own.

So she left me, hurt me (by trying to help people, lol), and really...it sucked.

That was six weeks ago. I've still been sad, obviously, still think about her daily and just do what I can to get through the days.

Last night she texted me, "Hey, i've been thinking about you a lot recently and hope you're doing well. feel free to call or text if you want".

B!tch!!!!! What is that text supposed to do, but increase the pain? How do I respond? Eff that. Its just more selfishness and she's feeling guilt on some level and wants to know I'm ok.

If I write back and tell her the truth-I'm sad and hurt and think about her all the time-it does nothing...sounds melodramatic and laced with guilt. If i pretend I'm great...well eff that too, because then she'll think, "awesome. He's great, i'm great, woo hoo!" So i'm just not going to write her back, BUT now i'm stuck with the thoughts that she's restirred up.

PSA: CHICKS SUCK.

Oh yeah, and add on top that my birthday (that obviously we were going to spend together) is next week and I've been sad that I won't have her around, and she does this to get me to realize it even more. Hatred becomes me.

Having a hard time accepting that her chosen career in religous works was more important to her that a dating relationship with you? the path she has chosen makes perfect sense to her...

She isnt feeling guilty and it isnt selfish... you are the one with the unrealistic expectation that she is either your SO or nothing at all.
4 girlfriends in 1.5 years? Your relationships do not last long enough to recieve the level of commitment, you seem to be expecting. You werent engaged.

Originally posted by: GrantMeThePower

LOL...no, i didn't say "oh of course I understand". I told her she was making a big mistake but that she was too young to realize it. I told her that in her quest to help people she's really hurting people and being selfish. I told her that she doesn't have to do these things alone.

But I said, do what you have to do. Just don't expect me to be happy about it and be your friend afterwards.

I can see wht she might want to do this alone without you. You obviously disagree with her choices, and instead of trying to be supportive, you quick to judge, criticize and ultimately ridicule her. You're nothing more than just dead weight. The one being selfish here is you.

Learn some reading comprehension before you jump on the high horse and make a complete ass out of yourself. He said 4 girlfriends OF over a year and a half

 

[jammur21]

Originally posted by: DougK62
IGNORE THE TEXT. DO NOT RESPOND.

BLOCK THE NUMBER TOO

 

[jpeyton]

Originally posted by: thecoolnessrune
I'm a Christian and my girl is a Christian, stable, humble, conservative, and a wonderful woman... I don't have to worry about who she's sleeping with and I can relax knowing all is well. In other words, you can say you hate it, but in the end us Christians have the least of worries with women. Sure, in this world of sluts its hard to find one eventually, even when she claims to be a Christian. But once you have her, we can have a peace you all will never really receive..

Life is good

Your Christian girl loved being the dirty daughter of a minister last night.

 

[thecoolnessrune]

Wow, first time I partially derailed a thread... Interesting...

Though I wasn't making the statement that all Christians are perfect. I most certainly am not and my girl is far from perfect

I suppose one thing to understand about Christians is when I use that term, I only refer to effort-giving, practicing Christians. If you aren't sincere about it and are only following the doctrine to your convenience I don't consider you a Christian, more of an insincere member of a custom-made doctrine.

That right there cuts out most of the cheating, backstabbing Christians. Though I do focus on most because it certainly doesn't remove all. I never meant to cause a flame-fest, merely state a fact to those calling us "Jesus freaks" that in the end we are quite satisfied and, given both sides are practicing, sincere Christians, simply are able to relax and don't have to go through all this crap. Tizall

 

[Canai]

yeah.

 

[xtknight]

Ignore her. Do the same thing she did to you. Fvck that.

Originally posted by: ColdFusion718
The best way is to not give them any attention. Help them experience the feeling of lost for once.

:thumbsup:

Even if for some crazy reason you did want to get back with her, this is probably the best thing to do. So you have nothing at all to lose.

 

[thatguy82]

Originally posted by: bob4432

Originally posted by: DougK62
IGNORE THE TEXT. DO NOT RESPOND.

QFT :thumbsup: :beer:

QQFT

 

[Superrock]

seriously.. pics?

You may have dodged a bullet but who knows we may end up meeting her.

 

[thatguy82]

Originally posted by: apac
Another YAGT had the best advice I've ever heard for dealing with ex's like this. Just text back "thanks". That's it. Tell her nothing of your social life or how she hurt you or blah blah blah. Show her indifference.

that sounds good actually

 

[GrantMeThePower]

Originally posted by: Superrock
seriously.. pics?

You may have dodged a bullet but who knows we may end up meeting her.

You don't need pics to be wary of someone who lives with the homeless and wants to live like jesus. Just run away real quick.

 

[TheFamilyMan]

Originally posted by: Zolty
Seriously grow up, she sounds like she broke up with you for personal reasons, nothing you can do, go find another one and stop getting girlfriends.

Sounds like she grew up and he hasn't. He's pissed because she wants to live her life to a different standard than his and he's pissed about it. Rather than finding out about the changes she's making in her life, he blames them on the fact she's now a "Jesus freak" (somewhat similar to what he wrote in his post). Your disgust/misunderstanding/anomosity towards religion is what the issue is...not an ex-girlfriend raking your nuts across the cheese grater.

 

[RallyMaster]

if you get back together, hit it and quit it. tell her she hurt you when she left and you never want to feel that way again from her. if she apologizes for the crap she put you through and never does that crap again, perhaps you should go back.... :beer:

 

[alien42]

Originally posted by: thecoolnessrune
I'm a Christian and my girl is a Christian, stable, humble, conservative, and a wonderful woman... I don't have to worry about who she's sleeping with and I can relax knowing all is well. In other words, you can say you hate it, but in the end us Christians have the least of worries with women. Sure, in this world of sluts its hard to find one eventually, even when she claims to be a Christian. But once you have her, we can have a peace you all will never really receive..

Life is good

no offense, but is ignorance really that blissful? if you think your SO is not going to cheat because you are both christians, i would suggest getting real. i wont go on a rant because this isnt a religion thread but the concept of adultery exists because of religion and it is safe to say that most cheaters are members of various organized religions.


and to the OP, i feel you man and it sounds like you made the right decision with your response to her.

 

[halik]

Originally posted by: TheFamilyMan

Originally posted by: Zolty
Seriously grow up, she sounds like she broke up with you for personal reasons, nothing you can do, go find another one and stop getting girlfriends.

Sounds like she grew up and he hasn't. He's pissed because she wants to live her life to a different standard than his and he's pissed about it. Rather than finding out about the changes she's making in her life, he blames them on the fact she's now a "Jesus freak" (somewhat similar to what he wrote in his post). Your disgust/misunderstanding/anomosity towards religion is what the issue is...not an ex-girlfriend raking your nuts across the cheese grater.

Read the story about the homeless lady / studio apartment. Sorry but sh!t like that is definition of jebus nutjob.

O/P you're a lot better single- having to put with that kind of senseless BS would get old reealy quick.

 

[GrantMeThePower]

Originally posted by: halik

Originally posted by: TheFamilyMan

Originally posted by: Zolty
Seriously grow up, she sounds like she broke up with you for personal reasons, nothing you can do, go find another one and stop getting girlfriends.

Sounds like she grew up and he hasn't. He's pissed because she wants to live her life to a different standard than his and he's pissed about it. Rather than finding out about the changes she's making in her life, he blames them on the fact she's now a "Jesus freak" (somewhat similar to what he wrote in his post). Your disgust/misunderstanding/anomosity towards religion is what the issue is...not an ex-girlfriend raking your nuts across the cheese grater.

Read the story about the homeless lady / studio apartment. Sorry but sh!t like that is definition of jebus nutjob.

O/P you're a lot better single- having to put with that kind of senseless BS would get old reealy quick.

Thanks, man.

Believe me, I told her that I would love to go on the journey together. That our vacations could be spent doing Habitat for Humanity projects and I researched and found a bunch of volunteering things we could do together. I told her I'd help her write and publish pamphlets for informing people of how they could help. I told her that I was proud of her for what she wanted to do.

But she wanted to take it to an extreme that didn't make sense and that she felt she HAD to do it alone. That is what I was upset about. Personal growth and change is good...but when you have something as good as we had, the relationship and growing TOGETHER should be just as important.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: Kev
Learn some reading comprehension before you jump on the high horse and make a complete ass out of yourself. He said 4 girlfriends OF over a year and a half

QFT! I am not saying the OP is totally right on all this, but before you jump on someone think about it and listen/read first.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: thecoolnessrune
I'm a Christian and my girl is a Christian, stable, humble, conservative, and a wonderful woman... I don't have to worry about who she's sleeping with and I can relax knowing all is well. In other words, you can say you hate it, but in the end us Christians have the least of worries with women. Sure, in this world of sluts its hard to find one eventually, even when she claims to be a Christian. But once you have her, we can have a peace you all will never really receive..

Life is good

All I know is when I was in high school / college the girls going to a religious college were the easier ones to lay. Most of religion is just what 'my parents did' and this is 'what I should do in life'.

I have two christian high schoolers circa 1990ish under my belt. Both of them made the first moves to intercourse.

Even conservative and humble women like sex...if they are not getting it they will find it and be discrete about it usually...sometimes they will brag about it.

All in all, sex has nothing to do with love and building a relationship IMHO.

 

[thecoolnessrune]

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: thecoolnessrune
I'm a Christian and my girl is a Christian, stable, humble, conservative, and a wonderful woman... I don't have to worry about who she's sleeping with and I can relax knowing all is well. In other words, you can say you hate it, but in the end us Christians have the least of worries with women. Sure, in this world of sluts its hard to find one eventually, even when she claims to be a Christian. But once you have her, we can have a peace you all will never really receive..

Life is good

All I know is when I was in high school / college the girls going to a religious college were the easier ones to lay. Most of religion is just what 'my parents did' and this is 'what I should do in life'.

I have two christian high schoolers circa 1990ish under my belt. Both of them made the first moves to intercourse.

Even conservative and humble women like sex...if they are not getting it they will find it and be discrete about it usually...sometimes they will brag about it.

All in all, sex has nothing to do with love and building a relationship IMHO.

I had no idea my post would double as a worthless poster detector... All of you people have failed to regard my second post in which I define a true Christian. Sigh.. ignorance really is bliss I suppose.

As to you, I suppose you believe that sex is looked down on the Bible? In that case I would encourage you to read more. Sex between married couples is encouraged and blessed. Sex isn't a bad thing, its a beautiful thing. It's when its degraded to the level of a recreational activity between two random people that it becomes disgraceful.

And yes, sex, in the emotional side, is the ultimate expression of love and a building relationship.. IMHO

 

[alkemyst]

I am not saying it's not your measure for a relationship...however many people look at sex as nothing to build a relationship on as it's terribly easy to get.

In my current marriage, my sex life is less than in the past, however; it's more fullfilling. She likes it, but just not everyday or everyweek... I like that I have help in my life.

If I had unlimited cash flow, I can't honestly say I would still choose her for sex.

To me sex is the least thing you get out of love.

 

[mercanucaribe]

Text back "God was created humans in order to give supernatural meaning to their drudgery filled lives and ease the fear of death"

 

[indamixx99]

So has she responded back?

 

[AbAbber2k]

Originally posted by: fLum0x
tell her that she made you ghey

Maybe then "Jesus" will tell her she needs to "fix" him.

 

[Luthien]

Sorry man but the Matrix has her err i mean the cult of religion does. Move on she is now damaged goods. Message her back and tell her you don't want her to contact you anymore, end.

They should have prenups that state that if either partner gets religions the other partner gets everything when they divorce.