- Dec 1, 2000
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Everyone seems to have had this problem at least once.
I've been friends with this particular girl for about a year. We see each other at a few parties, talk on ICQ, at school, etc. I really admire her - she's attractive, smart, easy going. But the keyword is FRIENDS. I'm so worried that she will realize I have a crush on her that sometimes I avoid her so she doesn't begin to wonder. At the same time, my secret fantasy is that she thinks the same way of me. But from her perspective, it probably looks like I'm avoiding her because I don't like her!
To further complicate the situation, I've become her personal tutor in math and physics. This makes it extremely difficult to determine what her true feelings are.
Last year, I had almost this exact situation with another girl. At the end of the year, after the Prom, a friend of hers told me she wanted to go with me, but was too afraid to ask because she thought I would say no. Meanwhile, I had been wondering the whole year whether or not she liked me, or if we simply spent a lot of time together because she needed help (and she did.) But I can't assume that this new relationship is the same way at all - I'd like to believe it is, but I have no way to tell
Now, I know exactly what the first response to this message is going to be. It's going to be "dude, ask her out." Well, for one, I'm fairly shy. It just isn't going to happen like that. For another, I don't want to put her in a difficult situation. Lastly, if she did say no, EVERYONE would find out. Things between us would become awkward and that would ruin what time I do spend with her. Sigh.
I've been friends with this particular girl for about a year. We see each other at a few parties, talk on ICQ, at school, etc. I really admire her - she's attractive, smart, easy going. But the keyword is FRIENDS. I'm so worried that she will realize I have a crush on her that sometimes I avoid her so she doesn't begin to wonder. At the same time, my secret fantasy is that she thinks the same way of me. But from her perspective, it probably looks like I'm avoiding her because I don't like her!
To further complicate the situation, I've become her personal tutor in math and physics. This makes it extremely difficult to determine what her true feelings are.
Last year, I had almost this exact situation with another girl. At the end of the year, after the Prom, a friend of hers told me she wanted to go with me, but was too afraid to ask because she thought I would say no. Meanwhile, I had been wondering the whole year whether or not she liked me, or if we simply spent a lot of time together because she needed help (and she did.) But I can't assume that this new relationship is the same way at all - I'd like to believe it is, but I have no way to tell
Now, I know exactly what the first response to this message is going to be. It's going to be "dude, ask her out." Well, for one, I'm fairly shy. It just isn't going to happen like that. For another, I don't want to put her in a difficult situation. Lastly, if she did say no, EVERYONE would find out. Things between us would become awkward and that would ruin what time I do spend with her. Sigh.