I think you guys are misunderstanding. How it works in our culture is we get engaged. The method is my parents go to her parents house along with me.. they talk and me and her go into her bedroom for sometime and talk. Than if we are interested in proceeding my parents ask for her hand for me and if they say yes we are then engaged. I see this more like permission to date your daughter since that?s what it really is.
Then we will be allowed to go out together as long as we wish. . Usually a year then we set the wedding date. I'm kind of going a different route. If things work out then I?ll tell my parents who i meet and we will go over her house and do the whole thing. So its not like I?m setting the wedding date after the 3rd visit. During the engagement process you can back out at anytime. It happens all the time.
Then we will be allowed to go out together as long as we wish. . Usually a year then we set the wedding date. I'm kind of going a different route. If things work out then I?ll tell my parents who i meet and we will go over her house and do the whole thing. So its not like I?m setting the wedding date after the 3rd visit. During the engagement process you can back out at anytime. It happens all the time.