Throwing in the towel on dating

[nd]

I'm going to have to disagree with the others here. I feel for this guy, and truly understand what's going through his head. He doesn't need someone to tell him to keep his chin up and not to give up. If his experiences are anything like mine, that will only lead to more dissapointments. It's extremely frustrating not having a ray of hope.

My advice actually is to give up for the time being. It's not worth worrying about, and you'll feel slightly happier for the most part. Eventually you'll be willing to try again on your own when you feel like it, or something will just happen "accidently". I'm just saying you shouldn't blindly push yourself to seek out women right now.

It's good to have perseverence and not give up to a certain extent, but it's also STUPID to NOT know when to quit.

 

[Lvis]

<< Every girl that I've ever found attractive has been basically unavailable to me. There are no exceptions to this. >>



Perhaps you need to lower your standards? Less attractive women treat you better anyway.

 

[ItsStillUS]

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<< Every girl that I've ever found attractive has been basically unavailable to me. There are no exceptions to this. >>



Perhaps you need to lower your standards? Less attractive women treat you better anyway. >>



Too bad women can't feel the same way about some of us guys!

 

[m2kewl]

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<< To really show your commitment to celibacy, you should hack off your penis like that Phillipino guy. >>

Pass me the knife. >>


LOL

 

[rh71]

<< << To really show your commitment to celibacy, you should hack off your penis like that Phillipino guy. >>

Pass me the knife. >> >>



Don't do it... the medical bills will suck and then you'll have more to be depressed about.

I know someone like you though... all depressed about girls and life in general. He has many things going for him, but he says he's a "realist" and always says he gives up on this and that... which frustrates me to no end. How can you go on with anything and be even slightly happy if you don't continue to try? Would you rather be in this sad state of mind for the rest of your life? I agree with nd who said that eventually you'll start trying again... and it may happen accidentally. My point is to just stop feeding yourselves the negative thoughts of quitting this and that...

 

[Unsickle]

Funny, I'm about to get back into the dating scene after having my heart ripped out a year ago. Wish me luck!

 

[ttn1]

My advice is to take some time off and just don't ask anyone out. It a huge relief to not feel pressure to date.

I too had my heart ripped from my chest. The sunday before finals week my senior year in college. The day before I was brought in for questioning
on a vandalism charge. Got to love the guilty until proven innocent thing. That was a pretty crappy time in my life.

I took a year off from dating. Basically just hung out with friends and had a good time. By then I had lots of girls who were friends.
Then I could be much more picky about who I asked out. It all worked out for the best. I have been with my fiance for 7 years.

Edit: By the way, it only takes one girl to change everything. The odds are in your favor, trust me.

 

[tm37]

number one rule of life->

If you don't like yourslef than noone else will.

At some point you will find someone. Don't be nervous or scared women smell that like sharks in the ocean.

How old are you?

Just don't worry about dating trust me if you are hitting on every chick in site women pick up on this and think you are desperate! I used to just hang with my freinds and also made female freinds. Interact with others, Hey some women aren't atracted to Clooney!:Q You need to find out you strong points and build thoose up. I have always been a firm believer in confidence breeds conifidence. I am by no means a hottie but I dated my fair share and got married to a pretty hot lady. Keep every thing in perspective, there is alot of thing worse than not getting any nookie! (see above with knife)

 

[kami]

Yeah stop searching. If you stop looking to hard things eventually will fall into place.

 

[Geekbabe]

<< but seriously, if i can get a bf. u all can get GF's. if u knew me u'd know it's true!


Ha, are you kidding? All a girl has to do is show a little nipple and she can pick up a guy. >>



yeah,if she wants to "pick up a guy" finding something more solid with a MAN is a different story

 

[cherrytwist]

<< Throwing in the towel on dating. >>



If you're giving up on dating, you may want to keep that towel handy.

 

[Geekbabe]

<< I give up. I don't know what else to say. There is no one out there for me. I have to face up to this sooner or later. So make that now.

Every girl that I've ever found attractive has been basically unavailable to me. There are no exceptions to this.

This weekend was the final straw. I asked this girl out. She basically said no and stapled on some BS about how her life is too complicated. I hate it when people try to pad sh*t in a pathetic attempt to make things something it's not. They might as well go try and coat bullets with neosporin ointment.

I've always had this small calling to just give up everything and join a monestary. I think I'll start considering that more seriously now. >>



She might very well be in the middle of a messy breakup or truly have things going on that leave her little time or emotional energy to deal with starting a new relationship.She might well have been being honest with you.At least she didn't tease you and lead you on with the infamous "maybe"

Just because we find somebody attractive doesn't mean they need to drop everything to jump our bones. You will find somebody,in fact hopefully before they put you in the groud you'll have found several somebody's .You'll meet them when you least expect and probably in places that you'd never dreamed of meeting women in.

Go about your life,do the things you love and that really interest you... the relationships will find you trust me

 

[SpecialEd]

in the words of the ladies man....


lower your standards....

at least as a confidence booster until you can get back on your feet...

 

[BoberFett]

Don't listen to any of the happy-go-lucky wellwishers. Forget about women. If you're really smart, you'll not only forget them but your'll despise them. Listen to me son, you'll thank me for it. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but soon, and for the rest of your life.

 

[Geekbabe]

<< Don't listen to any of the happy-go-lucky wellwishers. Forget about women. If you're really smart, you'll not only forget them but your'll despise them. Listen to me son, you'll thank me for it. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but soon, and for the rest of your life. >>




And get to stew in a brand of bitterness that curdles your soul ?

Lemmie tell you,I've been married and divorced twice, had relationships end,sometimes my fault,sometimes theirs,sometimes both of us but you know what. I still think men are the greatest gift God put on the planet
I took something of value away from each relationship.I also consider myself blessed to know so many really
great guys,it brightens life up considerably

 

[FLandivar]

I find it good that you decided to forget about girls. Now start going out with your friends and enjoying being single. And when the right girl comes you will have the mind clear enough to see her. When you stop looking for girls they start coming.

 

[BoberFett]

<< And get to stew in a brand of bitterness that curdles your soul ? >>

Bitterness is a form of happiness in it's own right. Women will come and go, but your bitterness is a friend that never leaves you.

 

[Geekbabe]

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<< And get to stew in a brand of bitterness that curdles your soul ? >>

Bitterness is a form of happiness in it's own right. Women will come and go, but your bitterness is a friend that never leaves you. >>




I don't know how old you are but I'll tell you this bitterness makes for a mighty cold blanket on chilly winter nights and it'll drive away a lot of folks who could bring some good things into your life.

 

[BoberFett]

<< I don't know how old you are >>

Old enough.

<< but I'll tell you this bitterness makes for a mighty cold blanket on chilly winter nights >>

Bitterness isn't much for cuddling but it sure is dependable and trustworthy, as opposed to women.

<< and it'll drive away a lot of folks who could bring some good things into your life. >>

"Good things" is such a relative term.

 

[Perknose]

Outer Square -- I know this is like pooh-poohing food to a starving man, but, please, just try to ride this through. Anyone relentless enough or willing to put aside all standards and ethics can eventually "find a girl", but finding your mate is in God's hands, or fate (don't want to start a theological debate here, please).

Desperation, and the jarring, off kilter intensity that it brings, is it's own cul-de-sac of insured lonlieness. The old cliches apply, "be yourself", "act natural", but you can't and won't if you carry a myopic preoccuaption with ending your own lonlieness RIGHT THIS MINUTE WITH YOU, UMMM, MITZIE! It's like you have a flashing red neon sign saying "HORNY" on your forehead. You might as well be sitting there pantsless, drooling all over your oozing and prominent chancre sore.

Think about those folks whom you are attracted to. It's generally people who are happy within themselves, folks who are following their own star. Go follow your own, and, somewhere, sometime in the course of doing so, grace will happen.

 

I give up on dating at least once a week. Come the weekend I am right back at it. No offense to our female members, but girls are freaks (I say that in the nicest way possible). It is impossible for a man to totally know what that are thinking and what they want.

Anyway, I would rather be on a bad date than sitting at home watching pr0n

 

[skace]

That's right, throw in your towel... MORE FOR ME!

 

[yoda291]

I gave up on women(at least for now) a while ago. My only mistress consists of various conductive metals, silicon and aluminum. it's great, she's always there to comfort me, I can bask in her cool glow all day long, she doesn't mind if I'm unfaithful and log onto another one. Finall, if I ever want a 3-way, all I need is some cat5 patch cable and a hub. In fact, just last night I was banging away at her relentlessly and together, we made a beautiful little java applet.

 

[ChrichtonsGirl]

<< Bitterness is a form of happiness in it's own right. Women will come and go, but your bitterness is a friend that never leaves you. >>



Bober, can I take that for my sig line? Well, I'd probably leave out the women part, but otherwise, I actually sort of agree with the sentiment. I found out from my son that my ex-husband moved his girlfriend in with him and that she's "really pretty and fun and kinda young." So I feel ugly, boring and old, of course. Bitterness is my companion today.

OuterSquare, mope around for a while if it helps you feel better. There's nothing wrong with taking a dip in the pool of self-pity once in a while. There'll come a time when you want to hop out though, so you'll need that towel. Don't give up on women altogether, but there's nothing wrong with stopping the quest for the perfect mate. Chances are pretty good that when you really aren't looking for a woman, one will find you. And if not.....well, then you've spent some time on your own and can figure out how to live by yourself.

I'm just here spreadin' the joy today.

 

[StormRider]

Welcome to the club!