Throwing in the towel on dating

[Looney]

here is a girl generalization for you: chicks date the lamest guys and then bitch to the nicest guys about how lame the ones they date are.

Nice one skace! And all too true.

 

[mithrandir2001]

<< chicks date the lamest guys and then bitch to the nicest guys about how lame the ones they date are. >>


Sad but often true.

 

[kt]

<< being single sucks ass.

and through the events of the past 2 months i have lost all respect for guys.
all you do is think with your penis.
you have no feelings and dont care about anyones feelings.


how is that for bitter?

*kat. <-- so jaded on love, she doesnt even believe in it anymore. >>


*sigh* another one of those girls who dates jerks and come taking it out on us nice guys. fyi, you can't lose what you don't have.

 

[AreaCode707]

Hey, I don't have time to read this all the way through (in the college comp lab) but my $.02... Go ahead and give it up, learn to just be happy being yourself, hanging out with your friends (male and female) and don't worry about getting a gf. Guys are more attractive to girls when their identity doesn't hinge on having another person around. When you're completely comfortable and happy being single, I think you have a better chance of attracting a girl who's interested in you for you. So enjoy your time off, and look forward to finding the better girl later on.

 

[BigJohnKC]

I gave up a little while ago. I just live my life and don't specifically go out looking for someone to date, and nothing happens. There is something to be said for just being happy with yourself, but there is also the possibility that maybe someone won't just fall into your lap. It hasn't happened for me. But I'm fine with that. I enjoy being single - I get to spend a lot more time playing video games and practicing my guitar, and more time devoted to my church's praise band, which I love being a part of. Being in a relationship might just be overrated as far as I'm concerned. Keep it real, man, and enjoy your singlehood while it lasts

 

[OS]

crap, this thread completely exploded.

Man, some of you guys are talking to me like I'm suicidal, hehe. Sorry for the black humor. It's rather annoying, but I refuse to settle and I'm certainly not losing sleep over it. I guess I can sum up the situation as this; What I look for in a girl is someone who would make me forget that other girls exist.

I don't think it's an unrealistic expectation, but unfortunately most girls don't do that for me. Sure there are girls that flirt with me, but I'm not really interested in them and I don't think it's right to take someone out and later tell them, oh, I'm not really interested in you, I just went out with you to pass the time. Somehow I don't think that would go over well.

So that leads me to this current situation. I guess I should just learn to accept it and look forward to a lifetime of either no dating or dating uninteresting women. Either way, sucks to be me, hahaha.

 

[tm37]

<< crap, this thread completely exploded.

Man, some of you guys are talking to me like I'm suicidal, hehe. Sorry for the black humor. It's rather annoying, but I refuse to settle and I'm certainly not losing sleep over it. I guess I can sum up the situation as this; What I look for in a girl is someone who would make me forget that other girls exist.

I don't think it's an unrealistic expectation, but unfortunately most girls don't do that for me. Sure there are girls that flirt with me, but I'm not really interested in them and I don't think it's right to take someone out and later tell them, oh, I'm not really interested in you, I just went out with you to pass the time. Somehow I don't think that would go over well.

So that leads me to this current situation. I guess I should just learn to accept it and look forward to a lifetime of either no dating or dating uninteresting women. Either way, sucks to be me, hahaha. >>




If you are looking for a woman that makes you feel like no other exists you will never find her. I have been married 6 years, I love my wife without fault, I have never strayed, and I don't ever see myself ever leaving her side. BUT I do look, do flirt and do know there are other woman out there. I see them we talk I even get hit on occasionally. The key is finding someone that you would never want to hurt, that you never want to leave. You don't know this right away, I went to bed with some pretty hot women that I really had no desire to converse with much less spend time with, I enjoy the time my wiofe and spend together. I know there are others out there and I really like what I have. I was dead set against marrage, It just wasn't my thing, Hell I was lucky not to be cheating on my current GF withsomeone else. But for some reason my wife was the one, and thank god she was persistant because I HAD NO CLUE!!

If you go out looking for a soul mate you wil never find them, If you go out looking for a friend your soul mate will find you. Trust me it is the little things that irritate me that make my wife the woman of my dreams!

 

[eakers]

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<< being single sucks ass.

and through the events of the past 2 months i have lost all respect for guys.
all you do is think with your penis.
you have no feelings and dont care about anyones feelings.


how is that for bitter?

*kat. <-- so jaded on love, she doesnt even believe in it anymore. >>


*sigh* another one of those girls who dates jerks and come taking it out on us nice guys. fyi, you can't lose what you don't have. >>


no, i dont date jerks, i had a 3 year relationship with the nicest guy ever.
just lately all the boys that ask me out only want booty (and they make it clear its all they want) and/or have girlfriends.

in any case, boys are replaceable right?

dime a dozen is what they tell me.

*kat. <-- likes friend dates, no expectations and all fun.

 

[Red Dawn]

<< I always knew there was something deeper to you than the militant liberal >>

Yeah well it was all a lie. I hate Simon and Garfunkel, relationships are just to see how much pain you can endure and if I said it once I've said it at least twice, I'm not a Liberal. Militant yes,Liberal no.

Man I hope that repairs the damage I did to my image with that one post!! It's not easy being a dick.



<< As REO Speedwagon said, "Keep pushin' on", it'll get better. >>

REO Speedwagon?!?!?! Jeez, the 70's version of the Back Door Boys. Never ever quote REO Speedwagon again if you wish to be taken seriously.

As Frank Zappa said "Dinah Mo finally did give in but I told her all she really needed was some discipline"




<< in any case, boys are replaceable right? >>

You bet and rechargable batteries are dropping in price too!

 

[unxpurg8d]

CG, hang in there, woman. There's a guy somewhere that'll ADORE you and treasure you, you twisted little creature. Heck, if I can get married five or six times there's GOTTA be more men out there for you. (I didn't use 'em ALL up, honest!!!!!)


Seriously, all the talk of "lowering your standards". Geeeeeeeeeeez guys, ever think that that "boring" quiet plain chick you keep overlooking in your search for your very own live Barbie probably has time to read, learn about the world, have interests and hobbies other than herself, and be able to be a partner for you instead of a decoration?

 

[OS]

<< The key is finding someone that you would never want to hurt, that you never want to leave. >>



Yeah I think you said what I meant. I don't mean literally giving up even looking at/thinking about other girls because obviously that's unrealistic. But I'd like her to be able to make me happy enough to not chase after other girls. I do meet girls like this, but they are usually taken.


It's good to hear though that atleast you have a satisfying personal relationship with your wife, congrats. It seriously feels like a minefield out there, hahaha

 

[cyclistca]

Well this is just to funny. I'm in my mid thirties and have not been in a serious relationship for over three years. Yes I've dated since then but nothing that ever went more then a few dates. I was pretty ok with this for the most part until I went to the office Christmas party last Friday. I swear that I was the only single guy there. I felt so alone the whole night and spent the weekend feeling sorry for myself. I even began thinking of posting a thread similar to this one. After reading all this I feel so much better. Glad to see that I'm not the only one down on myself.

Thanks for all the great info guys.

I bet that a lot has to do with the time of year. Those short day light hours will do it to you every time.

Oh for all you guys that would rather curl up with your computers. Umm I'll take a girl any day over a computer.

 

[gopunk]

<< being single sucks ass.

and through the events of the past 2 months i have lost all respect for guys.
all you do is think with your penis.
you have no feelings and dont care about anyones feelings.


how is that for bitter?

*kat. <-- so jaded on love, she doesnt even believe in it anymore. >>



i'm not going to talk about girls and jerks and whatnot, but am i the only one who finds it somewhat disconcerting that both genders always have these problems with the other gender? guys say they can't find a good girl, girls say they can't find a good guy, it's pretty sick if you ask me.

 

[yoda291]

<< Oh for all you guys that would rather curl up with your computers. Umm I'll take a girl any day over a computer. >>



Even a shiny, sleek new Athlon MP system with scsi?

by the way, I do not think with my penis. if I did, I'd be banging anything with a heartbeat

 

[Migroo]

<< ladies have been known to approach the guys. >>



omg! Is it true?! FINALLY!

 

[gohan]

After i broke up with my ex i threw in the towel for a couple of months. Of course that couple of months turned into a year. On the bright side by not dating i save around 400 a month.

1.5 years later women are coming on to me but i've been out of the game for awhile so i'm totally lost

 

[amnesiac]

<< and through the events of the past 2 months i have lost all respect for guys.
all you do is think with your penis.
you have no feelings and dont care about anyones feelings. >>



Not all of us. I don't consider sex with anyone unless I see potential for a relationship leading up to it first.
But yes, I know what you mean seeing as how I'm in a fraternity.



<< Seriously, all the talk of "lowering your standards". Geeeeeeeeeeez guys, ever think that that "boring" quiet plain chick you keep overlooking in your search for your very own live Barbie probably has time to read, learn about the world, have interests and hobbies other than herself, and be able to be a partner for you instead of a decoration? >>



Oooh, it would be so nice and refreshing to meet a "'boring' quiet plain chick". Everyone I know has way too much drama in their lives. I feel like I'm stuck in a goddamn soap opera sometimes.

 

[Jerboy]

<< I give up. I don't know what else to say. There is no one out there for me. I have to face up to this sooner or later. So make that now.

Every girl that I've ever found attractive has been basically unavailable to me. There are no exceptions to this.

This weekend was the final straw. I asked this girl out. She basically said no and stapled on some BS about how her life is too complicated. I hate it when people try to pad sh*t in a pathetic attempt to make things something it's not. They might as well go try and coat bullets with neosporin ointment.

I've always had this small calling to just give up everything and join a monestary. I think I'll start considering that more seriously now. >>




Well are you a cute guy?

Girls do look whether a guy is cute or not.

 

[Bluga]

<< maybe we should start an AT monestary... >>

 

[lepper boy]

Hang in there guy... After I developed the same attitude I hooked it up with my wife. we dated for 1 month got engaged and married 5 months later... we are having our 2nd yr anniversary tomorrow.........

 

[stev0]

<< chicks date the lamest guys and then bitch to the nicest guys about how lame the ones they date are. >>



I've noticed this at my school, and maybe it just happens here, but you always see some of the nicest girls, pretty, smart, all that good stuff, and they are dating some looser football star 'bret', who can't read or write, but just because he plays football it makes him cool. And I always hear about how mean they are when they get drunk or high, but they are cool so the really nice girls, that derserve somebetter, just stay with them.

I too agree, I am throwing in the towel, atleast untill I get to college.

stev0 <- sexually fustrated.

 

[OS]

<< Well are you a cute guy?

Girls do look whether a guy is cute or not. >>




I'm not really an objective judge of that. So we'll work backwards and say that if this situation is any example, I must be short, hideous and stupid. :Q

 

[ViperMagic]

Viper's plan (not how he started dating with Aubrey, but its worked in the past!):

Walk around, and every attractive girl you see, ask her out!

 

[slpaulson]

The best girl will come when you aren't even looking. Mark my words...

 

[Grunt03]

Hey here is a thought, just lower your standards, go fo rthe big ones they need love too.

Take a trip to the Philippines, your can buy all th elove you want for a couple of dollars.....