What did you decide? The daycare's the big sticking point and, ok, I partly wouldn't mind just taking care of the kiddos for a month or two, bonding and all that gushy stuff
My kids are pretty spaced out age wise. My youngest was 2 at the time and my oldest was 6. My wife was also working crazy jacked up hours that varied wildly by the week.
We ended up moving to another state where she could get a more consistent schedule (no more 2nd shifts, less weekends, and pretty static day schedule). It just didn't make sense for me to quit work because of the age spacing. My daughter only needs an hour or two of after care but my younger one is in full time daycare. With our work discount his daycare is around $600 a month plus they feed him breakfast in the morning which is handy.
My employer also lets me use my sick time for the kids which was a big change to what I was used to. So I'm not burning PTO time on sick days for them. Which is great.
The math just wasn't there for us. I just brought in too much income from my job to make it a "no brainer" to stay home. Plus retirement benefits and some significant college savings for working where I do. Decided to stay employed.
I thought about that as well, the balance between incompetent enough to get laid off and incompetent enough to get fired is slim
Anyway, my friend knew exactly what they were trying to do. They wanted to get rid of him but needed a ton of work done first, so they called him in and said "You need to do x, y, and z by this date, or you're fired and we'll give you only 3 days per year of severance. If you just want to quit now, we'll give you 5 days per year." The manager thought there would be no way he'd leave since my friend had been with the company for years and knew my friend would bust his ass to get everything done and then they'd can him for another reason. My friend told them to fuck off, quit, and got his 5 days of severance and the new manager's jaw hit the floor. They were completely screwed.
Yep, sounds near identical. He hasn't asked for logins yet so I can bluff him for a bit, but it will just feel so good to tell him to fuck off
You could do what another friend did. He went into the office early, packed his stuff, left, and then emailed his resignation.
One thing to keep in mind is that if you are ready and willing to be fired, then you have all the power here. If the COO makes unreasonable demands or asks you to work crazy hours, you simply say, "No." If he fires you, then you can get unemployment.
Personally I would start looking for a new job and take a sick day if you need to for interviewing. Don't take any crap from them and if they fire you, oh well, good riddance.
Wow that sounds totally unreasonable, must be really stressful. I would get another job asap. "I don't care"??? Holy shit, DIAF. I know it's not necessarily their responsibility as a corporate entity to give a shit about everyone's personal lives, but not being a total fucking dickhead goes a long way towards employee morale and churn.
I've never experienced that kind of shit at work, and I thought I had worked at some not so amazing places. Find a new job. Given your circumstances, try to do that while you're still getting a pay check.
Yeah, I was close to punching him when he showed absolutely no regard for my personal life (I offered to come in as early as possible, but I can't make daycare open earlier) when other coworkers have every friday off (err "work from home") to take care of their kids. I wasn't even asking for a concession, just stating that I simply did not have the lead time to make proper arrangements. He's a massive brat
Yeah, I was close to punching him when he showed absolutely no regard for my personal life (I offered to come in as early as possible, but I can't make daycare open earlier) when other coworkers have every friday off (err "work from home") to take care of their kids. I wasn't even asking for a concession, just stating that I simply did not have the lead time to make proper arrangements. He's a massive brat
Agree with you, I'm not going to storm out unless push truly comes to shove. But I don't think NY is the same as most places - I'm fairly certain that unemployment is only for lack of work/lay off and not getting fired.
If/when you find another job, I wouldn't give 2 weeks notice. This guy sounds like a real asshat. I would just quit....no notice whatsoever. It may be a burned bridge, but it sounds like you never want to cross it again anyways.
Good point. After a little Googling I found that you get unemployment unless you are fired for misconduct or a criminal act.
To quit my job or not...
It's been a very stressful few months at my job and I'm pretty much at the end of my rope, but being a dad 2 times over's confusing my decision. I'm the IT and web manager for a small non-profit and there's an obvious pattern going on - our COO becomes a total dick to his target by belligerently yelling at them in the hallways, writing very unfair emails, and just being a dick until they either quit on their own or they're eventually laid off. He did this to my now departed boss, her equal in another department, and at least 3 other people in the past 6 months.
Now I report under him and he stacked on 4 pretty big projects in a 2 months period (migrate to exchange in the cloud, totally replace our still working file server, upgrade every workstation, and replacing our conference room projectors with HD monitors).. Now, I'm not complaining about the workload but it's highly suspicious, especially since 2 of these projects should be quarterly goals, not monthly.
Last week, he demanded that I be at work the day after Labor Day an hour early. When my concern was that it would be impossible, (especially under such short notice) because I had to drop my children off at daycare and I live over an hour away, his retort was "I don't care." When I then told him that my wife needed to be at work (as a teacher for autistic children) for her first day of her new school year that day he again replied, "I don't care, it's not my problem. " He then implied that my work life should hold a equal or higher importance to my family life, which is unacceptable to me.
Now, after less than a week after completing a goal my predecessor slept on for 6 years, he's hounding me non-stop about the remainder of my tasks... I bet I'll be fired right after completing those .. Today I have an ominous meeting where he demanded firm timelines on everything remaining.... I'm thinking of just walking. It'll be hard without unemployment but.. Hm.. My rent was recently slashed so I think this is an opportunity to spent a few weeks with my 5 month old then hussle until I find a job that doesn't necessarily pay more but makes me a happier person.
Convince me that I'm being rash.
He then implied that my work life should hold a equal or higher importance to my family life, which is unacceptable to me.
find a new job.
are you asian too? we're very protective of our families, aren't we? I've learned to love those instincts Yeah, it took quite a lot of self control to not flip out on him. I almost
I'm not asian. Very caucasian. It's just who we are
That being said, I work my ass off 40-60 hours/week(like you, sounds like you more though!), and expect the company to appreciate what I do...not turn around and demand more.
At the end of the day, when the times are tough, etc...who's really there for you. That's what matters. It's very obvious that your boss lacks comprehension of other's situations.