Told off this girl today.. And it felt ohhh so good.

[Jmmsbnd007]

Originally posted by: tec699
You guys weren't there so you really don't know what happened. I'm telling you what happened but you had to be there because she was Fu**IN NASTY to me! So was trying to belittle me and I said to myself enough is enough. Maybe I could have handled it better, but guess what... She had it coming.

Good. I hate stupid morons. The local highschool is full of idiots in basic math.

 

[LOLyourFace]

Originally posted by: BunLengthHotDog
Stooping down to the "hick 17 year old level" and bragging about it? Sorry, but this deserves very little props...your about to graduate with a degree, and your telling teenage moms off?

Even mentioning how much money DADDY makes!!! Pathetic, looks like she was right.

took the words right out of my mouth...

 

[LarryS]

Bump for Rowan.. 5 mins from me.

 

[NogginBoink]

Originally posted by: Dezign
You were both wrong. Her for being an immature little brat, you for thinking that the fact you: "have a $2,000 computer.. I'm in a University and I'll be graduating soon, my dad makes over $100,000, I drive a new car, my sister works for Harvard, and on and on..." makes you a better person than her.

I know some very successful, very intelligent, very "non-loserish" single mothers. None are 16-17, but still. I think you would have been the better and bigger person by keeping your mouth shut, or going about the situation differently.

Two wrongs don't make a right.

I certainly hope no one in the school's administration heard that. Your expulsion from the school over something as petty as that could have ended your aspirations to get a degree and a job in your chosen field.

What you did was very, very stupid and very, very immature.

 

[NogginBoink]

Originally posted by: tec699
You guys weren't there so you really don't know what happened. I'm telling you what happened but you had to be there because she was Fu**IN NASTY to me! So was trying to belittle me and I said to myself enough is enough. Maybe I could have handled it better, but guess what... She had it coming.

No, she didn't. Not from you anyway.

Your attitude is going to find you jobless if you don't change it pronto. Teenagers can be nasty. You're going to deal with many of them in your career. Get used to it, and learn to deal with it.

 

[BruinEd03]

Originally posted by: NogginBoink

Originally posted by: tec699
You guys weren't there so you really don't know what happened. I'm telling you what happened but you had to be there because she was Fu**IN NASTY to me! So was trying to belittle me and I said to myself enough is enough. Maybe I could have handled it better, but guess what... She had it coming.

No, she didn't. Not from you anyway.

Your attitude is going to find you jobless if you don't change it pronto. Teenagers can be nasty. You're going to deal with many of them in your career. Get used to it, and learn to deal with it.

it's people like you that shape the teenagers like you. If she was out of line, way out of line, then she needs to learn some respect. IMO the OP had every right to do/say what he said. I applaud him for it.

-Ed

 

[jjones]

Let me see here if I can sum this up.
On the one hand, you get called a loser by a loser.
Second, you defend yourself by telling her how much better you are than her.
Ending this confrontation, you post about it to your 10,000 closest internet friends.
Really hard to tell which one is the loser here.

 

[Aquaman]

Originally posted by: isekii
hahah Tec is from jersey

south jersey to be exact

yea there are real a-holes in jersey but she deserved it lol

i wonder what she was thinking after you walked away


hahaha

[17 year old ] Damn......... I wanna hook up with that guy because he has a $2000 computer

Cheers,
Aquaman

 

[NogginBoink]

Originally posted by: RabidMongoose
Anyways, I bet that if he said that he didn't tell her off and just walked away while she's saying how much of a loser he is, a lot of people would be saying that he needed to 'grow some balls'.

Anyone who would claim "you need to grow some balls" in that case wouldn't have a clue about working in the professional world.

That thirty second tirade could easily (and rightfully) caused tec to lose his privileges at the school, thus meaning he wouldn't fulfill his degree requirements. It would make it harder for him to find a position in another school to finish his degree, and would have at least cost him another semester.

If he'd done it as a teacher and not a student, he could have lost his job. What would you do if you were a school administrator with tec's application in your hand, after you'd called the princial at the last school where he'd worked and been told, "we fired him because he told off a parent." Would you hire him?

Tec, I hate to be so blunt about this, but you need to grow up. I don't care how bad the provocation is, what you did was unacceptable socially and *ahem* "career limiting" professionally. As others have said, you're going to encounter more people like this than you can count in your career. If you can't deal with these situations professionally, you have no business being in that field of work, and sooner or later you will lose your job over something like this.

How do I know? I've come close to losing my job over petty cr*p like this on more than one occasion. Thankfully, I learned to swallow my pride and keep my job and learn and grow from my mistakes. You need to learn to do the same, and for your sake, I hope you learn quick.

 

[Jadow]

I'm not a loser, I have a $2000 computer, and my daddy makes $100,000 a year! jesus that really sounds lame.

 

[BruinEd03]

Originally posted by: NogginBoink

Originally posted by: RabidMongoose
Anyways, I bet that if he said that he didn't tell her off and just walked away while she's saying how much of a loser he is, a lot of people would be saying that he needed to 'grow some balls'.

Anyone who would claim "you need to grow some balls" in that case wouldn't have a clue about working in the professional world.

That thirty second tirade could easily (and rightfully) caused tec to lose his privileges at the school, thus meaning he wouldn't fulfill his degree requirements. It would make it harder for him to find a position in another school to finish his degree, and would have at least cost him another semester.

If he'd done it as a teacher and not a student, he could have lost his job. What would you do if you were a school administrator with tec's application in your hand, after you'd called the princial at the last school where he'd worked and been told, "we fired him because he told off a parent." Would you hire him?

Tec, I hate to be so blunt about this, but you need to grow up. I don't care how bad the provocation is, what you did was unacceptable socially and *ahem* "career limiting" professionally. As others have said, you're going to encounter more people like this than you can count in your career. If you can't deal with these situations professionally, you have no business being in that field of work, and sooner or later you will lose your job over something like this.

How do I know? I've come close to losing my job over petty cr*p like this on more than one occasion. Thankfully, I learned to swallow my pride and keep my job and learn and grow from my mistakes. You need to learn to do the same, and for your sake, I hope you learn quick.

If I was the employer, I'd stand by my employee.

-Ed

 

[NogginBoink]

Originally posted by: BruinEd03

Originally posted by: NogginBoink

Originally posted by: tec699
You guys weren't there so you really don't know what happened. I'm telling you what happened but you had to be there because she was Fu**IN NASTY to me! So was trying to belittle me and I said to myself enough is enough. Maybe I could have handled it better, but guess what... She had it coming.

No, she didn't. Not from you anyway.

Your attitude is going to find you jobless if you don't change it pronto. Teenagers can be nasty. You're going to deal with many of them in your career. Get used to it, and learn to deal with it.

it's people like you that shape the teenagers like you. If she was out of line, way out of line, then she needs to learn some respect. IMO the OP had every right to do/say what he said. I applaud him for it.

-Ed

You think tec taught that kid respect?

That kid leaned she could get under his skin. She won! She didn't learn respect, she LOST respect for him!

Had he not let this affect him and gone on with his day, he'd have earned some respect.

Now, I agree that this kid needs to learn some respect. But in that situation, tec was not the right person to do it, and he certainly chose the wrong way to do it.

 

[BunLengthHotDog]

I'm not a loser, I have a $2000 computer, and my daddy makes $100,000 a year! jesus that really sounds lame.

HAHAHA...My point exactly...talk about digging yourself into a hole

 

[BruinEd03]

Originally posted by: Jadow
I'm not a loser, I have a $2000 computer, and my daddy makes $100,000 a year! jesus that really sounds lame.

Jesus so do u.

-Ed

 

[BruinEd03]

Originally posted by: NogginBoink

Originally posted by: BruinEd03

Originally posted by: NogginBoink

Originally posted by: tec699
You guys weren't there so you really don't know what happened. I'm telling you what happened but you had to be there because she was Fu**IN NASTY to me! So was trying to belittle me and I said to myself enough is enough. Maybe I could have handled it better, but guess what... She had it coming.

No, she didn't. Not from you anyway.

Your attitude is going to find you jobless if you don't change it pronto. Teenagers can be nasty. You're going to deal with many of them in your career. Get used to it, and learn to deal with it.

it's people like you that shape the teenagers like you. If she was out of line, way out of line, then she needs to learn some respect. IMO the OP had every right to do/say what he said. I applaud him for it.

-Ed

You think tec taught that kid respect?

That kid leaned she could get under his skin. She won! She didn't learn respect, she LOST respect for him!

Had he not let this affect him and gone on with his day, he'd have earned some respect.

Now, I agree that this kid needs to learn some respect. But in that situation, tec was not the right person to do it, and he certainly chose the wrong way to do it.

I'd say she'll think twice about saying that $hit. Maybe it won't stop her completely but she'll realize that yes people do have bite.

-Ed

 

[Geekbabe]

I have an autistic child,I pray on a daily basis that his teachers have compassion and self-control.I also work in a hospital where all employees are to be helpful and professional,with no exceptions.

 

[BruinEd03]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I have an autistic child,I pray on a daily basis that his teachers have compassion and self-control.I also work in a hospital where all employees are to be helpful and professional,with no exceptions.

I hope you're not like that 16-17 year old. I came from a world where teachers should be given respect.

-Ed

 

[Zombie]

I'd say she'll think twice about saying that $hit. Maybe it won't stop her completely but she'll realize that yes people do have bite.

All of the above is what you hope but rarely happens in real life. Nobody here says that he should not be pissed off but everybody seems to agree that the best thing he could have done is walk away.

 

[Zombie]

I hope you're not like that 16-17 year old. I came from a world where teachers should be given respect.

I doubt he earned any respect by confronting her. Respect is earned can't be forced out of somebody.

 

Me: I have a $2,000 computer.. I'm in a University and I'll be graduating soon, my dad makes over $100,000, I drive a new car, my sister works for Harvard, and on and on... I did this for about 3 minutes.

Quantifying is for losers, get over it.

Listen, they were 16, did you really CARE what they had to say about you?
You must have self esteem issues if a 16 yr old child can unnerve you.

 

[BruinEd03]

Originally posted by: Zombie

I hope you're not like that 16-17 year old. I came from a world where teachers should be given respect.

I doubt he earned any respect by confronting her. Respect is earned can't be forced out of somebody.

sure maybe not respect, but maybe/maybe not at least she'll think twice about her situation in relation to others. Let's put it this way chance of her changing her mind given no verbal outburst: 0% (yes flat out zero...she'll learn that she can talk $hit to other people w/o repercussions). Chances of her changing her mind given the verbal outburst: 5% (yes...horrible odds, but at least it's in her mind now), chances of her changing her mind given another verbal outburst by someone else: 10%...etc.

Maybe then she'll start to correlate trash talking w/ people giving her some of her own medicine.

-Ed

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: BruinEd03

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I have an autistic child,I pray on a daily basis that his teachers have compassion and self-control.I also work in a hospital where all employees are to be helpful and professional,with no exceptions.

I hope you're not like that 16-17 year old. I came from a world where teachers should be given respect.

-Ed

I agree,however right now he's in training to become a professional and that is not how professionals respond.
Provoked? wait till he's in charge of a group of Sprecial Needs kids.

 

[BruinEd03]

Originally posted by: SammySon

Me: I have a $2,000 computer.. I'm in a University and I'll be graduating soon, my dad makes over $100,000, I drive a new car, my sister works for Harvard, and on and on... I did this for about 3 minutes.

Quantifying is for losers, get over it.

Listen, they were 16, did you really CARE what they had to say about you?
You must have self esteem issues if a 16 yr old child can unnerve you.

and you're so much better? you're on the board chastising the guy. Why not be the "bigger person" and walk away? yeah that's right because it irks you.

-Ed

 

[Static911]

Originally posted by: BruinEd03

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I have an autistic child,I pray on a daily basis that his teachers have compassion and self-control.I also work in a hospital where all employees are to be helpful and professional,with no exceptions.

I hope you're not like that 16-17 year old. I came from a world where teachers should be given respect.

-Ed

Ditto. When I went school and specifically special classes for speech impairment in grade school, I always gave the teacher/instructor respect because it was instilled into me by my parents. Even during college, I was accused by a professor of cheating for HTML codes and when he treated me like an outcast, I still gave the professor respect. Did I like him? No, but I still addressed him by Professor.

In my opinion, it is not the action that really counts, but the reaction. Yes, Jadow could have handled it in a better way, but during that circumstance, I understand.

Ethan

 

[SickBeast]

If something like that can provoke such a reaction from you, I would suggest you to re-evaluate your career path.

You were totally out of line in telling her that she will work for Burger King while you have $2000 computers etc etc. You sound very material-driven...you might want to take a hard look at some of the aspects of your life.

On the other hand tho, she was out of line as well. You should realize that when people say things like that, it is usually because they are insecure about themselves.

I'm sorry if I came across harshly, it's just that I feel that teachers (or people that want to be teachers) should learn to show more dignity and respect than that. People who act like you just did tarnish the profession.

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