Originally posted by: djheater
People who need to physically discipline their children have an incomplete understanding of how to use guilt and shame as weapons.
Originally posted by: shimsham
Originally posted by: djheater
People who need to physically discipline their children have an incomplete understanding of how to use guilt and shame as weapons.
mom, is that you?
Originally posted by: djheater
Originally posted by: shimsham
Originally posted by: djheater
People who need to physically discipline their children have an incomplete understanding of how to use guilt and shame as weapons.
mom, is that you?
Yes, and touching yourself makes baby jesus cry.
Originally posted by: Wingznut
Spanking is the act of hitting a child on the ass in the name of discipline.Originally posted by: Darilus
If you don't want to spank your child, fine, no one is trying to make you do it. Referring to it as "hitting" just conjurs up images of child abuse, which no one here has seriously condoned. There's nothing inherently evil about spanking as a form of discipline. After all, think of all the emotional trauma you're causing your child by putting him in time out. :disgust:
But I still haven't heard a good reason to do it. Kids are NOT stupid. They are NOT animals. They have the ability to reason and learn.
There is absolutely no need to inflict physical pain to teach them how to behave. There's just no point to it.
Ask yourself this... Why doesn't telling them work? Are they absolutely stupid? Are you not explaining "why" correctly? Do they not have enough respect for you (motivation) to want to impress their parent?Originally posted by: vood0g
when telling them doesnt work, then its time to spank and that has ALWAYS worked.
Originally posted by: Brutuskend
Eddy Murphy on SNL's Mr. Robinson's Neighborhood: "The word of the day is "Bitch". Go to you mom right now and say "bitch". If she slaps you, you're saying it right."
Seriously though. This kinda thing is not acceptable for a 8 year old. Or ANY kid IMO.
Originally posted by: PhasmatisNox
Stick with it.
A spanking (not a beating) is perfectly fine
People who need to physically discipline their children have an incomplete understanding of how to use guilt and shame as weapons.
Are you joking???Originally posted by: vood0g
they will obey what i say out of respect or they will obey me out of fear of getting a spanking. either way they will obey.
on the part of explaining "why" correctly, i tell them that it is bad. to me, all they they need to know what "bad" is, and they know that "bad" means no no. they dont need to know why its bad, other than the fact that i say that it is bad. i can tell them that action X is bad, and they know that action X=bad. if they still do action X, then i will spank them.
Originally posted by: MisfitsFiend
People who need to physically discipline their children have an incomplete understanding of how to use guilt and shame as weapons.
I think guilt and shame are MUCH WORSE than a spanking!!
Originally posted by: Aharami
wow. just wow! i'd never even think of calling my mom that....no matter what age!
and if i did that when i was 8, I probably wouldnt be alive to post this today. Then again, I grew up in India.
Originally posted by: Wingznut
Are you joking???Originally posted by: vood0g
they will obey what i say out of respect or they will obey me out of fear of getting a spanking. either way they will obey.
on the part of explaining "why" correctly, i tell them that it is bad. to me, all they they need to know what "bad" is, and they know that "bad" means no no. they dont need to know why its bad, other than the fact that i say that it is bad. i can tell them that action X is bad, and they know that action X=bad. if they still do action X, then i will spank them.
This is really all about power and obediance to you, isn't it? To hell with teaching the children to reason for themselves? To hell with giving them the knowledge to make the right decisions for themselves and the people around them?
"Obey me, or I will hit you!" is exactly what you are saying. Spectacular.
What's the downside to teaching them WHY? Don't you think they can make better decisions in the future if they know the reasoning behind it. (Aside from their daddy smacking them on their ass, that is.) I have no doubt your kids are pretty smart, and have the ability to understand what you teach them.Originally posted by: vood0g
i trust that my values on what is right and wrong are correct. when my children grow up then they can decide for themselves what is right and wrong. but as of now, my 4 and 2 year old will just have to learn that what i say goes.
Originally posted by: Siddhartha
What bothers me about how you punished your child is that you acted out of angry[sic] and you are still angry.
Originally posted by: Wingznut
There are plenty of kids who were raised within domestic violence, drug addiction, etc. and still turned out well. This doesn't mean anything.
I just checked on my boys, and made sure they were covered up. I look at them and can't imagine what would bring me to hit them. There's just no point.
:beer: :beer: :beer: to you three, and all the others. specifically including Rainsford, who have been the voice of wisdom, reason and love in this thread.Originally posted by: MadCowDisease
That said, I have very little respect for an adult who hits a child. Members of the Quaker faith have a history of raising children without resorting to corporal punishment and having met dozens of adults who grew up that way, they do a pretty damn good job.
been the voice of wisdom, reason and love in this thread.
Originally posted by: biostud
Beating a child = t3h loose.
If you can't convince a child what it has done is wrong, otherwise than beating it your skills of child raising is low. Specially for something as little as this. If you fight the spoken word with violence (specially if spoken from a child), I believe you're overreacting.
Convince your child how much these words hurts his mother and he will regret it.
I'm ignorant because (from what he's been saying) spanking is a *justified* version of hitting? I'm ignorant because (from what he's been saying) its right to do to a child's ass and not a grown person's face? Speak on it.Originally posted by: randal
Originally posted by: NOLOVE
You ARE a heartless prick that DID beat a child. If you slap your wife she's going to let it go because "it was just a spanking" right? Or is it the humility of a nude child over your lap that satisfies you? You're stuck either way... you physically harmed him and humiliated him.
You are perhaps the most ignorant person I have ever seen online. Please do not procreate.
Originally posted by: shimsham
Originally posted by: biostud
Beating a child = t3h loose.
If you can't convince a child what it has done is wrong, otherwise than beating it your skills of child raising is low. Specially for something as little as this. If you fight the spoken word with violence (specially if spoken from a child), I believe you're overreacting.
Convince your child how much these words hurts his mother and he will regret it.
again, spanking and beating are 2 different things. spanking does not automatically equal a lack of parenting skills.