I have two boys in public schools. But I don't believe public schools are the problem with kids... It's the parents general lack of parenting (involvement) that's the problem. Divorce, daycare, etc. is all taking it's toll. (But that's for another discussion.) Yeah, I really do wish more parents would inflict physical pain (rather than patience, understanding, reasoning, rationale, and teaching) to get them to obey. <That was sarcasm, btw.>Originally posted by: Greyd
But, if you knew the state of public schools and the kids today...you would wish parents would spank their kids more.
Complete and utter BS. There are tons and tons of kids out there who are extremely well behaved and respectful, yet have never been hit by their parents. And just the same, there are plenty who have been spanked, yet still lash out. And there are, I'm sure, just as many examples of the absolute reverse situations.(As I've said before, there are many other factors at work here.)But discipline without spanking for kids under a certain age is no effective.
Not sure how you drew that conclusion since there isn't that kind of evidence in this thread. At any rate, I was not physically abused as a kid. Nor did I have any VERY negative experiences with discipline.IMO it seems that most of the people in this thread who are anti-spanking have gone thorough VERY negative experiences or been a part of them, where the discipline is not discipline at al, rather ABUSE. Just because one parent abuses doesn't mean all parents fo. Again I repeat - there's a HUGE difference between the two.
Again, I'm shocked (and even moreso saddened) that this statement comes from a teacher.Originally posted by: Greyd
...kids are not as "logical" or "good" as you infer.
Originally posted by: aidanjm
Introducing toxic chemicals to a 4 year old's mouth ("washing mouth out with soap and water") is in my opinion abusive.
Why? If it's effective for cursing, why not use it for other issues?Originally posted by: BigJ
Also, it's a technique only administered for cursing.Originally posted by: aidanjm
Introducing toxic chemicals to a 4 year old's mouth ("washing mouth out with soap and water") is in my opinion abusive.
Originally posted by: Wingznut
Why? If it's effective for cursing, why not use it for other issues?Originally posted by: BigJ
Also, it's a technique only administered for cursing.Originally posted by: aidanjm
Introducing toxic chemicals to a 4 year old's mouth ("washing mouth out with soap and water") is in my opinion abusive.
I understand the ideology.... But logically, if it works so well and with no side effects, why use it for only cursing? How about any back talking? Condesending attitute? Rudeness?Originally posted by: BigJ
It's the whole ideology behind it. "Washing your mouth out with soap, to cleanse the badness that comes out of it." That kinda hub-bub.Originally posted by: Wingznut
Why? If it's effective for cursing, why not use it for other issues?Originally posted by: BigJ
Also, it's a technique only administered for cursing.Originally posted by: aidanjm
Introducing toxic chemicals to a 4 year old's mouth ("washing mouth out with soap and water") is in my opinion abusive.
I'll just use this one example, but it pretty much applies to any...Originally posted by: Cruez
I have seen kids in stores or malls that are screaming because they aren't getting what they wanted, and you hear the parents say, (in a soft tone) honey, you need to be quiet. I would be taking them back out to the car for a good swat.
Originally posted by: Wingznut
I'll just use this one example, but it pretty much applies to any...Originally posted by: Cruez
I have seen kids in stores or malls that are screaming because they aren't getting what they wanted, and you hear the parents say, (in a soft tone) honey, you need to be quiet. I would be taking them back out to the car for a good swat.
So, you don't think your kids can be taught not to behave that way in a store, without the threat of inflicting pain? If not, why do you suppose that is? (i.e. The kids aren't smart enough to understand, they aren't civilized enough, they don't respect you enough to want to please, etc...)
Originally posted by: Cruez
All children are different, and respond to different types of discipline, and some kids need to be spanked. Period.
But that doesn't answer the question.Originally posted by: Cruez
For one, my children have learned, not to stage a scene like that in public. Because they understand how to "properly act" in public. There is a time and place for everything. If they were to start something like that, I would only have to whisper in their ear and it would stop right then and, if not, they would be expecting the spanking.Originally posted by: Wingznut
I'll just use this one example, but it pretty much applies to any...Originally posted by: Cruez
I have seen kids in stores or malls that are screaming because they aren't getting what they wanted, and you hear the parents say, (in a soft tone) honey, you need to be quiet. I would be taking them back out to the car for a good swat.
So, you don't think your kids can be taught not to behave that way in a store, without the threat of inflicting pain? If not, why do you suppose that is? (i.e. The kids aren't smart enough to understand, they aren't civilized enough, they don't respect you enough to want to please, etc...)
The ones I speak of, have had no discipline. Spanking or otherwise.
Originally posted by: Specop 007
Giving in = blood in the water
Dont feed the sharks. Its dangerous.
So, then the solution is that you smack them on their ass. And you can conclude that they understand that?Originally posted by: vood0gi can bet your ass not all 2 year olds will understand that you being broke or they already have one sitting at home is a valid reason as to why they cant have the toy. so they continue to throw a fit.
Originally posted by: Wingznut
So, then the solution is that you smack them on their ass. And you can conclude that they understand that?Originally posted by: vood0gi can bet your ass not all 2 year olds will understand that you being broke or they already have one sitting at home is a valid reason as to why they cant have the toy. so they continue to throw a fit.
And here's where we differ immensely.Originally posted by: vood0g
if i already told them why, and they do not understand it and start to throw a tantrum, then a smack on the ass is needed just for them to shut the hell up and quit acting like a spoiled, rotten piece of shit.
Originally posted by: Wingznut
Originally posted by: Cruez
Originally posted by: Wingznut
But that doesn't answer the question.Originally posted by: Cruez
If the only way to convince your child to behave properly (in whatever circumstance) is the threat of pain, why do you think that is? (See above examples of possible, but obviously not the only, reasons.)
vood0g, or anyone else, feel free to answer as well.
For one, It will get their attention and they know that you are being serious.
i know, he shouldn't get food and or water for like two weeks, he can find his own, little 8yr old bastage!Originally posted by: Citrix
Im glad to hear there are other parents who acutally care and let their kids know that certain behavior is just not acceptable nor tolerated. If my kid ever and i mean ever called my wife/ his mom a bitch he would be in a world of trouble.
My thoughts are this. It was great that he took the initiative to appoligize on his on, wait a week, evaluate him, watch him and his behavior. if you see that he is truly sorry for calling his mother such a vial name, sit him down and talk to him man to man. Make sure he realizes that what he said was very hurtful and that he understands that sometimes the words he chooses to use cut deaper than anything else, then give him his PS2 back.
Oh, I realize what spanking accomplishes, and yes it'll definitely get their attention. But my question is why do you think you can't get their attention and have them realize the importance without resorting to smacking them? What's missing for that to happen?Originally posted by: Cruez
For one, It will get their attention and they know that you are being serious.
Originally posted by: Wingznut
And here's where we differ immensely.Originally posted by: vood0g
if i already told them why, and they do not understand it and start to throw a tantrum, then a smack on the ass is needed just for them to shut the hell up and quit acting like a spoiled, rotten piece of shit.
That's my question..Originally posted by: Wingznut
Where do you suppose he learned to call his mom such a thing?
(Btw, are you the bio-dad?... Married to his mom?)