um... really weird... met a girl - I think she's... married??

[imported_Mike]

Originally posted by: SecretShadow

Originally posted by: Mike

Originally posted by: SecretShadow

Originally posted by: Aflac

Originally posted by: SecretShadow
STAY AWAY! Don't touch her...heck even check her out....until she has a final divorce in her hands. Plus, that's way too fast to be seeing other people, her marriage is only recently started to break up? Needy FTL!!

Never underestimate the power of a women to manipulate, nor the power of your little head to do all the thinking.

6 months != recently?

1. No divorce, so its not really been 6 months, evewn if she claims she hasn't seen or had contact with her husband.

2. At least a year is needed to heal POST divorce (see above), I've read/heard this multple times.

You're an idiot.

Love you too, sweetie.

:lips:

 

[Ika]

Originally posted by: SecretShadow

Originally posted by: Mike

Originally posted by: SecretShadow

Originally posted by: Aflac

Originally posted by: SecretShadow
STAY AWAY! Don't touch her...heck even check her out....until she has a final divorce in her hands. Plus, that's way too fast to be seeing other people, her marriage is only recently started to break up? Needy FTL!!

Never underestimate the power of a women to manipulate, nor the power of your little head to do all the thinking.

6 months != recently?

1. No divorce, so its not really been 6 months, evewn if she claims she hasn't seen or had contact with her husband.

2. At least a year is needed to heal POST divorce (see above), I've read/heard this multple times.

You're an idiot.

Love you too, sweetie.

tempted to say wwybywb

 

[Axoliien]

No, walk away.

It's not so much that he's in the military and you might get hurt, but moreover that she feels it's ok to have something going on behind his back without taking care of the relationship first. If she can do it to a guy overseas who loved her enough to marry her and then go off to war for our country, she probably won't have second thoughts about cheating on you behind your back when you have to work late. Besides, if you are even worried in the slightest then you have some regret already about just thinking about it.

 

[SaltBoy]

Originally posted by: Mike

Originally posted by: SecretShadow
1. No divorce, so its not really been 6 months, evewn if she claims she hasn't seen or had contact with her husband.

2. At least a year is needed to heal POST divorce (see above), I've read/heard this multple times.

You're an idiot.

Huh? Secret Shadow's comment makes sense to me. What's *your* opinion on the matter, other than thinking he's an idiot?

 

[imported_Mike]

Originally posted by: SaltBoy

Originally posted by: Mike

Originally posted by: SecretShadow

Originally posted by: Aflac

Originally posted by: SecretShadow
STAY AWAY! Don't touch her...heck even check her out....until she has a final divorce in her hands. Plus, that's way too fast to be seeing other people, her marriage is only recently started to break up? Needy FTL!!

Never underestimate the power of a women to manipulate, nor the power of your little head to do all the thinking.

6 months != recently?

1. No divorce, so its not really been 6 months, evewn if she claims she hasn't seen or had contact with her husband.

2. At least a year is needed to heal POST divorce (see above), I've read/heard this multple times.

You're an idiot.

Huh? Secret Shadow's comment makes sense to me. What's *your* opinion on the matter, other than thinking he's an idiot?

I used bold for a reason.

 

[SaltBoy]

Originally posted by: Mike

Originally posted by: SaltBoy

Originally posted by: Mike

Originally posted by: SecretShadow
1. No divorce, so its not really been 6 months, evewn if she claims she hasn't seen or had contact with her husband.

2. At least a year is needed to heal POST divorce (see above), I've read/heard this multple times.

You're an idiot.

Huh? Secret Shadow's comment makes sense to me. What's *your* opinion on the matter, other than thinking he's an idiot?

I used bold for a reason.

That still doesn't tell me your opinion other than you disagree. Okay, so you don't think at least a year is needed to heal POST divorce. I'll just assume you think at least five years is needed instead.

 

[imported_Mike]

Originally posted by: SaltBoy

Originally posted by: Mike

Originally posted by: SaltBoy

Originally posted by: Mike

Originally posted by: SecretShadow
1. No divorce, so its not really been 6 months, evewn if she claims she hasn't seen or had contact with her husband.

2. At least a year is needed to heal POST divorce (see above), I've read/heard this multple times.

You're an idiot.

Huh? Secret Shadow's comment makes sense to me. What's *your* opinion on the matter, other than thinking he's an idiot?

I used bold for a reason.

That still doesn't tell me your opinion other than you disagree. Okay, so you don't think at least a year is needed to heal POST divorce. I'll just assume you think at least five years is needed instead.

It doesn't matter how many years I "think" or Shadowpupet "thinks" is needed, thus the comment I made.

 

[ViviTheMage]

uh oh

 

[SaltBoy]

Originally posted by: Mike
It doesn't matter how many years I "think" or Shadowpupet "thinks" is needed, thus the comment I made.

Okay, I think I'm understanding now. True - I'll agree that each case like this shouldn't adhere to a specific "schedule", it really depends on the circumstance. But to pursue a girl in this type of situation could make a big mess even bigger. Don't think with the wrong head.

 

[DeadByDawn]

You need to just leave this one alone. How can you believe a word she says. What would you do to somebody if you came home from spending a year in Iraq and found some guy doing your wife?

My old roomate found a guy living with his wife when he came home from Iraq (gulf war I), and put a crossbow bolt through the guys thigh on his front lawn the day we got back.

 

[lokiju]

I don't believe in coincidence.

Keep talking, what can that hurt?

Theres every chance shes being truthful with you.

 

[imported_Mike]

Originally posted by: SaltBoy

Originally posted by: Mike
It doesn't matter how many years I "think" or Shadowpupet "thinks" is needed, thus the comment I made.

Okay, I think I'm understanding now. True - I'll agree that each case like this shouldn't adhere to a specific "schedule", it really depends on the circumstance.

Exactly

But to pursue a girl in this type of situation could make a big mess even bigger. Don't think with the wrong head.

My original comment to SecretShadow really had nothing to do with whether or not the OP should pursue this girl or not. It was to merely point out the simple fact that you touched on, that I have quoted above.

 

[TGS]

Here's a really crazy idea... confirm her story with her estranged husband? Either she'll flip out for you asking, or he will tell you it's over. Either way you won't have A) a lying manipulator or B) An angry combat trained man hunting you down.

 

[imported_Mike]

Originally posted by: TGS
Here's a really crazy idea... confirm her story with her estranged husband? Either she'll flip out for you asking, or he will tell you it's over. Either way you won't have A) a lying manipulator or B) An angry combat trained man hunting you down.

I think the husband, after hearing the story, would tell him it's over regardless of if it was before that time or not.

 

[Sentinel]

Negative, if she's cheating on him- she'll cheat on you.

 

[electrosoccertux]

Originally posted by: zixxer
This is my original post. I added what ended up happening after the EDIT at the bottom




cliffs at bottom



Maybe I'm just freaking insane -

Here's the situation.. I'm leaving out/changing some details because I know she's bigtime into computers - and possibly may frequent AT.


Basically - I met this completely hot chick totally freaking randomly. Like - at a red light. I smiled at her, she smiled back (shyly... sp?)

I pulled into a gas station, and she pulled in behind me.. both needing gas. I struck up a conversation and we REALLY hit it off... bigtime.. shared a drink at the gas station, talked about a bunch of stuff (so many very ironic things we have in common) for 20-30 min at least. She was always laughing, throwing her hair back, touching me, etc.. I asked her for her #... she was like you're going to think this is really really wierd but im a huge dork - I hate phones (ironically I do too) and prefer email.. here's my num though, and my email. I had a pretty good impression we hit it off...

ok so I emailed her the next afternoon (or maybe two days?) and she responded - light flirting - she mentioned hanging out - that she enjoyed the other night and wanted to get to know me better but I couldn't that night. We setup plans for tomorrow (friday). Just out of curiousity I google her email... found her online blog...


she fscking married. Not only married, but to an overseas soldier. :-/ WTF?

Now - the latest post I saw was like june..

I'm very very wtf. I mean - it's possible it's just a friendly thing - but I for 100% sure was NOT getting that vibe. Another possibility is that they got divorced - in the past month?


ugh. I'm mainly disgusted over her husband being overseas. If she is married to someone fighting for our country I'm DEFINETELY not hitting that I mean wtf?


Cliffs:

zixxer meets hot chick at light, both hit it off, both flirting a lot, girl gives #, girls asks zix out, girl acts sad when he has plans, asks about fri night, shared drink,

zixxer goes to email girl - googles her email - finds blog - she's married to a soldier who is overseas.

zixxer is major WTF


EDIT:

got done hanging out w/ other girl tonight around 9. this original girl had text msg'd me and said to call her if plans ended before midnight or whatnot. I wasn't really tired and figured ATOT wanted their update... so we ended up hanging out.



She is married - her husband is overseas. Apparently he cheated on her like 6 months ago - she's seen him once since then, they fought the whole time, and are mutually agreeing to split once he's back here. Hmm. Nothing physical happened tonight - less flirty than the other day though... we're supposed to hang out tomorrow night - I might cancel on her. I'm a little wierded out by the whole thing - and since I really dont know her - i wonder if it's all true or she's just bored with her husband gone :-/

Interesting. Yeah you're definitely reading it right. Something us geeks seem to do is triple-check ourselves over a girls signals becuase we're not as sure about it as we are about computers. Don't worry too much about it. If you got the vibe and weren't reading into the situation finding things that weren't there, then its legit. [Something else that would happen in another situation would be you ask her about it and she completely blows it off and laughs that and can't believe that you would think she was interested. I've found that in these situations, you were right, she was being mean, so don't think you mis-read her, and don't let her think that you believe her. You knew she was making advances, so play her game back. If you second-guess yourself now you'll be even less sure of yourself the next time you think a girl is making advances. Anyhow this sort of girl is the type to stay away from. She's no better than you, no matter how hot she is, and you're likely better than her. She was interested in playing games, what kind of person is that? I went on this tangent because I have a feeling many of us have been in this situation before].

Personally I'd be a bit careful with this though, the girl is getting a divorce and making advances towards you at the same time. That should throw the aggession red-flag. There's nothing wrong with an interested girl but its hard to distinguish between interested and aggressive. Be sure that you're not just the next new thing. For this reason I prefer to do the choosing, or be friends with the girl first, so I know what she is like and if she is the aggressive type.

The other thought I would have is...if she can't work it out with this guy now, is it because the guy isn't willing to work it out or because she isn't? I'm of the belief that someone worth marrying (and therefor worth dating) is someone who is willing to work stuff out. If she hasn't worked out this relationship, be sure she'll be willing to work out the next one when the relationship transitions to the best-friends stage.

Best of luck to you man.

 

[Ika]

Originally posted by: Sentinel
Negative, if she's cheating on him- she'll cheat on you.

Did you read his update? Her husband cheated on HER first - do you think she should still stick with him?

 

[BoberFett]

Military wives cheat. It's what they do. As sure as the sun rises and the seasons change, many sailors wives will f*ck any man they can get their hands on while their husbands are at sea.

If your consience would eat at you knowing you messed with another guys woman, don't do it. If you can live with yourself, have at it. But be sure to double bag your goods, you're not the first guys she has messed around with. Hell, you're probably not the only other guy she's working on this week.

 

[zixxer]

WTF... this girl... while she is cheating - he cheated on her... first... not that it makes anything right... but it's not like she's whoring it up while her perfect husband is in iraq fighting for our country. Even still - morally I'm not sure if I can really continue anything. It kind of sucks - because if I dont, someone else will

 

[KK]

Does she webcam?

 

[jlbenedict]

Originally posted by: BoberFett
Military wives cheat. It's what they do. As sure as the sun rises and the seasons change, many sailors wives will f*ck any man they can get their hands on while their husbands are at sea.

If your consience would eat at you knowing you messed with another guys woman, don't do it. If you can live with yourself, have at it. But be sure to double bag your goods, you're not the first guys she has messed around with. Hell, you're probably not the only other guy she's working on this week.

:thumbsup:

 

[T9D]

It's just like those damn women. As soon as they want something and are lonely they just dont give a crap and get what they want.

I know one girl who's husband was in the military and she was constantly calling me and telling me to come see her and bone her.

Another girl friend of mine has a fiance in the military. He hasnt called for 4 days so she's already getting numbers from other guys and was making plans to possibly come see me in the future and stay with me for a while.

Cant trust a damn one of them :thumbsdown:

 

[pontifex]

i don't know if anyone mentioned it yet but the reason she doesn't like phones is because she doesn't want her boyfriends calling when her husband is home.

 

[electrosoccertux]

Originally posted by: pontifex
i don't know if anyone mentioned it yet but the reason she doesn't like phones is because she doesn't want her boyfriends calling when her husband is home.

Ima second that one.

 

[zixxer]

Originally posted by: electrosoccertux

Originally posted by: pontifex
i don't know if anyone mentioned it yet but the reason she doesn't like phones is because she doesn't want her boyfriends calling when her husband is home.

Ima second that one.

I don't think so - she gave me her cell the first day we met. She has a job that keeps her from answering her phone - but she can check her email.