Update: We had a wonderful service

[beach2nd]

 

[judasmachine]

take the time to communicate how you feel about her. and just be there. sorry man.

 

[JTsyo]

 

[Platypus]

Originally posted by: czech09
Sorry to hear this but try to look at it in a positive way - 85 is an amazing age to reach, she has probably lived a wonderful life. I'm sure she's proud and happy to have a son like you be with her through this. Best wishes from me as well.

 

[rasczak]

Originally posted by: skyking
She is 85 and dying from COPD and chronic pain. As her oxygen levels decline her pain increases. Her will and desire to live have totally left her and only her strong heart remains.
She is being cared for in her home by hospice and family. I sit here today before I go see her in the morning, wondering what and how we will do in her absence. I want only peace and an end to the suffering for her, and hold no illusions that she will just get better.
We have sat with her these last ten days, patiently waiting for her to grace us with her wit and tell us another story. The telling seems to bring life back into her eyes, and for a brief moment she is herself again.

skyking, it is hard watching her, but you and your family are doing the best thing for her and yourselves by being there for her in her final moments. keep cherishing these times and enjoy the stories

 

[BoomerD]

My condolences. I lost my mom in 97 to cancer of the liver. She wanted to spend her remaining time with us, so we packed her up and moved her down from Spokane.
It's tough as hell watching a parent wither away and die...and there ain't a dammed thing you can do to stop it...all you can do is be supportive...and love them, and try to help where you can.
Ignore the bad...remember the good.

 

[Don Vito Corleone]

My condolences. You are doing the right thing, and I'm sure it brings her comfort during this awful stretch. May she go quietly and in as little pain as possible.

 

[Engineer]

I want to say something as I feel really bad for you and your family...just don't have the words to say it. Truely sad...

 

[BW86]

 

[hanoverphist]

Originally posted by: Sealy
I'm so sorry...I can't imagine what you're going through.

this. currently we are going thru the same thing with my kids grampa. my ex wifes grampa, not mine so im fairly detached from it overall. kids are a bit freaked tho. good thoughts to you and yours.

 

[TruePaige]

There is nothing in this world as painful or that makes you feel as helpless as watching a loved one suffer and deteriorate in front of your eyes. I wish you all the love in the world, please just be with your family. At least with family none of you will go it alone.

May the final moments of your moms life be peaceful, loving, and filled with the joy of a good family that saw her through a good life.

 

[skyking]

We are all here and although the focus is certainly on mom, we are also chatting about everything and sitting in her room. It was very hard to arrive and sit down between my brother and sister this morning, and the waves of emotion just washed over me. I told her I loved her and knew she loved me and it was OK to go. I am sure she heard me, though she is unresponsive.
She sleeps now, we wait. Thank you all for your kindest words and thoughts.

 

[dennilfloss]

So sorry.

Hug.

 

[Kirby]

 

[Jadow]

sorry to hear about your (and her) situation. I hope for all the best.

That being said, 85 is pretty damn good! she's lived a long full live.

 

[RKS]

 

[Analog]

I was in your shoes in 2005. Peace be with you and your mom. Having you there makes all the difference.

 

[Perknose]

Stay strong, Kelly. I know you will. You come from really fine stock. :thumbsup:

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: skyking
We are all here and although the focus is certainly on mom, we are also chatting about everything and sitting in her room. It was very hard to arrive and sit down between my brother and sister this morning, and the waves of emotion just washed over me. I told her I loved her and knew she loved me and it was OK to go. I am sure she heard me, though she is unresponsive.
She sleeps now, we wait. Thank you all for your kindest words and thoughts.

Hearing that it's ok to go is very important, have everybody tell her if they haven't already. My heart breaks for you and for your mom.

 

[Brainonska511]

 

[clamum]

Originally posted by: zerocool84
Damn I'm sorry. I don't know what I would do if my mother died.

Same here man.

I was gonna make a joke when I saw the thread title and before I actually read the OP but man... I'm sorry to hear that skyking.

 

[cliftonite]

Sorry to hear

 

[krunchykrome]

I'm sorry to here this

 

[skyking]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xNppG7vRZ-I

She sung that one for my sister a couple of days ago.. today youtube came to the rescue and I could play it for her.

"When you walk the streets you'll have no cares
If you walk the lines and not the squares
As you go through life make this your goal
Watch the donut, not the hole.

It's written on the rainbow, in letters made of gold
Written on the rainbow, there's wisdom to behold
My friend the little sparrow flew
Close enough to see
Written on a rainbow is this philosophy."

 

[meltdown75]

thoughts and best wishes to you and yours.