hey everyone,
here's the situation as short as possible...:
After work, your girl calls you up to let you know she's having dinner with this guy. Guy is a "friend" she met through her ex and she bumped into him walking home. Other than that, she's never spoken/hung out w/ this guy.
Dinner i'm fine with...
now, 10pm...i get a call she's going to some bar w/ him and 6 of his buddies visiting...i tell her i'm uncomfortable w/ that...i'd like to be ok w/ it, but i'm not....she says she won't go and will call me when i get home...
Night continues ....no call..(needless to say she went)
Next morning at work she says she interpreted our conversation as she'll go and i'll try to deal w/ it...and her phone died....
i find the move rather devious and am pretty upset/disappointed...
thoughts?
UPDATE:
First off, I'd like to thanks ATOT for the support....Granted, relationship help may be over-rated, but seriously, it's nice to be able to vent. And for the most part, comments are mature and well-appreciated.
Like most ppl said, I'm the only one that knows truly the situation and I trust my judgment fully. I've no doubt nothing happened that night. Never was that really a concern. What really did it was the lying, claimed miscommunication (whatever because we all know no one will ever admit fault), and not calling.
So, are those forgivable items...i say it's worth it being we've been together a year and have gone through much already.
Ok, so Thursday night i don't even bother meeting her...she had a scheduled dinner w/ her mom (which i did know about) so i hung out w/ the guys...she called when she was finished, but "sorry sweetheart", i'm already out so things will have to wait (my quasi-revenge)...fully justified imo....
long story short, she continued to try to talk to me...it seems she really does want things to work, so we talked Friday morning (we're both off work) and we came to the conclusion if I don't know the guy, she won't go or I'll be given the chance to meet him first....I feel the compromise was good because my situation was really I don't like the guys part....girls night out is no problem w/ me...
anyways...ask away ATOT...i'm sure there's much i didn't cover.
thanks again!
Leejai
here's the situation as short as possible...:
After work, your girl calls you up to let you know she's having dinner with this guy. Guy is a "friend" she met through her ex and she bumped into him walking home. Other than that, she's never spoken/hung out w/ this guy.
Dinner i'm fine with...
now, 10pm...i get a call she's going to some bar w/ him and 6 of his buddies visiting...i tell her i'm uncomfortable w/ that...i'd like to be ok w/ it, but i'm not....she says she won't go and will call me when i get home...
Night continues ....no call..(needless to say she went)
Next morning at work she says she interpreted our conversation as she'll go and i'll try to deal w/ it...and her phone died....
i find the move rather devious and am pretty upset/disappointed...
thoughts?
UPDATE:
First off, I'd like to thanks ATOT for the support....Granted, relationship help may be over-rated, but seriously, it's nice to be able to vent. And for the most part, comments are mature and well-appreciated.
Like most ppl said, I'm the only one that knows truly the situation and I trust my judgment fully. I've no doubt nothing happened that night. Never was that really a concern. What really did it was the lying, claimed miscommunication (whatever because we all know no one will ever admit fault), and not calling.
So, are those forgivable items...i say it's worth it being we've been together a year and have gone through much already.
Ok, so Thursday night i don't even bother meeting her...she had a scheduled dinner w/ her mom (which i did know about) so i hung out w/ the guys...she called when she was finished, but "sorry sweetheart", i'm already out so things will have to wait (my quasi-revenge)...fully justified imo....
long story short, she continued to try to talk to me...it seems she really does want things to work, so we talked Friday morning (we're both off work) and we came to the conclusion if I don't know the guy, she won't go or I'll be given the chance to meet him first....I feel the compromise was good because my situation was really I don't like the guys part....girls night out is no problem w/ me...
anyways...ask away ATOT...i'm sure there's much i didn't cover.
thanks again!
Leejai