If she's looking at you a lot, chances are better that she's interested than that she's creeped. If she were creeped or completely uninterested, she probably would have found an excuse to run away by now. If you do ask her out, be sure to have something specific but innocuous planned. Don't be vague. Be prepared for her to say either yes or no. Be enthusiastic and don't waffle. If she's not interested, don't grovel...it's her loss, right? Raspberry her for the killjoy she is and move right on to another subject.
"Would you like to go out with me sometime? That is, if it's ok with you. I think you're incredible." Ick.
versus...
"Oh, I just remembered something I wanted to ask you. Have you been to (such and such restaurant / club / art gallery / state prison)? Cause I was wondering if it's as good as it looks, but I keep forgetting to try it. (You say that before she answers the question.) You haven't? Well, let's go! Yes, now, before I forget again! C'mon!"
Don't take this too close to Friendsville if that's not where you want to go. At a new restaurant, you can buy her meal by saying some variant of "OH no, it's my first time here, it was my idea, I'm buying!" Do not offer to buy- just say you're buying. Do this after you already get there. Do not study her for a reaction- say you're buying and look at the menu. If she accepts, she's probably interested...if she firmly insists on paying herself, she's probably not interested in more than friendship, and you need to respect that. Again, beware of Friendsville- the ideal balance is to seem interested, but able to go on living if she doesn't feel the same way. It's only fair, since she has every right not to want to get involved with you.
Of course, nothing will work if it's completely unnatural to you. Always be yourself, but always improve yourself. It's great to learn to be confident and to see the world in a new way, but it's not great to learn to pretend. Nothing good will come of a relationship built on lies. Some girls actually find shyness attractive, though it can definitely be taken too far.
Giving girls you're not dating gifts they don't expect without creeping them is possible, but should not be attempted by someone who lacks confidence. TBH, if you're posting on AT for girl advice, it's probably an area you should avoid for the present. Your first gift should tend more toward a used CD or book than white gold earrings. If you choose correctly, it will mean more to her anyway. Yes, I said USED, not new, unless you want a girl who cares about the difference. You may NOT order your first gift off the internet.
I must now go play Battlefield 2.
"Would you like to go out with me sometime? That is, if it's ok with you. I think you're incredible." Ick.
versus...
"Oh, I just remembered something I wanted to ask you. Have you been to (such and such restaurant / club / art gallery / state prison)? Cause I was wondering if it's as good as it looks, but I keep forgetting to try it. (You say that before she answers the question.) You haven't? Well, let's go! Yes, now, before I forget again! C'mon!"
Don't take this too close to Friendsville if that's not where you want to go. At a new restaurant, you can buy her meal by saying some variant of "OH no, it's my first time here, it was my idea, I'm buying!" Do not offer to buy- just say you're buying. Do this after you already get there. Do not study her for a reaction- say you're buying and look at the menu. If she accepts, she's probably interested...if she firmly insists on paying herself, she's probably not interested in more than friendship, and you need to respect that. Again, beware of Friendsville- the ideal balance is to seem interested, but able to go on living if she doesn't feel the same way. It's only fair, since she has every right not to want to get involved with you.
Of course, nothing will work if it's completely unnatural to you. Always be yourself, but always improve yourself. It's great to learn to be confident and to see the world in a new way, but it's not great to learn to pretend. Nothing good will come of a relationship built on lies. Some girls actually find shyness attractive, though it can definitely be taken too far.
Giving girls you're not dating gifts they don't expect without creeping them is possible, but should not be attempted by someone who lacks confidence. TBH, if you're posting on AT for girl advice, it's probably an area you should avoid for the present. Your first gift should tend more toward a used CD or book than white gold earrings. If you choose correctly, it will mean more to her anyway. Yes, I said USED, not new, unless you want a girl who cares about the difference. You may NOT order your first gift off the internet.
I must now go play Battlefield 2.