Valentines day, get your lady something or pay the price later

[mikeymikec]

nvm

 

[Platypus]

If your partner cares enough to get upset about something as trite as this Hallmark holiday, you chose poorly.

 

[Phanuel]

Sure he does; all lasting relationships are built on a foundation of deception, unspoken resentment and alcohol abuse.

 

[reallyscrued]

Playing with fire here.

She said nothing's needed this time around. Nothing's what I got her.

Wonder how it's gonna turn out when she notices her friends getting things; this usually infuriates them more than anything.

Children, all of them.

 

[Eureka]

Problem is, then you go to AT L&R and you see all these topics about bad relationships going down the drain. And you have people saying how V-day is just a sham and that their S/O knows better...

 

[Jeffg010]

HA HA to all the no pussy getting MFers. Getting my wife some flowers and chocolate parfait and licking it off her naked body.

 

[Texashiker]

Sure he does; all lasting relationships are built on a foundation of deception, unspoken resentment and alcohol abuse.

At least I have relationships with real women, and not some used blowup doll you bought off ebay.

 

[bigpimpatl]

Apply your logic to Christmas...why wait until that exact day to give your loved ones something?

If you really cared about someone you wouldn't choose a specific day to refuse to do nice things just to take a stand against nothing.

that's exactly right.

If I want to be nice/giving to someone I should do it everyday or whenever I can. But I'm not doing it because it's valentines day or christmas or whatever and thus society tells me to. I couldn't care less about that.

 

[purbeast0]

i will not be purchasing from proflowers ever again. the flowers my wife received are embarassing. they are all wilted over and look like shit.

 

[Fritzo]

Did the lazy Proflowers thing last week. Quick, easy, guaranteed BJ tonight...can't go wrong.

 

[lokiju]

Little do you know, your wife has been secretly shitting in your sandwich because you never get her anything for Valentine's Day.

Was my wife who brought up not doing cards anymore because she thinks they're stupid.

We use Valentines as a reminder to do a date night though since we don't do enough of them throughout the year really. It takes more planning to do anything now days with a kid since we have to line up a babysitter.

Actually going to go out this weekend to dinner and movie. She picked the new Die Hard movie .

 

[thestrangebrew1]

I gave my wife her Valentine's gift early, a Panasonic GF5 camera. Took the family to Disney on Ice and wanted to her to test it out to see if she liked it. Got her a dozen pink long stemmed roses she should be getting any minute.

 

[KeithTalent]

I bought her (well us) a six course dessert tasting with matching booze for tonight; she got me a new shirt, tie, and cuff-links from Pink.

I think I may pick up a Kobo-glo for her today as well. :hmm:

KT

 

[IndyColtsFan]

i will not be purchasing from proflowers ever again. the flowers my wife received are embarassing. they are all wilted over and look like shit.

I always do 1-800-Flowers. Yeah, they cost too much but my wife has always loved them.

 

[ImpulsE69]

LMAO I can't tell how much of these responses are just trollers, but anyone who's been in a real relationship knows how it goes. If it's not V day, it's another "holiday" or time of meaning where she expects SOMETHING.

I got mine pipes for her Harley...but that was for both Vday and our anniversary which is a few days away.

 

[Fausto]

At least I have relationships with real women, and not some used blowup doll you bought off ebay.

Twenty grand would have bought you the Ferrari of pneumatic partners, Tex.

 

[thestrangebrew1]

i will not be purchasing from proflowers ever again. the flowers my wife received are embarassing. they are all wilted over and look like shit.

Not good. This is where I ordered. Although, they've been good to me the last few times I've used them. I usually order flowers for my wife 2-3x/yr.

 

[crashtestdummy]

Meh. Neither of us really love Valentine's day. It makes romance feel incredibly un-spontaneous and the restaurants are always packed.

 

[Platypus]

LMAO I can't tell how much of these responses are just trollers, but anyone who's been in a real relationship knows how it goes.

Is it really so hard to believe that some people just don't play into this fake holiday bullshit?

TIL my relationship isn't real because I don't buy into tacky consumerism.

 

[ImpulsE69]

Is it really so hard to believe that some people just don't play into this fake holiday bullshit?

You left off the part of the quote that put that into perspective. Vday or not, they are ALL made up and regardless of what a woman says, she wants some sort of acknowledgment that you care. It doesn't have to be V-day. If it was considered necessary for you to buy gifts on Presidents day, people would do it.

 

[Eureka]

Is it really so hard to believe that some people just don't play into this fake holiday bullshit?

TIL my relationship isn't real because I don't buy into tacky consumerism.

It only works if both parties realize they don't want to do it. There's a very careful line between "she says she doesn't want to do it" vs "she actually doesn't want to do it".

Then you have people who want to feel smug for not buying into Valentines days and just trolling for the hell of it.

 

[Vdubchaos]

Problem is, then you go to AT L&R and you see all these topics about bad relationships going down the drain. And you have people saying how V-day is just a sham and that their S/O knows better...

You just defined a foundation of a Online Forum.

If people had no problems, they wouldn't exist.

No One goes online to rave about how great things are. Most people find these forums when they have PC issues (Car issues or relationship issues in other forums).

It's simply the nature of the beast. if there was no problems, there would be no internet forums.

So you need to take what you said with a grain of salt. You cant' just go to a forum and assume "ohh look, everyone is posting issues....this much suck".

Not at all, you are forgetting about MILLIONs of people that have NO issues and simply don't even care/know such forum exists.

 

[KeithTalent]

Is it really so hard to believe that some people just don't play into this fake holiday bullshit?

TIL my relationship isn't real because I don't buy into tacky consumerism.

That doesn't really matter to me, it's just another day where I do something nice for the person I care about. I do things on other days as well, but I have no issue with doing a little something more on the 14th of a particular month. /shrug

KT

 

[Platypus]

You left off the part of the quote that put that into perspective. Vday or not, they are ALL made up and regardless of what a woman says, she wants some sort of acknowledgment that you care. It doesn't have to be V-day. If it was considered necessary for you to buy gifts on Presidents day, people would do it.

I didn't leave anything out, I'm challenging your claim that someone has to "expect" something because social norms dictate you should. That's nonsense and the kind of attitude that perpetuates this commercial bombardment. You don't need a holiday to express that you care for someone, I do that every day.

 

[ImpulsE69]

I didn't leave anything out, I'm challenging your claim that someone has to "expect" something because social norms dictate you should. That's nonsense and the kind of attitude that perpetuates this commercial bombardment. You don't need a holiday to express that you care for someone, I do that every day.

You're challenging for the wrong reason, and thus, you'll never have a long relationship unless you find that 1% of women (assuming we're talking women here) who truly do not buy into it. A man can "not" buy into it all he wants, but it's not the man we're talking about here, it's a woman, and that's a whole other ball game. Like I said, you can denounce V day all you want, but if your woman doesn't, even if she claims to, good luck. Things are expected on anniversaries too. I suppose you don't buy into those either? I am not saying I agree with it (I hate Christmas), I'm just speaking realistically. Considering I'm on year 18 marriage of a 20 year relationship, I think I have at least some knowledge of the subject.