Vasectomy at 28: One man's decision

[ch33zw1z]

Well, I'm 27 and considered it...but I will wait until wife+me decide where to have another baby or not. If it wasn't for that, would've been done already.

 

[skace]

Guarantee his opinion will change.

 

[Pantoot]

Originally posted by: nakedfrog

Originally posted by: Fritzo
My experience:

[snip - pun intended ]

So, no, it didn't go easy for me, but at least I don't have to worry about "things" anymore

The wife and I are still figuring out which of us is getting done, but I've picked out a doc that gives you IV sedatives (twilight sleep) and a local if I'm the lucky one.

Get it done yourself, it is a way less invasive procedure for you than her. A couple pills and a couple of bags of frozen peas for the weekend.
One hint, when you see the puff of smoke, resist the urge to smell it.

 

[LtPage1]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Vasectomy at 28: One man's decision
Byrum is the only male child in his family, and if he does not reproduce, the family line will die out. Lauer asked if that was a consideration.

wtf-- What is this, 1842? Who the hell cares?

 

[zerocool84]

I was thinking about this since I know as of right now I don't want any children but maybe 10yrs down the line I might so I don't want to do something now that I can't reverse later when my opinion changes.

 

[manowar821]

I know I've already posted about this, but I think people tend to be lazy and not read all the way back.. So... Vasclip, VASCLIP, VASCLIP! It's a device that's used to pinch off the VD instead of cut it, and can easily be removed later on in life. The operation is much less invasive. I think it's a very responsible route to go, it prevents unwanted fertilization. However, with a vasclip, you can have it easily removed later, and I think people forget that your two friends down under still produce the little swimming bastards... You can save your sperm for later, in case the reversal operation is botched and you still want to give your wife your own sperm.

That said, there are a lot of assholes in this thread. Nothings wrong with getting an operation like this, and it most certainly isn't being done by stupid people. In fact, it's been PROVEN that the ignorant-masses of the world have far more kids on average than the educated.

People need to get over the primitive mindset that they "MUST SPREAD SEEEEEEEEEEED". You're like animals. Now get the hell off my leg.

 

[SunnyD]

I'll be getting it done sometime this year. I'm 31.




Of course my 4th and final child is due in April.

 

[Dacalo]

Originally posted by: Fritzo
When he's alone and family-less in his 70's, I'm sure we'll hear a loud "WHAT THE F*** DID I DO THAT FOR????"

People that think like this seem to be self centered to me, and it just rubs me the wrong way. It's like they're saying "My wants and needs are the most important, and I'm not going to share my life or change my lifestyle for any reason."

Well, in that regard, he is helping your cause by not spreading his genes.

 

[Fritzo]

Who revived a 4 month old post? It's all mildewy and smells funny.

 

[Poulsonator]

Originally posted by: JackBurton

Originally posted by: Fritzo
When he's alone and family-less in his 70's, I'm sure we'll hear a loud "WHAT THE F*** DID I DO THAT FOR????"

People that think like this seem to be self centered to me, and it just rubs me the wrong way. It's like they're saying "My wants and needs are the most important, and I'm not going to share my life or change my lifestyle for any reason."

You know what rubs me the wrong way, stupid thought processes like this. How the f*ck is this guy MORE selfish than someone that had a kid? I'd say people that have a kid naturally are just as selfish. The ONLY reasons you would have a kid is because you f*cked up and got someone pregnant (meaning you are too dumb or careless), wanted a kid to carry on your "family name," or you just wanted a kid just like you wanted anything else in life. If you REALLY wanted to be UNselfish, you should be adopting. So don't give me this selfish sh!t.

The guy didn't want to ruin his life with kids, it's as simple as that. And he can ALWAYS have a kid. There are plenty kids that need a good home that are up for adoption.

And for all the people that have kids as some kind of old age insurance plolicy, don't come crying to me when the kids drop you off at the old folks home. I'll be living by myself in my sweet home with all the money I saved and invested because I DIDN'T have kids.

Thank you, thank you, thank you Jack Burton. A voice of reason.

 

[slag]

Originally posted by: Fritzo
Who revived a 4 month old post? It's all mildewy and smells funny.

I did because I'm getting the procedure and wanted to spark more conversation. No need to make a new thread about it.

 

[Beau]

I'm getting snipped @ 27, but then again I already have one daughter, and have a son coming in june... 2 is enough for me.

 

[Special K]

Originally posted by: slag

Originally posted by: Fritzo
Who revived a 4 month old post? It's all mildewy and smells funny.

I did because I'm getting the procedure and wanted to spark more conversation. No need to make a new thread about it.

It's a catch-22: if you bump the old post, people complain. If you make a new post on the same topic, they complain because you didn't do a search to find the old post.

 

[Gooberlx2]

Originally posted by: SearchMaster
My sister-in-law had a hysterectomy at ~32 years old for the same reason. She's always known she didn't want to be a mother.

What!? Any OBGYN who would agree to a hysterectomy as reasonable birth control has crossed an ethical line. A tubal ligation, at most, would have likely sufficed perfectly fine. I'm betting there's more to your sister-in-law's story, if that's even what she had at all.

edit: Oh, apparently this is an old bumped topic. n/m.

 

[JS80]

Originally posted by: Fritzo
When he's alone and family-less in his 70's, I'm sure we'll hear a loud "WHAT THE F*** DID I DO THAT FOR????"

People that think like this seem to be self centered to me, and it just rubs me the wrong way. It's like they're saying "My wants and needs are the most important, and I'm not going to share my life or change my lifestyle for any reason."

Seriously, what a selfish douche. Interview him at 50 and see if he's the same. But people are free to make stupid decisions.

 

[Gooberlx2]

Originally posted by: Special K

Originally posted by: slag

Originally posted by: Fritzo
Who revived a 4 month old post? It's all mildewy and smells funny.

I did because I'm getting the procedure and wanted to spark more conversation. No need to make a new thread about it.

It's a catch-22: if you bump the old post, people complain. If you make a new post on the same topic, they complain because you didn't do a search to find the old post.

A new post would have been a better alternative to bumping an old post with 9 pages of a lot of conversation unrelated to slag's particular situation.

 

[Q]

Is this something anyone here has done or considered?

Shit no

 

[Rage187]

Originally posted by: Kaspian
Interesting article Mosh:thumbsup:


For a long time I considered doing the same thing. Ever since I can remember I've never wanted children. The thought of me becoming a father someday never appealed to me. I used to think that way till my daughter was born 5 years ago (I was 30 at the time). Her birth completly changed me completly (for the better). Its a blessing.

Same here, never wanted kids till my wife got pregnant. Then BAM, I wanted to be a father. My 1yr old daughter is the greatest thing in the world and I can't imagine life before her or without her.

 

[Mloot]

I got it done about 3 years ago.

 

[SuperSix]

Same here - about 3 years ago. Nice to have sex without worrying about getting the lady pregnant. PM if anyone has any questions.

 

[Fritzo]

Originally posted by: Rage187

Originally posted by: Kaspian
Interesting article Mosh:thumbsup:


For a long time I considered doing the same thing. Ever since I can remember I've never wanted children. The thought of me becoming a father someday never appealed to me. I used to think that way till my daughter was born 5 years ago (I was 30 at the time). Her birth completly changed me completly (for the better). Its a blessing.

Same here, never wanted kids till my wife got pregnant. Then BAM, I wanted to be a father. My 1yr old daughter is the greatest thing in the world and I can't imagine life before her or without her.

This is what happens to everyone---they don't know what they're missing.

 

[OdiN]

Originally posted by: vi_edit

Originally posted by: SearchMaster
My sister-in-law had a hysterectomy at ~32 years old for the same reason. She's always known she didn't want to be a mother.

Women don't have a hysterectomy for the sake of birth control because they don't *want* kids. I don't know of a single doctor that would go through with it on an otherwise healthy 32 year old.

Friend of mine had it done.

 

[ModerateRepZero]

reminds me of this article:

http://nymag.com/nymetro/night.../columns/mating/14917/

 

[rasczak]

Originally posted by: Alistar7

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: Alistar7

Originally posted by: scorp00

Originally posted by: Alistar7

Originally posted by: Alistar7

Originally posted by: scorp00
I want to get it done. I'm 25/single/no kids and from what i've read it is hard to find a doctor to do it on someone like me. I don't want kids ever, I don't even want to get married. Both for financial reasons. I make decent money and either one would cost me dearly. I hate how if an accident happens then the guy is totally at the will of the woman. If she want's to keep it then there goes tens of thousands in child support. Think there is any chance I can find a doctor to do it for me? Some of my friends have recently had kids, which makes me even more sure I don't want kids.

What if the woman decides she does not want the child, but the man does? His child is aborted and there is nothing he can do to prevent it from happening. My only qualm with abortion, a man should be able to force a woman to carry his child to term if he is willing to assume full custody and care. In that instance she should have to pay child support whether she excercises her right to be part of that childs life or not.

Still waiting for the fallout from this bomb, no takers?

I don't think he should be able to force her to carry to term, it's her body. I do believe that if I offer to pay for an abortion she should either have to get it or I should not have to ever pay any child support.

You contradicted yourself. You think you should be able to force her to have an abortion, but not carry to term, who are you to tell her what to do with "her body"? In both instances you are doing just that.

I don't buy the "its her body" arguement, it is only the vessel, it is not fundamentally and permantly damaged if she is forced to carry to term. If the man wants the child and the woman does not it should work the same as if the positions were switched, which is the protection mothers enjoy. Equal rights for both parents, not just mothers.

i see where there is some "unfairness" felt by males in this situation, but don't even go there and try to say that the woman's body is not changed after she has given birth. there are definitely some permanent changes.

A woman can recover her figure with proper diet and working out, hormonal changes, not much can be done about that. My point stands, both parents should be have the right to choose, should be given the same rights and standards, and protection under the law.

sorry bud, bud no woman will ever be the same after having had a baby. her figure will never be the same without some sort of intervention as the stomach muscles, vaginal muscles will have been stretched too their limit by the pregnancy and resulting birth. i do agree that the man should have some say in whether the baby is aborted or not, but ultimately that woman is in control because it is HER body. Now if you want to have a uterus placed in you and want to carry a child, then be our guest.

 

[rbV5]

Might as well, Brits can make sperms now if you need 'um later