Waitress told me she wasnt happy with tip!

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getbush

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Originally posted by: montanafan
A $7 tip sounds just fine for a $46 bill to me and it sounds like the waitress was crazy for complaining about it, but... the way I read the OP is that there was a group of people at the table and it was just the OP's part of the total that came to $46. Could the waitress have thought that the $7 tip was all she was getting for the entire table? Did the friends leave tips for their parts of the bill as well? If the bill for the whole group came to say, $200 and the only tip she received was the OP's $7, I could see her asking if the service was alright as he said in the beginning. Following him outside as she did was ridiculous regardless, but it could have all started because of a misunderstanding about the total tip for the table or it could have been because the OP's friends were too cheap to leave a tip of their own.

If you would have read the thread, you would have known that his friend also left $38 on a $30 tab. Regardless, if she had misundertood, it's not an excuse to go nuts on him.


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imported_Zeke

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Originally posted by: getbush
Originally posted by: montanafan
A $7 tip sounds just fine for a $46 bill to me and it sounds like the waitress was crazy for complaining about it, but... the way I read the OP is that there was a group of people at the table and it was just the OP's part of the total that came to $46. Could the waitress have thought that the $7 tip was all she was getting for the entire table? Did the friends leave tips for their parts of the bill as well? If the bill for the whole group came to say, $200 and the only tip she received was the OP's $7, I could see her asking if the service was alright as he said in the beginning. Following him outside as she did was ridiculous regardless, but it could have all started because of a misunderstanding about the total tip for the table or it could have been because the OP's friends were too cheap to leave a tip of their own.

If you would have read the thread, you would have known that his friend also left $38 on a $30 tab. Irregardless, if she had misundertood, it's not an excuse to go nuts on him.

Every time you say irregardess a little more of what little good is left in the world dies.
 

montanafan

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Originally posted by: Zeke
Originally posted by: getbush

If you would have read the thread, you would have known that his friend also left $38 on a $30 tab. Irregardless, if she had misundertood, it's not an excuse to go nuts on him.

Every time you say irregardess a little more of what little good is left in the world dies.


Oops, didn't see the part about the friend leaving a $38 tip, but I did say that her running out after them was ridiculous, regardless.

And for Zeke,

 

doze

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Jul 26, 2005
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What a bitch, $7 is more than enough for decent service on a $46 check.
 

miniMUNCH

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Given the crappy service, I'd say your tip was generous, OP. That girl was being a bitch.

When I get good service I tip 20% or more.

okay/decent service gets 12-15%, depending on my mood.

Crappy service gets less.

When making my judgement of the service I do take in consideration how many table they have. If they are working their butt off but just have too many tables I'm not going to hold it against them.
 

Amused

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The proper way to react in this situation:

Go back in the establishment and ask to speak to the manager. Explain the situation calmly and politely to them. Then demand your entire tip be returned.

Never yell, threaten, snap or react to hostility. Being calm and polite is paramount.

Get the contact info for the owners of the establishment. Explain the situation to them in the same manner.

What the waitress did was not only wrong, it's taboo among wait staff. You NEVER comment on a tip to the customer. NEVER.

Well, that's my 2 cents.
 

tyler811

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Years ago I went into a diner and ordered breakfast. Took them 15 minutes just to get my coffee (only 3 other people in diner) and an hour to get my food (it was cold) and never received a refill on my coffee. I left a penny for a tip.
 

Wheezer

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I am a firm believer in the tipping method Dick used on 3rd Rock from the Sun.

You lay a wad of ones' on the table and notify the server that is thier potential tip, every time they screw up, you take some away from the tip.



 

waggy

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Originally posted by: Wheezer
I am a firm believer in the tipping method Dick used on 3rd Rock from the Sun.

You lay a wad of ones' on the table and notify the server that is thier potential tip, every time they screw up, you take some away from the tip.

heheh i would love to try that once.
 

chambersc

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Originally posted by: waggy
Originally posted by: Wheezer
I am a firm believer in the tipping method Dick used on 3rd Rock from the Sun.

You lay a wad of ones' on the table and notify the server that is thier potential tip, every time they screw up, you take some away from the tip.

heheh i would love to try that once.

one day, when i'm in the money, i'm going to do this.
 

Tbirdkid

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tell them the tip is not to breathe underwater, or look both ways before crossing the street. they will learn any tip is better than none especially if they sucked.
 

altonb1

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Originally posted by: EyeMWing
As a rule, I will NEVER tip if they mention it, and I will NEVER tip in the case of a pay-up-front scenario, if it's asked for on the receipt. I might leave one on the table if I have cash, but that's rare.

You are a selfish asshat.

The wait staff at a buffet still provides service to you, whether it is simply cleaning dishes from the table, refilling drinks, etc.

This evening, my wife and 4 of our 5 kids went to Old Country Buffet for dinner. (the oldest was at a birthday party) The bill was somewhere around $18.50 or so, and I left $3. That was more than 15%, but it was only $3...the waitress was good about keeping the dirty plates off the table. We go to buffets and always tip. Depending on service, though, the server may only get $1...it depends on how long my glass is empty and how high the plates get on the table.
 

getbush

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Originally posted by: chambersc
Originally posted by: waggy
Originally posted by: Wheezer
I am a firm believer in the tipping method Dick used on 3rd Rock from the Sun.

You lay a wad of ones' on the table and notify the server that is thier potential tip, every time they screw up, you take some away from the tip.

heheh i would love to try that once.

one day, when i'm in the money, i'm going to do this.

I was out with friends back in high school and my friend did that to the waitress as a joke. Pulled out the wad and announced it at the start and everything. She was a good sport and got a good tip. I wouldn't have done it but it was funny when he did.
 

dug777

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Oct 13, 2004
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Yet another shining example of how a tipping culture sucks.

It's a self-fulfilling prophecy for shameless bribery or accept crappy service/awkward situations/ from all of the examples i've seen on ATOT.

Here, people get paid a decent wage, and they do a great job, or they get fired. No unpleasantness or awkwardness about how much to tip, you pay what is noted on the bill & everyone is very happy.
 

Rubycon

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Aug 10, 2005
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Some of you would be in for a big surprise if you went on a cruise.

No wonder people are going over the rails on the other lines.
 

Ime

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I tip 15-20% myself. If the server can't keep my glass from running dry (a huge pet peeve of mine) their tip goes down quickly.

I don't blame servers for the food quality, they don't cook the stuff. So my main determination of the server's tip is how whether or not my glass runs dry.
 

Excelsior

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Originally posted by: KarenMarie
the fact that she even brought it up shows a lack of etiquette.

the fact that she invited you to leave a cash tip after you told her what was wrong, shows a lack of decorum.

as for going out in the parking lot after you... if she had a shred of class, she would be ashamed of herself.

Yep.
 

Eeezee

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A) 15% tip is very standard
B) According to you, there really were things wrong with the service
C) Does she graciously bow and thank anyone who tips generously? I suspect not

Normally I'll tip $1 per drink, even if it's only $3. I assume you were at a restaurant and not a bar. You should tip more at the bar.
 

jagec

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Originally posted by: dug777
Here, people get paid a decent wage, and they do a great job, or they get fired. No unpleasantness or awkwardness about how much to tip, you pay what is noted on the bill & everyone is very happy.

Yup, much better method IMHO. Tipping sucks.

I really don't care too much about "service" anyway, unless I'm eating at a fancy restaurant. If you're at a bar or a chain restaurant, it seems to me that taking your order and bringing you your food (which is all I expect) shouldn't earn you a bonus, since it's just your job. If I want the water in my glass to be refilled every five minutes, the waitstaff to be dressed in suits, and a thorough discussion of what's on the wine list, I'll go to a fancy place, and expect to pay the $$$ for it. Tipping for "service" at a cheap restaurant is just pretentiousness on both sides of the deal, the customer and the staff pretending the place is fancier than it really is.
 
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