A pin heads will look at something according to their own assumed definitions looking for deviations from their expectations. A holistic contextual thinker will try to see what the other person intended by the word they used. Language is malleable an easily influenced by artistic creativity. It can be imprecise, suggestive, allegorical, used loosely or with intentional precision. You try to shoehorn people into a single rut. No matter how skilled you may be at linear narrow minded precision, you won't lose that capacity by adding flexibility and generosity to your thinking. Other people may have linguistic gifts you lack.
This is my way of telling you that the use of the word aggressive as applied to a socially inappropriate fixed gaze allowed me to understand with perfect clarity what he meant. Try looking at things you think people express incorrectly as if you were wrong and look for why what they said is perfectly OK. The advantage to this is that you will irritate people less by being pedantic. You are a good person and so I don't want you to face constant social rejection.
Do you mind explaining what you think he meant in other words than aggressive so I can understand.
The point of me asking what was meant by aggressive is an attempt for me to understand his usage. The only way I know to expand my understanding of others usages is to ask them how they use it. I have not yet developed mind reading.
He did not say anything that was not okay. He used a word that in the context of what I saw did not fit my usage. I asked how it was aggressive and then provided a hypothetical to see how that usage would fit. Those are both great ways to help me understand his usage.
If people are annoyed by my ignorance of their beliefs and thoughts, then I have little hope of doing anything other than annoying them further, because, I will almost certainly try and understand them by engaging them.
I'm not too worried about social rejection on this forum. My goal here is to have discussions and challenge ideas. I'm not concerned about people not liking me, other than how it might limit the aforementioned.