Yeah, but you can have a party at the wedding out of spite... then have another party with your own parents later
Parent's can't make the trip (it's in the midwest, we're on the east coast)
I don't think this is going the way OP hoped
nah, i'm talking out loud and perhaps you guys are right and i'm over reacting. obviously there's more baggage i'm not getting into, but the mil and sil are a certain breed of selfish that i just can't stand, and it just rubs me the very wrong way that we're being inconvenienced in a very passive aggressive way for what most likely is a visa wedding
My sister in law did something pretty nasty and planned her wedding for the same day as our kid's first birthday - I have my theories, but she's always been pretty jealous of my wife and i'm pretty sure stealing our wife's thunder is part of the equation.
The problem is that my mom and dad are in their 70s and 80s (with my mom having week long trips to the hospital 3 times this year) and the guilt is creeping - my mom's pretty crushed that she can't spend the kid's birthday with her, and I love my mom a hell of a lot more than my selfish sister in a law. Since my parents are too weak to make the trip across country to the wedding, what would you do? We've canceled birthday plans but now it's just digging into me, it being completely unfair that my parents have to miss out on their granddaughter's big day. For some background on my feelings re: my sil - I'm a blue state liberal minority, she's red state country subversive racism. I don't care for her, but of course adore my wife.
I hate being the stick in the mud and don't like family drama, but I"m fairly certain they booked the dates with a bit of spite and dont want them to get away with it
You're playing into their game. The only way to win that game is to not play it.
How long have you been married OP? Are you to the point yet where you can just tell your wife to have a good time at the wedding, you aren't going?
During the wedding, grab the DJ's mic and announce that you're celebrating your kid's first birthday. Bring out a small cake for your kid and have everyone sing happy birthday. Your attention whore sister in law will shit a fit and can't do anything or she'd look horrible.
Oh, that's only part of it. She tattled on me to my in laws after that pot incident mentioned in that thread, and ignored me on facebook among other things, we're not friendsm we don't get a long, at all. and my wife loves her, hence my conundrum, I"d otherwise have nada to do with her..
...record and upload straight to youtube, "WOMAN GOES CRAZY DURING WEDDING"
What do your political beliefs have to do with anything?
That is no good that your wife likes her sister if the sister is not nice to you. Either way i am sure your SIL will do more of this to you in the future, specially if she has kids. Why is someone marrying her is she is a witch?
BTW, i recently started to hate my FIL and after he threw a temper tantrum because i was asking his to clarify something. My wife has yet to side with me that he was out of line even though she saw one of the tantrums and her other family was present.
From reading all of your threads here over the years: you over analyze everything and assign the worst possible intention to other people's actions.
nah, i'm talking out loud and perhaps you guys are right and i'm over reacting. obviously there's more baggage i'm not getting into, but the mil and sil are a certain breed of selfish that i just can't stand, and it just rubs me the very wrong way that we're being inconvenienced in a very passive aggressive way for what most likely is a visa wedding