Wedding planning blows *****'s *** ****.

[IndyColtsFan]

As a man, you know what the great thing about a wedding is? It magically plans itself.

I'm so glad my wife didn't have a "I'm a princess" complex and want a huge, expensive wedding. I think there were 15 people there and it was a nice, small, intimate affair and was reasonable. Some people were mad they didn't get invited, but that's just the way things go and they'll just have to get over it.

 

[lsd]

You don't have to have a wedding, just do what I did. Get her pregnant and people will understand why you're not having a wedding. Take all that money for a days worth of memories for her and turn it into a 2 week vacation and a down payment on a house for both of you. No doubt the family will hate you at first but they will eventually come around when the baby is born.
lol

 

[IronWing]

heh, so glad my in-laws basically planned the whole thing. I just showed up, was fed a lot, and married the girl of my dreams.

This. We knew the main source of drama would be my MIL so we let her plan everything. We just showed up and took our assigned place on top of the cake.

 

[SandEagle]

heh, so glad my in-laws basically planned the whole thing. I just showed up, was fed a lot, and married the girl of my dreams.

one thing indians know how to do is weddings. love going to indian weddings. where was my invite? not very hindustani of you to exclude other fellow indies

 

[RedCOMET]

My wife did all of our wedding planning. What made ours extra hard was the fact we were getting married on the west coast and we lived on the east coast. Her family offered some help but not much during the early phases of the planning. They did a lot of help near the end, though doing odds and ends.


Also, most of my family didn't come to my wedding since they lived on the east coast and had about a years notice of the date and location of the wedding. It's your special day, screw the family that either won't or can't make it come.

 

[sao123]

screw everyone... get on a boat and get married on an island... with noone else present.

 

[nehalem256]

screw everyone... get on a boat and get married on an island... with noone else present.

Don't do a big wedding. Just do something simple for a few thousand with only your immediate family. Under twenty people.

I approve of these ideas.

I always said my ideal wedding was me, a girl, 2 witnesses, and a sea captain.

 

[vi edit]

screw everyone... get on a boat and get married on an island... with noone else present.

Replace boat with plane and you have what we did. Got tired of trying to make everyone happy, talked to both parents and said "we're outta here...will send videos of ceremony...buhbye!"

Booked tickets and a week at a Sandals resort. Only thing we had to "plan" was were on the resort to get married, what songs to play for a quick dance, and what we wanted for dinner that night. Took 15 minutes. Married at 11:00AM, on a boat and snorkeling by 1:00PM, and eating lobster on the beach at 5:00PM. Had mimosas brought to us for breakfast the next morning at 11:00AM.

Wouldn't have done it any other way.

 

[SSSnail]

The best way to do this is to plan it between the two of you, and the only decision you leave it up for everyone else is whether to show up, or not. That's it.

 

[Puppies04]

He thinks he's important and talks down to my fiancee like she's an idiot. "IT'S TOO FAR" "TOO EXPENSIVE". Yeah what a brother you are, why don't you pay her back that 30K, act like a real man, then you can talk.

And have you actually said that to him? Sounds like he needs a massive reality check.

 

[Sluggo]

I agree with Vegas or Caribbean.

Just tell everyone we will be in This Place on This Date getting married. If you would like to attend we would love to have you there. If you want to bitch or whine about the decision we have made please wait until after I leave because I really don't want to hear it.

 

[Imp]

City Hall + Wait in line = Burning bridges, but no problemo?

 

[kranky]

My canned response to all those who wanted to create drama: "I'm sorry you feel that way."

This gets the point across that you aren't going to do anything different just because of a complaint, and doesn't allow for escalating the discussion. Most I ever had to repeat it was three times.

 

[Dr. Detroit]

Destination Wedding -

then throw a giant reception back home with a few kegs, a few boxes of wine, a DJ, and some cold cuts for the friends and family.

No need to bring a gift.

None of this applies if your Asian though - just hand the reins to your parents.

 

[OutHouse]

Sounds like?

I couldn't find my thread I posted earlier.

He's a man baby. 34 years old, lives at home with mom, leases a lexus 'for mom' then drives it around himself, failed a business and owes my fiance 30K (you'll never see it), doesn't act brotherly at all (slept in his room while his little sister was moving out), etc.

Their dad passed away recently. He now says "I'm the man of the house & family" at his parents' home.

He thinks he's important and talks down to my fiancee like she's an idiot. "IT'S TOO FAR" "TOO EXPENSIVE". Yeah what a brother you are, why don't you pay her back that 30K, act like a real man, then you can talk.

Holy hell dont invite him.

 

[busydude]

heh, so glad my in-laws basically planned the whole thing. I just showed up, was fed a lot, and married the girl of my dreams.

Perks of being an Indian.

 

[djnsmith7]

Some people (friends & family) go nuts over weddings & often times have totally unrealistic expectations & lose sight of what's most important. Seen it happen a few times.

It can be challenging for the two getting married to keep perspective at all times throughout the process. You have to keep the project in front of you & just keep plugging along, step by step. When you stop doing that momentarily, is usually when you get blindsided by the other folks.

Can't be afraid to put your foot down & hold your ground. Don't let folks push you around.

 

[silverpig]

I had no issues with mine. I didn't care about a single thing that day, so long as I ended up married at the end of it.

 

[Shawn]

Just think, this is the best your life will be from here on out

Not true. Wait until your first child is born.

 

[blankslate]

Just think after the wedding you can have other arguments about what names your in-laws want for your future progeny.

 

[blankslate]

Not true. Wait until your first child is born.

Imagine if he has daughters and no sons. Man with this age of sexting and such, I wouldn't be surprised if he paid extra to the cell carrier to be able to read the e-mails and texts.

Have fun dude.

 

[NutBucket]

The best way to do this is to plan it between the two of you, and the only decision you leave it up for everyone else is whether to show up, or not. That's it.

You should've asked your mom first. And her parents and her family. And 90 minutes is too far.

screw everyone... get on a boat and get married on an island... with noone else present.

Basically some combination of all of this. My wife and I decided when and where we getting married. Semi-destinantion (400 miles away) and we had about 40 guests including family. Did not want the huge wedding that would have happened had it been local.

Too far, don't show up.

 

[FallenHero]

Welcome to married life. It doesn't end. Although like others in this thread have said already, it's a decision between you and your future wife. I told everyone that bitched about our decisions to not come if they don't like the date, time, or place. All but 6 guests we invited showed.

 

[Brainonska511]

90 minutes is too far? What universe are they living in?

 

[RedCOMET]

Basically some combination of all of this. My wife and I decided when and where we getting married. Semi-destinantion (400 miles away) and we had about 40 guests including family. Did not want the huge wedding that would have happened had it been local.

Too far, don't show up.

I got my married 20 minutes from where my wife grew up. Only problem was that it was 3k miles from where I grew up and for where most of my extended family lives. I heard from my some of my family that it was too far or it was a destination wedding. And most of them didn't show up. My side of the family occupied 2 tables. No loss for me or my wife as the wedding tHat we had was The wedding uthat we wanted.

Don't worry OP. Also, if the family members that are bitching are not footing the bill for anything, then their opinions don't matter.