What can I say to women without screwing up?

[RussianSoldier]

Women = money x time

Everyone knows that time is money (time = money)

This means

Women = money * money (money squared)

If money is the root of all evil, then

Women = sqroot(evil) * sqroot(evil)

Which is the same as

Women = evil

Mathematical proof that women are indeed evil.

 

[AreaCode707]

Ask questions instead of talking? I guarentee that you'll find something to say off of what she says. You sound like you're comfortable with technology and philosophy because you've thought a lot on them and have a lot to say. But if you're really looking for converation rather than a monologue, subjects where you are on rock hard steady expert ground may not provide space for a good interchange of thoughts.

 

[ajpa123]

Originally posted by: HotChic
Ask questions instead of talking? I guarentee that you'll find something to say off of what she says. You sound like you're comfortable with technology and philosophy because you've thought a lot on them and have a lot to say. But if you're really looking for converation rather than a monologue, subjects where you are on rock hard steady expert ground may not provide space for a good interchange of thoughts.

Ask what? Something like this...?
'Hey babe, you think Socrates would use a pc or a mac.. ?'

 

[phreakah]

i agree w/ the person who said ask them questions and let them talk... since you're not a "conversationalist", let them do the talking and "listen" to what they have to say, plus it'll make you sound like you're interested cause you're asking

 

[chrissyo4]

Listen to what a woman has to say and then go from there.
Talk to women about their interests.
Get to know them and then open up about yourself.
Who knows you may like to talk about all that stuff if you meet the right woman.
G'luck!

 

[Wahsapa]

just ask them questions. and the ones that dont like talking like making out.

 

[datalink7]

Get money.

Say "I have teh money."

Yuo = teh win.

 

[gunblade]

Originally posted by: ajpa123

Originally posted by: HotChic
Ask questions instead of talking? I guarentee that you'll find something to say off of what she says. You sound like you're comfortable with technology and philosophy because you've thought a lot on them and have a lot to say. But if you're really looking for converation rather than a monologue, subjects where you are on rock hard steady expert ground may not provide space for a good interchange of thoughts.

Ask what? Something like this...?
'Hey babe, you think Socrates would use a pc or a mac.. ?'

Classic question.

 

[bobbybe01]

You have to "Build A Relationship of Trust" with a woman. It's not as hard as you're making it out to be...you are the biggest stumbling block there is to this kind of thing, really. I think it's safe to say that you might be to concerned about yourself...you're nervous about how she'll perceive you. Being nervous is ok, they even find it a little cute, but paralyzing fear won't do you any good. Just ask questions and find out who she is. Watch how the late night talk show hosts do it. They ask a question...then based upon the person's answer, they'll select something from it and probe futher. For instance:

You: So what were some things you like to do for fun?
Her: I like to watch movies, hang out with my friends, shopping.
You: Oh yeah? What kind of movies do you like?
Her: I like a lot of movies...The Notebook.
You: Ok...did you ever see Spiderman 2? That's my favorite.
Her: Yeah, it was great!
You: Ask her what she liked about Spiderman 2 or The Notebook...just keep asking questions.

If a girl is nice or brave enough (girls can be shy too), she'll ask you questions as well. Just be cheerful, and be real. I suggest talking to girls at the cash register, or in line for something, whatever. Just make small talk and practice. It's not that hard.

Btw, you're not asking the girl to marry you. You're not interviewing for a job. You're not being held at gunpoint. Don't sweat it. If you can build a relationship of trust, present yourself well...then you can invite her to do things with you, and if there are any bumps along the way, try to resolve those concerns or move on. Don't sweat it bud.

 

[booger711]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
Let the girls choose the topic and then agree with whatever they say.

You will have a smooth life that way.

just shut up, smile and nod. a lot.

 

[gotsmack]

Originally posted by: datalink7
Get money.

Say "I have teh money."

Yuo = teh win.

GOLD!!!

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lets see if they accept it. #383353

 

[5489]

What can I say to women without screwing up?

absolutely nothing.

just now my girlfriend said that jennifer gardner looked intelligent, and i said no i think she's stupid. and i refered to when she was on Conan, when she said that snuck wasn't a word. and my gf got upset. i guess cause i disagreed with her? i dont know, and i probably never will

 

[badmouse]

There are different types of conversations.

But first there is small talk. You can think of it as "booting up" - it's the stuff that comes first. A classic example of small talk is the weather. NOBODY REALLY CARES ABOUT THE WEATHER!! It's just a neutral starting place that enables you to begin to connect. Person A will say "Sure is hot today". Person B is socially required to answer that in some way. Person A must pay attention carefully to Person B's response: is it friendly, neutral, or bad?
Friendly: "Hot now, but it's supposed to rain later."
Neutral: "Yeah."
Bad: "Who gives a f*ck about the weather"

The friendly person has given you a signal that they want to continue the conversation, and has given you a handy additional thing to talk about: rain. Now you can either continue with the temperature subject, or you can swerve towards rain (or any other precipitation). Warning: you are still in the "bootup" stage of the conversation, you haven't yet connected on any significant level. Keep it in the correct mode.
Good response: "If we get more rain the south 40 (or Route 40) will flood"
Bad response: "I like screwing hot chix in the rain"

Person B can then respond with a remark on the subject of: heat, rain, flooding OR the south 40/Route 40.

This back-and-forth stuff goes on until both parties feel comfortable enough with each other to end the "bootup" safely and go on to the next level of conversation, which is where something might actualy be talked about.

Small talk is not meant to be interesting, it's meant to be a way to connect with another person. It's a game. Your leet smalltalk skillz:
*choosing acceptable topics: weather, compliments, appropriate responses to environmental signals (i.e. "didja see that?"), etc.
*paying attention to responses and knowing when to stop and move on to a different person
*picking up clues from responses to know where to take the conversation
*giving out clues so that the other person can keep talking happily

Small talk if done well is VERY comforting. It will continue for the entire length of your relationship. A good relationship can actually thrive on small talk alone.

Good luck. Man, it IS hot out there today . . .

 

[badmouse]

Conversation Part Two.

You have connected via small talk, or whatever. You are now actually conversing.
Person A: I REALLY love this band's music, they RULE.
Small talk responses: "I love them too, I met the lead singer at a wedding once" or "Yeah, I've heard of them, I like Elvis and Sinatra better" etc.

Conversation response: "You do? Tell me more."

THAT'S IT. You signal that you heard what they said, you are telling them that you are a willing interested safe party to talk to, and that you want them to keep talking.

Remember all those things you've heard about how a good conversationalist is a good listener? Aha. THIS is what they are talking about. Somebody says something, YOU let them know that you are paying attention and that you care about what they're saying. Do you really care about (example) hair styles? Hell, no. You really care about the person TALKING about hair styles. Not as a stalker or as a potential date or because they are interesting, but BECAUSE THEY ARE A FELLOW HUMAN BEING.

Good luck. So, you're having trouble conversing with girls - the subjects don't seem right? Tell me more . . .

 

[Tiamat]

Originally posted by: booger711

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
Let the girls choose the topic and then agree with whatever they say.

You will have a smooth life that way.

just shut up, smile and nod. a lot.

haha, indeed. It saves a lot of trouble. Never disagree with the girlie in public. Very bad results. Also, the trap is this: She is allowed to say "that guy is hot" But you are by no means allowed to say "that chick is cute". That would be a one way road to disaster. Whats really tough is when she asks "do you think that girl was cute?" Then you have to be smart about it. Ether: "I wasnt looking/paying attn" (ignorance is bliss), or something else that keeps her as first in line.

 

[3chordcharlie]

Remember that Women#1 != Women#2... != Women#n. Except if you're spending your time at some sort of meat-market (in which case what you look like will be more important than what you say anyway), there's no sense trying to make a 'game-plan' for talking to women; they're just people!

The less concerned you are with talking to 'a woman' the less trouble you will have; the best way to talk to women is to pretty much forget that they are women. With the exception of farts, women are interested in most of the same things as men, so don't be uptight and don't try to change who you are when a woman walks in to the room.

I expect there's a lot of people who can tell you they met most of the significant women in their lives when they least expected it, weren't 'looking' and made no effort to be on their 'best behaviour'.

On the off-chance you are mostly talking about social anxiety related to speaking to women under all cicumstances, I would suggest either spending time with a female friend (make sure there is little or no attraction here so you can get comfortable with simply thinking of them as a persona few sessions of counselling with a female counsellor.

 

[purepolly]

Hell no, we are not evil.

Have you read Ken Wilber?