let me elaborate on my feelings a little bit...
oh, FYI, i really appreciate the serious answers. i know everyone is different, but it lets me look from a different point of view and realize some of my faults may be causing things to go wrong as well. i am interested in fixing this because i have a lot of time invested in this relationship and she is a great girl.
the reason i am just now thinking about this is because i kind of woke up one day, had breakfast, and looked at her picture in the frame in my room. i sat there thinking about how cute her smile is, and then it just hit me...i dont really know a whole lot about her besides she is cute as a button and i love her for who she is. but that was just the problem...i analyzed my feelings and figured out i dont know who she really is. i mean i do, but i dont...its complicated (im sure you all understand).
to make some things clear: we were friends before we started dating (for about 2 months i guess) and we are still friends now. when we argue, i try to just take a deep breath and let it go (unless it needs to be sorted out immediately and emotions are involved). it doesnt always work, but i make an honest effort. she doesnt like to argue, but she also doesnt like to debate and discuss things. i like to, so that kind of gets on my nerves. i see something controversial, i want to talk to her about it, and she just ignores me or gets a little frustrated if i dont see it her way. she doesnt get mad and need things to be her way, its just the confrontation part of it that she avoids.
Yeeny, I really thought about your post and took it to heart. i know i am a different person in some ways and so is she, and as far as i know she is willing to roll with the punches. the problem is she wont tell me what i am doing wrong. i let her know what i dislike about her (not in a rude way, i say it very nice and calm the first 10 times, then i start to get a little annoyed). i try to talk to her about it, but i think she is afraid to hurt my feelings. i said to her a few weeks ago "please, i dont care how bad you will think you hurt my feelings. just tell me if i do something, anything at all, that bothers you." she sat there silent, even though i know i do things that annoy her.
i am willing to accept her changes, and she is willing to accept mine. however, she wont tell me anything about herself in the process, which is why there is that big problem. i dont know if i have stepped on her toes because even if i did she wouldnt tell me.
i really do love her, even though at this stage im having a hard time putting a finger on why, but i know i do.