What does it take for a child to become a successful adult?

[Willoughbyva]

When it comes to children and turning them to "successful" adults; what does it take?

What is success?
What does it take to make a child that way?

 

[johnjohn320]

TV.

 

[Colt45]

$$$

well, the majority seems to think so at least

 

[ScottyB]

erectile dysfunction

 

[UglyCasanova]

Um, I'm not sure this is a question you can give a definate answer to. My opinion is that if you feel that your life is full and that you work hard and enjoy life then you are a sucess.

 

[FrustratedUser]

Food
Good playground
Sleep

 

[vi edit]

A role model with a strong work ethic.

 

[SlowSS]

From the very beginning,

They must be taught what is right and wrong, and consequence of wrongs.
Provide lot of love
Provide lot of encouragement and support
Make them feel that they are special, and they mean everything to you
Be consistant with them, misbehavior will not be tolerated
They must understand the importance of education
They must understand that nothing comes easy, and hard work is necessary
Spend lot of quality time with them
Respect is earned not given
That every action will follow with re-action
That they are responsibly for their action, do not blame something or someone else



There are more, but can't think right now.

 

[Mallow]

I truely wish I knew the answer to this question. As someone who will be having kids in the next 5-7 years I would love to know. From grades 5-8 I was a total freakin' loser. Got F's in school and cared about nothing. My parents basically left me alone, trusted me a lot (for some reason) and gave me a little guidance and now I'm on my way to medical school. All of the sudden during the middle of my 9th grade year I decided I wanted to do something with my life and that school was very important to me. I HAVE NO CLUE WHY! I just decided. I graduated from college with a 3.9+ GPR from a major university in Texas and a Biology major. I have always watched rated R movies and played video games but I also have an inated interest in learning, go figure. I like to figure things out and learning is actually fun for me.

I think I matured at a faster rate than my piers and realized how pointless it would be to throw my life away. I wish I could instill my thought patterns of success and study habits in my children to be, but in the end it is every individuals decisions.

One big part, IMHO, is a good work ethic. As long as a person has a good work ethic instilled at an early age things are on the right track. Also, respect for life is, IMO, important. I have never hunted a day in my life, I respect all life and I like it that way. Nothing against hunters, I know many. Just for my individual, I think not having a hunting father really influenced me positively.

Another thing that greatly influenced my life was good teachers. My Biology teacher once told me, "What could be cooler than studing life? Without life, there is nothing." I took this to heart and have basically lived my life by it. It was definately the start of my loving foundation for Biology and life it's self.

I'll stop rambling now. This is a very important question and I hope all fathers consider it.

 

[charrison]

Originally posted by: vi_edit
A role model with a strong work ethic.

 

[KMurphy]

Love, Discipline and Consistency. Both natural parents don't hurt given the previous three. I was only given the first (Love) by my mother, but I had a lot of inner strength to quit hitting the crack pipe (for real) and turn my life around. I consider myself successful now because I'm very fulfilled in life; 3 boys, a loving and trustworthy wife and a great career where my wife can stay home and raise our children. Everyone has their own opinion though.

 

[freebee]

How about the reality of the situation.....lying, cheating, and profitting off others? Should we teach our kids that now....or let them learn it later on?....

 

[charrison]

Originally posted by: freebee
How about the reality of the situation.....lying, cheating, and profitting off others? Should we teach our kids that now....or let them learn it later on?....

No, teach then honesty and intergrity so they will how to fairly deal with the liars and cheaters they will run into.

 

[Sealy]

I think the most important thing is safety and encouragement. Give them a safe place to live, and encourage them to try new things and praise them when they do well or help them move on when they fail. Always keep the lines of communication open!

 

[UglyCasanova]

Originally posted by: Sealy
I think the most important thing is safety and encouragement. Give them a safe place to live, and encourage them to try new things and praise them when they do well or help them move on when they fail. Always keep the lines of communication open!

Nah. I think being overly protective is one of the worst things you can do for a child when preparing them for the real world. Let them get hurt, break some bones and get some bruises. I know I did, and I think they turn out for the better. I agree you need to encourage children, and I wish more people would.

 

[Cyco]

To put it simple, with a few exceptions, a child is a product of his/her environment.

 

[Willoughbyva]

If you have anymore ideas about what makes a successful child I'd love to hear them.



So far- good relationships is one of the most important things. Along with food, shelter, and clothing.

Would relationship training/education for the parents and children be good thing?

 

[Sealy]

Originally posted by: dparker

Originally posted by: Sealy
I think the most important thing is safety and encouragement. Give them a safe place to live, and encourage them to try new things and praise them when they do well or help them move on when they fail. Always keep the lines of communication open!

Nah. I think being overly protective is one of the worst things you can do for a child when preparing them for the real world. Let them get hurt, break some bones and get some bruises. I know I did, and I think they turn out for the better. I agree you need to encourage children, and I wish more people would.

That's not exactly what I meant! I totally agree with you, my son has sure had his fair share of bumps and bruises from trying new things, and he's only 91/2 months!

What I meant was more of safe "metaphoric" place to live. Like they always know that when all the world is against them or whatever, they can always come to his parents and feel safe and able to talk to them.

 

[LordMaul]

Well, obviously, the most important factor would be time...

 

[WinkOsmosis]

Parents not forcing him/her to be a doctor like some of my friends . I think one of them stopped talking to me because I kept telling her that she only gets 70 years on earth then she is worm food.

 

[Tiger]

Children need to be taught discipline, hard work, and respect.
They may be politically incorrect in this modern mealy mouthed, mamby pamby, "feel good about yourself no matter what" world we currently live in.
Children need to be taught to take advantage of every opportunity they are given. If they decide not to they've got no one else to blame but themselves.

 

[BruinEd03]

Originally posted by: Willoughbyva
When it comes to children and turning them to "successful" adults; what does it take?

What is success?
What does it take to make a child that way?

a night in vegas w/ some hookers. child + hookers = man

-Ed

 

[SherEPunjab]

Originally posted by: SlowSS
From the very beginning,

They must be taught what is right and wrong, and consequence of wrongs.
Provide lot of love
Provide lot of encouragement and support
Make them feel that they are special, and they mean everything to you
Be consistant with them, misbehavior will not be tolerated
They must understand the importance of education
They must understand that nothing comes easy, and hard work is necessary
Spend lot of quality time with them
Respect is earned not given
That every action will follow with re-action
That they are responsibly for their action, do not blame something or someone else



There are more, but can't think right now.

 

[FelixDeCat]

Originally posted by: Jellomancer
Parents not forcing him/her to be a doctor like some of my friends . I think one of them stopped talking to me because I kept telling her that she only gets 70 years on earth then she is worm food.

duh.

 

[Lady In Red]

Originally posted by: vi_edit
A role model with a strong work ethic.