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Originally posted by: Mallow
I wish I knew if I am gonna spank my kids. I was spanked for sure by my dad growing up. However, I always knew he loved me more than life itself and I turned out fine. I just don't know if I'm going to do it :/
Originally posted by: Skyclad1uhm1
Originally posted by: Mallow
I wish I knew if I am gonna spank my kids. I was spanked for sure by my dad growing up. However, I always knew he loved me more than life itself and I turned out fine. I just don't know if I'm going to do it :/
As long as you know the difference between spanking and beating up, and make sure they know the reason they are spanked (and only do it when given a good reason) it should be fine.
They must be taught what is right and wrong, and consequence of wrongs.
Provide lot of love
Provide lot of encouragement and support
Make them feel that they are special, and they mean everything to you
Be consistant with them, misbehavior will not be tolerated
They must understand the importance of education
They must understand that nothing comes easy, and hard work is necessary
Spend lot of quality time with them
Respect is earned not given
That they are responsibly for their action, do not blame something or someone else
Originally posted by: BruinEd03
Originally posted by: Willoughbyva
When it comes to children and turning them to "successful" adults; what does it take?
What is success?
What does it take to make a child that way?
a night in vegas w/ some hookers. child + hookers = man
-Ed
Originally posted by: Willoughbyva
When it comes to children and turning them to "successful" adults; what does it take?
What is success?
What does it take to make a child that way?
Originally posted by: gopunk
good parents
Originally posted by: LH
They must be taught what is right and wrong, and consequence of wrongs.
I know whats right and wrong, but my parents never taught me that.
Provide lot of love
Neither of my parents have ever showed love. My mom has even said she never wanted her kids.
Provide lot of encouragement and support
Ive seen my dad ~1-2 times a year for less than a few hours, since I was 6 hes never been a part of my life. My mom has never given support or encouragement.
Make them feel that they are special, and they mean everything to you
See above.
Be consistant with them, misbehavior will not be tolerated
Neither were ever a parent. My mom was never around. Not like a misbehaved though.
They must understand the importance of education
They never seemed to care.
They must understand that nothing comes easy, and hard work is necessary
I know nothing comes easy, thanks to an example of that, my dad. He didnt teach me it, but his failures at buisness more than showed it. Kinda funny if you ask me.
Spend lot of quality time with them
None. Zilch. Nada.
Respect is earned not given
Damn right. Dont expect me to respect you if you never respect me. Ive never cursed or yell at my parents. But that has never stopped them from doing it to me.
That they are responsibly for their action, do not blame something or someone else
I know that, I have an example of what not to be like. My brother, whos serving 3 years in state prison, he still blames everyone but himself.
Are you saying Im going to be a f'ed adult. Thats not the case. I could have been but Im not. My parents have never cared, they still dont, heck my mom abandoned my for almost two years(11-13), I didnt live with my father either, I lived with her uncle. My family is beyond dysfunctional. Im making something of myself. And Ive never done drugs, drunk, or smoked, although Ive had plenty of chanes to over the years, I could have done drugs, drunk and had sex at age 11-12 but didnt. If I never have contact with my parents again Id care less.
Originally posted by: Mallow
I truely wish I knew the answer to this question. As someone who will be having kids in the next 5-7 years I would love to know. From grades 5-8 I was a total freakin' loser. Got F's in school and cared about nothing. My parents basically left me alone, trusted me a lot (for some reason) and gave me a little guidance and now I'm on my way to medical school. All of the sudden during the middle of my 9th grade year I decided I wanted to do something with my life and that school was very important to me. I HAVE NO CLUE WHY! I just decided. I graduated from college with a 3.9+ GPR from a major university in Texas and a Biology major. I have always watched rated R movies and played video games but I also have an inated interest in learning, go figure. I like to figure things out and learning is actually fun for me. I think I matured at a faster rate than my piers and realized how pointless it would be to throw my life away. I wish I could instill my thought patterns of success and study habits in my children to be, but in the end it is every individuals decisions. One big part, IMHO, is a good work ethic. As long as a person has a good work ethic instilled at an early age things are on the right track. Also, respect for life is, IMO, important. I have never hunted a day in my life, I respect all life and I like it that way. Nothing against hunters, I know many. Just for my individual, I think not having a hunting father really influenced me positively. Another thing that greatly influenced my life was good teachers. My Biology teacher once told me, "What could be cooler than studing life? Without life, there is nothing." I took this to heart and have basically lived my life by it. It was definately the start of my loving foundation for Biology and life it's self. I'll stop rambling now. This is a very important question and I hope all fathers consider it.
Originally posted by: charrison
Originally posted by: freebee
How about the reality of the situation.....lying, cheating, and profitting off others? Should we teach our kids that now....or let them learn it later on?....
No, teach then honesty and intergrity so they will how to fairly deal with the liars and cheaters they will run into.
For you to attatck my general idea of ways to raise a productive child in a way you did, tells me that you have some issues.