What does it take for a child to become a successful adult?

[Goosemaster]

Balls.

Or at least after they drop.

 

[Goosemaster]

An adult is a child with experience.

Either that or a novice with confidence.

Either way, you've gained knowledge somewhere.

Adulthood is just its autonomous-implementation

 

[eakers]

the feeling of responsibility and self worth

 

[gopunk]

good parents

 

[psianime]

Make your spouse look like the bad guy =D

-psianime

 

[FelixDeCat]

A good spanking every once in a while.

 

[Mallow]

I wish I knew if I am gonna spank my kids. I was spanked for sure by my dad growing up. However, I always knew he loved me more than life itself and I turned out fine. I just don't know if I'm going to do it :/

 

[Skyclad1uhm1]

Originally posted by: Mallow
I wish I knew if I am gonna spank my kids. I was spanked for sure by my dad growing up. However, I always knew he loved me more than life itself and I turned out fine. I just don't know if I'm going to do it :/

As long as you know the difference between spanking and beating up, and make sure they know the reason they are spanked (and only do it when given a good reason) it should be fine.

 

[tommigsr]

make sure they stay away from bad people. seriously, especially from school. there comes a time in every persons' life when peer pressure will become your worst enemy.

 

[Geekbabe]

Knowing the love of at least two people who think that they are the best thing in the entire world.

I never had a lot ,was far from the perfect mother but I always thought my kids were the best and greatest and didn't hesistate to let em know it.

 

[SlowSS]

Originally posted by: Skyclad1uhm1

Originally posted by: Mallow
I wish I knew if I am gonna spank my kids. I was spanked for sure by my dad growing up. However, I always knew he loved me more than life itself and I turned out fine. I just don't know if I'm going to do it :/

As long as you know the difference between spanking and beating up, and make sure they know the reason they are spanked (and only do it when given a good reason) it should be fine.

Yup, there is a fine line between discipline and abuse...unfortunately, some people get carried away with anger and ending up harming a child both physically and mentally.

 

[LH]

They must be taught what is right and wrong, and consequence of wrongs.

I know whats right and wrong, but my parents never taught me that.

Provide lot of love

Neither of my parents have ever showed love. My mom has even said she never wanted her kids.

Provide lot of encouragement and support

Ive seen my dad ~1-2 times a year for less than a few hours, since I was 6 hes never been a part of my life. My mom has never given support or encouragement.

Make them feel that they are special, and they mean everything to you

See above.

Be consistant with them, misbehavior will not be tolerated

Neither were ever a parent. My mom was never around. Not like a misbehaved though.

They must understand the importance of education

They never seemed to care.

They must understand that nothing comes easy, and hard work is necessary

I know nothing comes easy, thanks to an example of that, my dad. He didnt teach me it, but his failures at buisness more than showed it. Kinda funny if you ask me.

Spend lot of quality time with them

None. Zilch. Nada.

Respect is earned not given

Damn right. Dont expect me to respect you if you never respect me. Ive never cursed or yell at my parents. But that has never stopped them from doing it to me.

That they are responsibly for their action, do not blame something or someone else

I know that, I have an example of what not to be like. My brother, whos serving 3 years in state prison, he still blames everyone but himself.

Are you saying Im going to be a f'ed adult. Thats not the case. I could have been but Im not. My parents have never cared, they still dont, heck my mom abandoned my for almost two years(11-13), I didnt live with my father either, I lived with her uncle. My family is beyond dysfunctional. Im making something of myself. And Ive never done drugs, drunk, or smoked, although Ive had plenty of chanes to over the years, I could have done drugs, drunk and had sex at age 11-12 but didnt. If I never have contact with my parents again Id care less.

 

[stalecam]

Originally posted by: BruinEd03

Originally posted by: Willoughbyva
When it comes to children and turning them to "successful" adults; what does it take?

What is success?
What does it take to make a child that way?

a night in vegas w/ some hookers. child + hookers = man

-Ed

lololol

 

[Raspewtin]

Originally posted by: Willoughbyva
When it comes to children and turning them to "successful" adults; what does it take?

What is success?
What does it take to make a child that way?

I think success is happiness and peace. What makes a child happy is probably different from child to child, but I would think it requires some unconditional love from parents and a lot of nurturing. I had neither but I am happy so I guess those things aren't necessary. I guess I have no clue what is required.

 

[Mardeth]

Genes.

 

[sciencetoy]

Taking care of them when they are little and need it, being there when they start making mistakes, cheering like h*ll when they do something they think is good, and letting go so that they can grow up.

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: gopunk
good parents

Good role model and a good work ethic.

Doesn't have to be the brightist but works hard. That child will be *successful* in anything. You can only go so far with your own work eithic though. Sooner or later you will need *connections* and *luck*

 

[her209]

Happiness

 

[SlowSS]

Originally posted by: LH

They must be taught what is right and wrong, and consequence of wrongs.

I know whats right and wrong, but my parents never taught me that.

Provide lot of love

Neither of my parents have ever showed love. My mom has even said she never wanted her kids.

Provide lot of encouragement and support

Ive seen my dad ~1-2 times a year for less than a few hours, since I was 6 hes never been a part of my life. My mom has never given support or encouragement.

Make them feel that they are special, and they mean everything to you

See above.

Be consistant with them, misbehavior will not be tolerated

Neither were ever a parent. My mom was never around. Not like a misbehaved though.

They must understand the importance of education

They never seemed to care.

They must understand that nothing comes easy, and hard work is necessary

I know nothing comes easy, thanks to an example of that, my dad. He didnt teach me it, but his failures at buisness more than showed it. Kinda funny if you ask me.

Spend lot of quality time with them

None. Zilch. Nada.

Respect is earned not given

Damn right. Dont expect me to respect you if you never respect me. Ive never cursed or yell at my parents. But that has never stopped them from doing it to me.

That they are responsibly for their action, do not blame something or someone else

I know that, I have an example of what not to be like. My brother, whos serving 3 years in state prison, he still blames everyone but himself.

Are you saying Im going to be a f'ed adult. Thats not the case. I could have been but Im not. My parents have never cared, they still dont, heck my mom abandoned my for almost two years(11-13), I didnt live with my father either, I lived with her uncle. My family is beyond dysfunctional. Im making something of myself. And Ive never done drugs, drunk, or smoked, although Ive had plenty of chanes to over the years, I could have done drugs, drunk and had sex at age 11-12 but didnt. If I never have contact with my parents again Id care less.

You know, personally I really don't give damn how you were raised nor whether you are a F-up individual or not.

Oh, there are always exceptions to the rule.

For you to attatck my general idea of ways to raise a productive child in a way you did, tells me that you have some issues.


Those list works for me, and I couldn't careless whether you agree or not.

 

[DanTMWTMP]

hehehe

i say be strict @ an early age.....and go ez later on...but gotta make sure they're in the right group of friends...that's why u gotta be strict early on........donno......i have to emulate what my parents did to me and my bro....


wooosh...

TV works..yeah..heh...so does computers...oh hell yeah..

 

[matmax]

Originally posted by: Mallow
I truely wish I knew the answer to this question. As someone who will be having kids in the next 5-7 years I would love to know. From grades 5-8 I was a total freakin' loser. Got F's in school and cared about nothing. My parents basically left me alone, trusted me a lot (for some reason) and gave me a little guidance and now I'm on my way to medical school. All of the sudden during the middle of my 9th grade year I decided I wanted to do something with my life and that school was very important to me. I HAVE NO CLUE WHY! I just decided. I graduated from college with a 3.9+ GPR from a major university in Texas and a Biology major. I have always watched rated R movies and played video games but I also have an inated interest in learning, go figure. I like to figure things out and learning is actually fun for me. I think I matured at a faster rate than my piers and realized how pointless it would be to throw my life away. I wish I could instill my thought patterns of success and study habits in my children to be, but in the end it is every individuals decisions. One big part, IMHO, is a good work ethic. As long as a person has a good work ethic instilled at an early age things are on the right track. Also, respect for life is, IMO, important. I have never hunted a day in my life, I respect all life and I like it that way. Nothing against hunters, I know many. Just for my individual, I think not having a hunting father really influenced me positively. Another thing that greatly influenced my life was good teachers. My Biology teacher once told me, "What could be cooler than studing life? Without life, there is nothing." I took this to heart and have basically lived my life by it. It was definately the start of my loving foundation for Biology and life it's self. I'll stop rambling now. This is a very important question and I hope all fathers consider it.

why not ask your parent's it appears that they did a pretty good job with you, they provided you with all the tools for you to make the right decisions for yourself and look where you ended up. i'm a firm believer that as a parent the best thing that i can provide for my kids is the basis for making responsible decisions throughout their lives. provided that i suceed in this process my children will eventually grow up to be responsible adults and in turn be successful in what they choose to do.

 

[Spac3d]

Sex

Spac3d

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: charrison

Originally posted by: freebee
How about the reality of the situation.....lying, cheating, and profitting off others? Should we teach our kids that now....or let them learn it later on?....

No, teach then honesty and intergrity so they will how to fairly deal with the liars and cheaters they will run into.

Good answer

I have two daughters 4 and 18 mo.

Attention, compassion, and respect are what make a child a good person IMHO. Everything else is not nearly as important.

It is also extremely important to remember there is no hard and fast rule of parenting, you're a better parent if IMO if you are willing to reasess your point of view.

The best advice I've ever read comes from Spiritual Parenting: A Guide to Understanding and Nurturing the Heart of Your Child by Hugh & Gayle Prather I would recommend it to any parent. Really.

 

[LH]

For you to attatck my general idea of ways to raise a productive child in a way you did, tells me that you have some issues.

I didnt attack, I just commented. The willpower of the child plays the most important part in weather or not they will be successful or not. There are ALOT of people that have been in my situation or worse, and have become very succesful as adults, its more than just an exception. Do I have issues, yeah, not anything major. But thats besides that point. Im more successful than any of my brothers or sisters, more successful than my father ever was, and Ill soon be making more money than my mom who has been a RN for 20 years, oh and Ill be married by 25.