Everyone has similar ridiculous quirks, it's just very hard to identify your own. I guarantee your wife has the same conversation with her girlfriends about their husbands.
Yeah I might be and my wife is keeping up appearances type I mean she gets her car washed every Saturday at 1pm. I have a 8 yr old truck I've never washed. Works well though.WTF? LOL! I would have killed you too! Sounds like a "You might be a redneck" joke!
My mom did that, but she went on blood pressure medication instead of getting a divorce. She was much more even keeled afterwards.My exwife went crazy as she got older, it was like she went biopolar.
If the kids were doing something she did not like, instead of dealing with the issue, she would go into screaming fits of rage.
The same thing went for me. If there was an issue, instead of talking about it, the only way she knew how to deal with a problem was a screaming fit.
I finally drew the line, I left and we divorced.
My exwife was not like that when we met. As she got older she got worse with her anger issues. One thing that helped desolve the marriage was when she refused to get help. Several times I tried to sit down with her and talk about the issue, and her answer was another screaming rage tantrum.
Are we looking for a serious answer or just opening the door for good jokes about crazy wives?
In my experience, most women are control freaks/borderline OCD by nurture. It's how they're socialized growing up, so if they have any latent tendencies, those fires are stoked.
Later in life, they seek to control even meaningless variables in their life, to counteract the feelings of helplessness to control or combat bigger issues that they have to deal with in their daily lives. Whether it's the typical gender bias in the workplace, over competitive girl"friends" who will smile while trying to plot against them, or being trapped in an unrewarding job or loveless marriage, with the burden of children that they cannot afford to raise alone, but dont want to be parted from, even if the kids are overly needy pests who drive everyone crazy.
In short, they're acting out in less self destructive ways than the cliche'd descent into alcohol/drugs/sex/depression.
Also, the guy who says his wife of 10 years just enjoys beer/vid games/buying stuff and doesnt do this - willing to bet that you dont have kids, and if she has a job, she doesn't hate it. She also doesn't have to depend on any especially viscious female friends for companionship - cause she gets what she needs from you, cause you arent distracted by a high stress job and a litter of kids.
I could be wrong, but I doubt it.
I've been with my wife for a little over 10 years, she doesn't have any quirks I'm aware of. Unless you count enjoying craft beer, playing video games, and buying expensive toys.
- One won't allow anything to sit on a table or counters. The poor guy has to charge his cell phone at work because it's not allowed to be on the counter while charging.
She's nervous about the baby and so am I but she worries about ridiculous things sometimes. The straight up worst I can think of is the cat's worm medication. Some of it got spilled on the carpet and she was worried that she stepped on it and it harmed the baby. She even called the vet who said it was safe for pregnant cats, my wife was always wearing stocks and its taken orally by the cat. But she was still worried that somehow the tiny amount of medication, which doesn't harm babies anyway, passed through her socks and then was absorbed through her skin (even though it doesn't work that way) and passed into the bloodstream to harm the baby, which it wouldn't because it doesn't. Are you kidding me? This stuff drives me to drink.
I was so exacerbated at that exchange that I ended up using what is really a bad strategy to sooth a pregnant woman and told her that she should be more worried about inhaling diesel fumes and fumes from cars rotted exhausts that roll off the road by our house. I mean, after all gas fumes actually have been proven to cause cancer and we're inhaling them pretty much every day. Somehow that seemed to end the topic, but I think she just ran out of steam.
Sound to me like those guys need to grow some balls and stand up to their wives rather than bitch about it around a water cooler like a bunch women.
You will wire $10,000 to my account or I'm telling your wife about toxoplasmosis.
Why arent quirks ever positive. Like "my wife makes too many sandwiches", or "She is WAY too physically fit!"
Also, who the hell stands around a water cooler? The only time it is acceptable to stand around with men socializing is with a beer in your hand, meat on a grill, and/or sports on TV.
Why arent quirks ever positive. Like "my wife makes too many sandwiches", or "She is WAY too physically fit!"
Also, who the hell stands around a water cooler? The only time it is acceptable to stand around with men socializing is with a beer in your hand, meat on a grill, and/or sports on TV.
Why arent quirks ever positive. Like "my wife makes too many sandwiches", or "She is WAY too physically fit!"
Also, who the hell stands around a water cooler? The only time it is acceptable to stand around with men socializing is with a beer in your hand, meat on a grill, and/or sports on TV.
Yep, both of us are professionals in the IT field and we will never have kids. I told her the day we met that I was
a) a complete asshole
b) selfish
c) won't tolerate pointless drama
She said she was ok with that, and she apparently is. I don't think we have ever had a serious argument in the last 10 years (well I can think of one argument). For the most part, we both live our own lives, and don't live for each other. She has her hobbies, I have mine, and we have our hobbies. For example, she likes to run. I hate running, but I run with her when i'm training for competition as my hobby is judo and bjj. We both like beer and our group hobby is homebrewing.
We keep separate bank accounts, and pay bills out of a joint bill account. We keep a joint 'savings' account for retirement, new cars, house stuff, etc. But it's hard to argue about money when she's not spending your money (and she makes more money than I do).
I don't understand why people would stay in situations where they are not happy. I've always told her that if the day comes either of us are not happy, we should just move on. She's ok with that, and so far, we have always been happy. My friends can't seem to understand how I can have this relationship that isn't based on fear of what my wife will think.
pick your battles
Kids complicate it though. We have two. I love them, but they are kids, so pests in everyone elses eyes (they certainly act up at times). Getting back to the original point of the thread, I notice that whenever they and her job are becoming stressful, her OCD ticks spike.
However, I also act out in my own ways. Any guy who faces those pressures constantly and thinks he doesn't is lying to himself.
I think that some of these truly whipped individuals should have picked a few more battles than they did. Now they're doomed to spousal servitude for life!
Yeah, definitely. The times when things get really rough is when both people are drained so no one has the extra energy to bridge the gap.
Anyway, my wife has awesome qualities as well. She is a fantastic cook and I rarely have to eat a failed experiment. I'm so spoiled in that regard, she'd really have to go off the deep end to drive me away.
She insists that I unplug turned off window fans and shut off bathroom fans because she thinks they'll catch fire or burn out if not observed constantly or something.