What is more important to you? Attractiveness or Personality?

[Mill]

I have to say for initial conversation and interest that it is attractiveness that gets me interested. I've had attractiveness supersede a crappy personality, but I've never had a great personality supersede someone's bad looks. Not that I care, but does that make me shallow? I'm talking relationship wise and not just one night standwise. I doubt I could have a serious relationship with someone who has a terrible personality, but since I weigh looks more a really attractive person can have a more mediocre personality.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

What is more important to you? Attractiveness or Personality?

Polls.

- M4H

 

[radioouman]

gotta have a good balance of both, but without some level of physical attractiveness I won't care about personality.

 

[PoPPeR]

both. Lack of one will seriously hurt most relationships

 

[43st]

Little of column A, little of column B. Without one the whole thing falls apart.

 

[Ranger X]

If I don't see the potential (attractiveness), I most likely won't stick around to find out her personality. I think this works both ways.

 

[RagingBITCH]

What PoPPeR said - a certain balance b/t the two is necessary. I've been casually seeing this one chick whose mildly attractive and has a decent personality, but I just don't see it going anywhere other than just a friendship.

 

[Nanotech]

Call me shallow if you'd like but if a girl is not far above average in the looks department than I can't bring myself to be involved with her in any physical relationship.

 

[bradruth]

I need to be at least a little attracted physically to begin with, but it's the personality that determines where it'll go from there. A girl could be the hottest thing walking, but if she's a bitch I want nothing to do with her.

 

[Mill]

Originally posted by: Nanotech
Call me shallow if you'd like but if a girl is not far above average in the looks department than I can't bring myself to be involved with her in any physical relationship.

That's pretty much how I feel with one caveat. I could have sex with a semi-attractive girl, but I certainly wouldn't date one. I have really high standards so semi-attractive to me is average I'd say. Maybe I am shallow.

 

[vi edit]

Looks for initial interest then personality to keep me interested.

 

[skim milk]

physical attraction is a must.

I can work with personality somewhat

 

[djheater]

My mistress's eyes are nothing like the sun;
Coral is far more red than her lip's red;
If snow be white, why then her breasts are dun,
If hair be wires, black wires grow on her head.
I have seen roses damasked, red and white,
But no such roses see I in her cheeks;
In some perfumes there is more delight
Than the breath with which my mistress reeks.
I love to hear her speak, yet well I know,
Music hath a far more pleasing sound;
I grant I never saw a goddess go;
My mistress, when she walks, treads on the ground.
And yet, by heaven, I think my love as rare
As any she belied with false compare.

 

[isasir]

Physical gets me interested, personality gets me to stick around.

I'd definitely date a slightly overweight girl if she had an incredible personality. It's easier to lose 10 pounds than it is to go from being a bitch to being someone I'd want to spend a lot of time with.

 

[Thegonagle]

Physical attractiveness will set a spark (not extremely difficult--I have a wide range of physical taste), but then intelligence and personality must take over.

 

[SherEPunjab]

as high standards as i have it would seem to think that its attractiveness for me. it is to some degree, but i guess if the girl is a 6 on attractiveness and a 7 on personality, she's okay in my book. usually i go for 8+'s on attractiveness. 10 being like someone like carmen electra, aishwarya rai, or angie everhart.

someone who is a 10 can get by with a 3 for personality. anything less than a 3 is not doable for me. one night stands or casual, non-commitment sex are the exceptions. they can have a zero personality and if they are a 10 they still qualify. heck, even a 7 can qualify. i don't do anything less than a 7.

However, if the girl has a 9 or above personality, and is a 5 in looks, we can still be friends. she shouldn't expect hooking up though, unless she is fortunate to get me drunk and takes advantage of me. i won't hit her if she does that, but if she was a 5 in looks and anything less than a 9 in personality, i'd hit her if she took advantage of me.

cliff notes: both are very important, but the personality can pull her through if she lacks on the looks; i'll give the personality an importance of 10, and looks an importance of 9.75. What i would suggest if anyone is in this case is to tell the awesome yet plain looking personality girl to work out and get a hot bod. that will increase her looks a point or two, and help. she can also dress better, get a nose job and boob job if needed and get cool hair. that should help. then she will be an awesome personality chick and hot. but then since she's hot now she may become stuck up. maybe looks and personality go hand in hand? sometimes i think it does. what would suck if she is ugly and has a bad personality too boot. she should go jump of a cliff or something in that case.

 

[nick1985]

you need both.

 

[Lola]

The physical attraction is always there to start, but its amazing how personality takes over... i guess i feel this way because in the long run, when we are old and grey, their personality will be there...

although, on a side note, when my gramma passed away last year, my grampa had said that up until the day she died, he always found her attractive... they were married for over 55 years! :heart:

 

[Deeko]

Its very difficult to have a good relationship with someone you don't find physically attractive. Now, there are girls that I've thought were average, who I've dated because they did have great personalities, and because I was mentally attracted to them, I became more physically attracted to them, however, there are limits to how that works. A girl that I find fully unattractive I wouldn't even consider.

Note...my standards are fairly high as it is, so an "average" girl is still pretty decent looking.

 

[djNickb]

Originally posted by: radioouman
gotta have a good balance of both, but without some level of physical attractiveness I won't care about personality.

 

[neutralizer]

Originally posted by: isasir
Physical gets me interested, personality gets me to stick around.

I'd definitely date a slightly overweight girl if she had an incredible personality. It's easier to lose 10 pounds than it is to go from being a bitch to being someone I'd want to spend a lot of time with.

i agree.

 

[Amused]

Looks will get me in the sack with her... but personality will keep me there for breakfast.

 

[Whisper]

Yeah, like pretty much everyone else has said, both are important. I have to be physically attracted to the girl to want to date her...but so long as I initially think she's at least "cute," then her personality can go a LONG way in making her look even better.

But overall, personality is more important.

 

[stateofbeasley]

I'd say they are more or less equal, but outward attractiveness by its nature pretty much gets things rolling.

Personality is very important though - I met a really cute chick around Valentines day, but she turned out to be pretty rude/mean and suddenly, I don't find her desirable at all, even though from an artistic standpoint she looks quite nice.

 

[TitanDiddly]

Personality, even though I must admit I don't think I'd walk up to a 400lb girl with one eye and 4 arms.