What is the most delicate way of telling someone you will help them out financially?

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darkxshade

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And another thing, why would she invite her husband if they were financially unstable? The whole thread is full of contradictions.
 

RbSX

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Does not compute

Again, it's not just the airfare here.

I have the money, heck, I bet I have a lot more money in my checking than a lot of the people here do right now.

But there is a certain point where I have to draw the line.

All of the sudden this trip went from being $1000 including all 3 airfares, and rooms to being closer to $2000.
 

darkxshade

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Okay, I budgeted for her mother to come. I didn't budget for a 4th body, which means a bigger car, another hotel room, etc etc etc.

Are they divorced? Why would the husband need a different room?

edit: A car fits 4-5 people... who else is going? So far I count just you, the gf, mother and father.
 
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Oh yeah, Mr. SAS. I'm sure you're a real baller.

I don't get to spend all that often but 675 dollars IS pocket change when i do.

I'm sorry but if you have a job good enough to do whatever you want then a one time 675 payment shouldn't be something you cannot afford.

Now go fuck yourself you pretend to be a libertian troll.
 

RbSX

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Oh, so you have a job paying you good money and you can do whatever you want, high roller and all that bullsheit?

But you can't spend 675.

Are you working at McDonalds?

675 DOLLARS is pocket change. I've probably lost more than that on one night out and twice that paying for the night out, three times that paying for the aftermath.

Great pal, I just took her to Hawaii.

Frankly, I don't give two shit what you spend on a night out, chances are you're as big of a f*ggot in person as you are on the internet, and that 675 was spent on hookers because you can't pick up chicks.

Money doesn't make up for being a prick.
 
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Again, it's not just the airfare here.

I have the money, heck, I bet I have a lot more money in my checking than a lot of the people here do right now.

But there is a certain point where I have to draw the line.

All of the sudden this trip went from being $1000 including all 3 airfares, and rooms to being closer to $2000.

So it went from being 675 to 2K all of a sudden?

Keep track of what you are saying, high roller, it will make your lying easier.
 

RbSX

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Are they divorced? Why would the husband need a different room?

Because originally I planned on getting a single room with two king size beds.

If the dad is coming I'll get another room for the parents.
 

RbSX

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So it went from being 675 to 2K all of a sudden?

Keep track of what you are saying, high roller, it will make your lying easier.

Sounds like someone has something to prove.

If you had any ability to read, I was talking about the total cost of the trip this time, not just the airfare.

Maybe your ego has eaten away at your intelligence.
 
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Great pal, I just took her to Hawaii.

Frankly, I don't give two shit what you spend on a night out, chances are you're as big of a f*ggot in person as you are on the internet, and that 675 was spent on hookers because you can't pick up chicks.

Money doesn't make up for being a prick.

The deal here is that you were spouting off, you have a job that enables you to do whatever you want and your family is rich but you can't pay 675 if you need to?

I'm like this in real life too, yeah, it's not like your made up internet persona, i really am as big of an arsehole and just as honest and forthcoming in real life.

In my line of work you have to be.
 

RbSX

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Wait a minute. What you are saying is: You want your girlfriend's mother to come with you on vacation?

No, just a trip for my girlfriend's birthday.

My girlfriend only sees her parents once or twice a year.
 
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Sounds like someone has something to prove.

If you had any ability to read, I was talking about the total cost of the trip this time, not just the airfare.

Maybe your ego has eaten away at your intelligence.

Well you did say you couldn't afford the 675, ITS WHAT YOU FUCKING WROTE SHIT FOR BRAINS!

Now they need to live off of you too? Well surely someone who has a job enabling him to do WHATEVER HE WANTS TO DO and has family money can deal with that?

The point is, no one gives a fuck about any of this anyway, just be fucking consistant, if you're a poor guy who can't afford it it will be easier just to say so, otherwise the advice you will get will be advice assuming that you are the high roller that you claim to be.

I can't make it any clearer than that for your dumb arse.
 

RbSX

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The deal here is that you were spouting off, you have a job that enables you to do whatever you want and your family is rich but you can't pay 675 if you need to?

I'm like this in real life too, yeah, it's not like your made up internet persona, i really am as big of an arsehole and just as honest and forthcoming in real life.

In my line of work you have to be.

Great so you've effectively turned this thread into something about you.

Thankfully, I don't give a shit what you do, how you spend your money, or you in general.

So kindly get the fuck out unless you have something to contribute.

Yes, my family is rich, so rich that our boat made the cover of pacific yachting last month. You don't hear me talking about a night with $675 dollar hookers now do you?

At a certain point I have to draw the line between being generous and getting fucked. $2,000 on a 4 day weekend when I'm 23 years old is a bit over that line, regardless of how much money I make, there's a thing called common sense.
 

PaNsyBoy8

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Because something about sleeping in the same room as my girlfriend's dad is a bit weird.

You are inviting your gf's mom on a trip with you but sleeping in the same room as the dad is where it gets weird?
 

darkxshade

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$2,000 on a 4 day weekend when I'm 23 years old is a bit over that line, regardless of how much money I make, there's a thing called common sense.


While 2k is a lot of money for one person, 2k for a 4 day weekend for 4 people is actually pretty damn good deal. I just came back from a 3 day snowboarding trip[nyc-> park city, ut] and that trip cost me roughly $800-900 for myself and I'm not ashamed to say I ain't rich. It's respectable for someone who's broke to offer minor financial help but for someone who claims they are rich, it's somewhat of an insult... akin to bill gates writing a check for $100 to charity.
 

RbSX

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You are inviting your gf's mom on a trip with you but sleeping in the same room as the dad is where it gets weird?

Dude, read above.

My girlfriend sees her mother once, maybe twice a year. Her parents live on the other side of the continent from us.

I could think of no better gift for my girlfriend than to see her mother in a place that she's always wanted to go.

In a manner of speaking me bringing her mom to her is the gift, because I know in Napa they would have a ton of fun together.
 

lxskllr

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You should expect the woman's husband to come. On what planet do you invite 1/2 of a couple to come with you?

You invite, and pay for everybody, or just drop the whole thing. If money's tight for them, they don't have $700 to throw away on a trip.
 

spidey07

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Dude, read above.

My girlfriend sees her mother once, maybe twice a year. Her parents live on the other side of the continent from us.

I could think of no better gift for my girlfriend than to see her mother in a place that she's always wanted to go.

In a manner of speaking me bringing her mom to her is the gift, because I know in Napa they would have a ton of fun together.

Then just do it. 1000 bucks is not a lot of money for her to see family.
 

RbSX

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While 2k is a lot of money for one person, 2k for a 4 day weekend for 4 people is actually pretty damn good deal. I just came back from a 3 day snowboarding trip[nyc-> park city, ut] and that trip cost me roughly $800-900 for myself and I'm not ashamed to say I ain't rich. It's respectable for someone who's broke to offer minor financial help but for someone who claims they are rich, it's somewhat of an insult... akin to bill gates writing a check for $100 to charity.

I never said I was rich, I said I was better off.

My family is rich, and in previous cases that perception that I was like them, and that I pity them and look down on them has really hurt our relatioship. Even though, in my opinion, I've never said anything like that to them.

That's why this situation is so delicate, because I don't want to come off as ''I know you're poor, I'm not, I'll just take care of this for you."

It's a really uncomfortable situation. They are full of so much pride to a fault.
 

RbSX

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You should expect the woman's husband to come. On what planet do you invite 1/2 of a couple to come with you?

You invite, and pay for everybody, or just drop the whole thing. If money's tight for them, they don't have $700 to throw away on a trip.

In the land where the husband lives 3 houses away from his mom, has not left the state in 20 years, and where they have a 7 year old and a 16 year old to take care of and still need parental guidance.

Not to mention the fact that the dad doesn't really talk to my girlfriend anymore.
 
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