What is the most delicate way of telling someone you will help them out financially?

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ViviTheMage

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The deal here is that you were spouting off, you have a job that enables you to do whatever you want and your family is rich but you can't pay 675 if you need to?

I'm like this in real life too, yeah, it's not like your made up internet persona, i really am as big of an arsehole and just as honest and forthcoming in real life.

In my line of work you have to be.

Yes, we all know, maybe you should put it in your sig, so you don't have to tell everyone, everytime.
 

PaNsyBoy8

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Dude, read above.

My girlfriend sees her mother once, maybe twice a year. Her parents live on the other side of the continent from us.

I could think of no better gift for my girlfriend than to see her mother in a place that she's always wanted to go.

In a manner of speaking me bringing her mom to her is the gift, because I know in Napa they would have a ton of fun together.

Why wouldn't she want to see her father? Unless they are seperated, then inviting only the mom would be fine, if not, invite both or bring none.

I could imagine the trip now, her mom and her sitting there sipping on a glass of wine saying to each other how they miss the dad and wishing he would be there to enjoy it with them.
 

masterxfob

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good start to the new year! it looks as if we'll have no trouble nominating some threads at year end
 

RbSX

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That's a relevant detail you left out.....

His mom, not her mom.

My girlfriend's dad is a momma's boy who never roams more than a few miles from his mommy's house.

I didn't invite the guy because he doesn't really travel and my girlfriend doesn't feel the kind of kinship with her dad that she does with her mom.
 

AreaCode707

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"The best present I can think to give your daughter is to make sure her mom is there, so would you let me cover your trip expenses as my gift to her? I know it would mean the world to < gf's name> to have you be part of this trip. Do you think that <dad's name> would mind? I'd love to treat you and <dad's name> out to dinner with her when we get back so that everyone gets a chance to celebrate together as well."
 
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lxskllr

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His mom, not her mom.

My girlfriend's dad is a momma's boy who never roams more than a few miles from his mommy's house.

I didn't invite the guy because he doesn't really travel and my girlfriend doesn't feel the kind of kinship with her dad that she does with her mom.

Oh, well then we're back at square 1. Couples travel together, and it's all or none unless they decide otherwise :^/
 

RbSX

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"The best present I can think to give your daughter is to make sure her parents are there, so would you let me cover your trip expenses as my gift to her? I know it would mean the world to <name> to have you be part of this trip."

Bingo, that sounds great, the only problem is I can't afford to cover ALL of them.
 

AreaCode707

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Bingo, that sounds great, the only problem is I can't afford to cover ALL of them.


I edited my post and added when I realized that.

"The best present I can think to give your daughter is to make sure her mom is there, so would you let me cover your trip expenses as my gift to her? I know it would mean the world to < gf's name> to have you be part of this trip. Do you think that <dad's name> would mind? I'd love to treat you and <dad's name> out to dinner with her when we get back so that everyone gets a chance to celebrate together as well."
 

Mossimo142

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Bingo, that sounds great, the only problem is I can't afford to cover ALL of them.

This doesn't make any sense. You've previously stated you have a job that allows you to do whatever you want and come from money. How can you "not" afford. It seems like you just don't want to?

Not to mention if it is important to you to have her mom there just pony up the extra cash and have her dad too. It's almost as if you were hoping it'd just be her and her mom for some threeway action without the dad. Why would you feel weird sleeping in a room with her dad but not her mom??
 

RbSX

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I edited my post and added when I realized that.

"The best present I can think to give your daughter is to make sure her mom is there, so would you let me cover your trip expenses as my gift to her? I know it would mean the world to < gf's name> to have you be part of this trip. Do you think that <dad's name> would mind? I'd love to treat you and <dad's name> out to dinner with her when we get back so that everyone gets a chance to celebrate together as well."

We don't live in the same city as her parents so there is no 'when we get back' unfortunately.

Maybe I should offer to cover their hotel room or something, and let them sort something out with their airfare.
 

AreaCode707

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We don't live in the same city as her parents so there is no 'when we get back' unfortunately.

Maybe I should offer to cover their hotel room or something, and let them sort something out with their airfare.
Then skip the last line and end with "do you think <dad's name> would mind?" Maybe that gives them enough financial leeway to both come.
 

lxskllr

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Then skip the last line and end with "do you think <dad's name> would mind?" Maybe that gives them enough financial leeway to both come.

I don't like that. That's an implied "fuck you" to dad. Even if they don't get along, it just isn't cool.
 

alkemyst

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Feb 13, 2001
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Wait, I thought you said that your financial situation allowed you to do whatever you wanted. I guess not?

yeah...yet he can't spring an extra $300 for such a big party.

Anyway is your g/f destitute as well, can't she come up with a few bucks?
 

JTsyo

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Is this a surprise for the GF? If not maybe she can help ask mom if they need some help with the air tickets. You can use a line like you have frequent flyer miles that can get you a 2-way ticket for one of them.
 

RbSX

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yeah...yet he can't spring an extra $300 for such a big party.

Anyway is your g/f destitute as well, can't she come up with a few bucks?

My girlfriend actually has a lot more money than I do.

Maybe I can strike a deal with her that I pay for her and we split the expenses for her parents down the middle.
 

chalmers

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lol @ this thread. Wow you people get so angry over nothing about people you don't care about and will never meet or be friends with.
 

Jadow

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Oh, so you have a job paying you good money and you can do whatever you want, high roller and all that bullsheit?

But you can't spend 675.

Are you working at McDonalds?

675 DOLLARS is pocket change. I've probably lost more than that on one night out and twice that paying for the night out, three times that paying for the aftermath.

f man, I lost that in 5 minutes at the craps table last week, and I still had the dough for champaign and ho's
 
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OP is a douche. "Yeah I'm well off and can do whatever I want." Then goes on to say he can't afford $375. Then says well I can't afford $2000. Come on high roller. $2000? In 2010 $2000 is basically a drop in the bucket and especially for someone so well off. You're so full of sh@t!
 
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