What is wrong with me? I need a psychologist explanation.

[sparkyclarky]

Originally posted by: Kroze

Originally posted by: rival
how in the hell can you say you'll act a certain way in a hypothetical situation?

Well because i know. Here's another example.

I was in Iraq and there's like so many gas calls *we have to put on our NBC (nuclear biological chemical) gear so many times. And everytime, i just keep thinking that okay, your ass is gased. Knowing that i'm going to be killed by gas, yet, i'm calm and cool. Just as casual as can be. The sky was blowing up from all of the artillery and i never thought that the sky can be so many different color, one minute it was red as blood in the middle of the night, next it's bright as day and the constant bombing.

Read "All Quiet On the Western Front" and it might give you some perspective. I'm also quite similar to the way you describe, but I'm trying to change that....

 

[Savij]

Originally posted by: Kroze
well i don't live with my grandma anymore, my dad is an abusive alcaholic, he beats on my mom. She devorced him and now i bought a house with the money that i got from the war. My mom and I live there and we split the bills. that's pretty much it. I now back to square one. work to get money, money to pay bills and food to survive. and start all over again the next day. WTF

So you don't dislike your mom, but you also don't seem to care for her as much as you feel like you have an obligation to her?

 

[Kroze]

Read "All Quiet On the Western Front" and it might give you some perspective. I'm also quite similar to the way you describe, but I'm trying to change that....

I read that in junior year of high school

 

[Savij]

ygpm

 

[Kroze]

So you don't dislike your mom, but you also don't seem to care for her as much as you feel like you have an obligation to her?

what obligation do i have?

 

[Savij]

Originally posted by: Kroze

So you don't dislike your mom, but you also don't seem to care for her as much as you feel like you have an obligation to her?

what obligation do i have?

Don't know. I'm asking if that's what you feel about your relationship to her. Do you have to let her live with you cause you have to because she's your mother and you have to, or do you let her live with you cause you care about her...that kinda thing

 

[Rogodin2]

Also

REad some Plato (early dialoges are much easier to read and relate to)-Socrates was one of the most amazing men ever to live-I enjoy reading the dialoges much more than the bible.

rogo

 

[Rogodin2]

The sordidness of everyday life can be overwhelming, that is why you need to excercise your mind and creative powers.

rogo

 

[Kev]

Originally posted by: Rogodin2

My view on life is that you work all your life to survive day to day. Hopefully work enough to buy a house *which i did* and work till the rest of your life to stay in that house. You try hard to get a better education, but to do what? all in all, you're just trying to work harder to support your way of living. Wake up, work, pay bills. Do that for the rest of your life.

Your world view is very base-you're not even using the gift of human intelligence-your basically operating on only one function-epirical sensations.

I really sorry for you-there is a whole other word in the mind-try reading some intro to philosophy and some existentialism (kierkegaard, Kafka, Sartre 'the wall', and Doestoevsky)-hell even some mysticism might spark something.

Also read some good non-fiction-start on learing the fundamentals of logic and listen carefully (not casual listening) to some classical music (listen for the bubbles and circles-only way to change the phase).

good luck

rogo

pass the crack pipe, please

 

[Kroze]

Well, she's not going to be able to live by herself and neither will I. In a perfect world, i would be able to live with my parent and go to college and get a good job to pay for my existance. But now i'm working harder to pay for it and have to do it with her because we're the only thing each other got.

 

[Rogodin2]

pass the crack pipe, please

This comment is so absurd and inane that I won't respond to it, the level of maturity and a basic understanding of the HUMAN Condition is so LOW that I am simply disgusted.

Thank you for the reaffirmation that most MEN are only animals.

Rogo

 

[Rainsford]

Keep in mind I'm an engineering student, not a psycologist. Although psycology is sort of a hobby of mine. Anyways, here's what I think (hey, you asked).

What is wrong with you is that you are, for whatever reason, emotionally cut off from the world around you. This is a commond self defense mechanism found often in those people who have had some sort of emotional trama in their past at some point. Alternativly, it could be a slow progression over many years instead of a sudden shock or trama. Perhaps your life has been somewhat depressing and you gradually cut yourself off to keep from getting hurt. But it's really hard to say without a lot more background information and training.

My advice, seek professional help. I know enough psycology to know that you would benefit from help beyond what anyone on this board can provide. Drugs are not the answer, probably, if you are ok enough to have a stable relationship and be a productive member of the armed forces and society as a whole. But again, I couldn't possibly know enough to say for sure. Talk with someone who knows, believe me when I say that therapy can and does help a lot of people. I have never done it, so I'm not speaking from experience, but your problem sounds like something that could and should be talked through with a professional. JMHO.

 

[Kroze]

Originally posted by: Rainsford
Keep in mind I'm an engineering student, not a psycologist. Although psycology is sort of a hobby of mine. Anyways, here's what I think (hey, you asked).

What is wrong with you is that you are, for whatever reason, emotionally cut off from the world around you. This is a commond self defense mechanism found often in those people who have had some sort of emotional trama in their past at some point. Alternativly, it could be a slow progression over many years instead of a sudden shock or trama. Perhaps your life has been somewhat depressing and you gradually cut yourself off to keep from getting hurt. But it's really hard to say without a lot more background information and training.

I think you're right about this, my girl said something similar about me too in the past.

 

[Rogodin2]

Get some professional help.

rogo

 

[FelixDeCat]

diagnosis:murder

why? because it was murder, she wrote

hopefully we wont have to call on crimescene csi: svu.

 

[yellowperil]

Sounds like symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder. Whenever something bad happens you dissociate yourself and look at the situation like you're watching a movie or someone else's life.

Sometimes the numbness and detachment is useful for coping with high stress, but I think it will start impairing your life if you don't have it treated.

 

[yellowperil]

Here's a site about PTSD that may be helpful:

http://www.ncptsd.org/

Also I recommend checking out the movie "Fearless," with Jeff Bridges. It's about a guy who tries to find meaning in his life after he survives a plane crash.

 

[iwearnosox]

I've had ptsd for quite some time. I was really edgy for a while and I carried a concealed weapon- not a good combo but I felt it necessary because of goings on in my life...

Anyhoo, I can relate to being disassociated, that's for sure...

 

[Mean MrMustard]

I think it's ripe time you became a politician. You're long overdue.

 

[Aimster]

When someone finds out what's wrong with me, please let me know.

 

[Mill]

You certainly fit the definition of sociopath. Why not just go to someone you know really well and talk?

 

[iwearnosox]

Originally posted by: Mill
You certainly fit the definition of sociopath. Why not just go to someone you know really well and talk?

Afterwards he can kill and eat them. Sounds like a festive Christmas to me!

 

[Mill]

Originally posted by: iwearnosox

Originally posted by: Mill
You certainly fit the definition of sociopath. Why not just go to someone you know really well and talk?

Afterwards he can kill and eat them. Sounds like a festive Christmas to me!

Exactly, because he wouldn't care about them dying anyway. Maybe he should just start robbing banks too?

 

[Rogodin2]

This forum is worthless:

goodbye

rogo

 

[Siddhartha]

Kroze,
If you are unhappy with how you relate to people and function in relationships, I recommend that you look into therapy.