Um, giving alchol to a minor is illegal...(plus I don't drink)
+1 for M*A*S*H*. Great show. :biggrin:
I hear they like old vans with 'free candy' sprayed on the side.
Sorry. I couldn't resist.
Give her a choice! Have 2 or 3 things lined up. If you're going to a mall, tell her she can get her hair done, go on rides, or pick out a nice new outfit. Then offer her a choice between a couple sit-down restaurants.
If you have a couple things and she chooses one, it'll generally end up making her much happier.
I don't really interact with 12 year old girls that much (despite my elaborate traps), but I suspect she probably doesn't really want to hang out with you on her birthday. No offense, but taking her to the mall and going on roller coaster rides with her sounds creepy as hell. If she was like 7 or 8, maybe, 12 is too old for that.
I know your heart is in the right place. Just get her a nice card with $20 or something. She'll appreciate that.
depends on the state. its OK in texas, but not all the restIn response to the bolded...
No it's not if you are the parent or guardian.
fudge, hair, SMORES, talking about boys, makeup, justin beiber, nails, popcorn, screaming like idiots, etc.
fudge, hair, SMORES, talking about boys, makeup, justin beiber, nails, popcorn, screaming like idiots, etc.
You sound like a nice guy.
I predict the mother abusing your love and kindness and ultimately gravitating to more abuse and douchebags while cheating on you. Enjoy
+1
If you really want to help the kid, help her mom. Help her figure out or work through whatever problems she is facing, and if she is doing alright then just have her over as a friend. You aren't a part of that family, and you actually have one of your own. You can't be that kid's father figure and to try is to be presumptuous, if not downright arrogant. This is real life, not some Hallmark special.
I agree that I will never be part of her family...but I have been in that apartment building, seen her friends and her friends moms, and there are no men ANYWHERE. There are a few guys that hang out trying to get into the pants of any women they can, but no actual "adult" males at all. I feel like if I can just give her some idea of what men are supposed to act like, maybe she will chose not to involve herself with someone like her father.
Yes, it sounds like a Hallmark special, but I have to do SOMETHING...
IMHO, if you really want to provide a good fatherly example you should invite her to hang out with you and your family while you go out and do fun things, NOT hang out with her alone. After all, you want to show her what a good example of a father is, shouldn't that be done with your own family as active participants? You want her to see how a good husband treats his wife and how a good father treats his children. Spending time with her alone sounds like a recipe for confusing feelings and misleading her.
Regarding what 12 year olds might like, my niece recently celebrated her 13th birthday by going shopping in the morning and then seeing Fuerza Bruta in NYC with my wife and my niece's friend. She also went to go see One Direction on the Today show last week. At the beginning of the summer we all went to the State Fair at the Meadowloands. During all of those events she brought her best friend so keep that in mind.
The best thing to handle that is to find a 12yo girl and have her play or hang out with her. Just to be safe. You don't want to be alone with a 12yo girl. I am never alone with any girls that is 17 and below. .
The best thing to handle that is to find a 12yo girl and have her play or hang out with her. Just to be safe. You don't want to be alone with a 12yo girl. I am never alone with any girls that is 17 and below. I refused to do it.
IMHO, if you really want to provide a good fatherly example you should invite her to hang out with you and your family while you go out and do fun things, NOT hang out with her alone. After all, you want to show her what a good example of a father is, shouldn't that be done with your own family as active participants? You want her to see how a good husband treats his wife and how a good father treats his children. Spending time with her alone sounds like a recipe for confusing feelings and misleading her.
Regarding what 12 year olds might like, my niece recently celebrated her 13th birthday by going shopping in the morning and then seeing Fuerza Bruta in NYC with my wife and my niece's friend. She also went to go see One Direction on the Today show last week. At the beginning of the summer we all went to the State Fair at the Meadowloands. During all of those events she brought her best friend so keep that in mind.
Hmm, I've got younger cousins, 17 year old, 16 year old, 13 year old, 12 year old, and 7 year old (as well as "grown" younger cousins going all the way up to about 30.)
Horses (find a corral and go for an hour ride or so?)
Wall climbing (This isn't such a bad idea)
Go biking or hiking together (any interesting state parks near bye?)
Canoeing or Kayaking for a few hours?
Take her fishing?
Go mini golfing and/or Take her to driving range. (my uncle takes his 2 daughters golfing and even though they are not very good, they enjoy it.)
Go bowling
Otherwise your mall of America idea is probably a good one.
If you both have fun she can then have her male role model, just don't pretend to take over "father" duty, because that will be creepy.
As someone who once drove by that mall, I agree.As someone who grew up near Mall of America, I can say without any doubt that place is HIGHLY FUCKING OVERRATED.
Thank you and good night.