This is a very strange situation for me as I've NEVER encountered parents like this (with either someone I've dated or just regular friends)
My gf is 19 (20 in april - I am 20, 21 in july) and her parents are very controlling of her. She has to ask when she wants to go out. They tell her how long she can go out and when she has to be home. This is not just with me, but even with her friends as well.
Most times when we are out (or when anyone ever goes out), things don't always go as scheduled. Dinner starts late, a movie runs long, etc. Life happens and sometimes the night takes a couple extra hours.
The last time she was over (she came over for dinner with me and my family last night), she was supposed to be home by 9:30. She got home at about 10:30. 1 hour late, no big deal.
Anyway, she tells me today that she now has a curfew and is only allowed to go out 1 time a week (1x/7days)!
WTF are her parents thinking? This has been happening for so long and every time it comes up, they seem to threaten her living situation, telling her that she lives in their house so its their rules. She has tried talking to them in every imaginable way and they are just totally unreasonable. There is no compromising with them.
What kind of fscked up people are they? I am not gonna say anything to her parents as this is a problem between her and her parents, but I would like to help her out somehow.
What do I have to get her to say to her parents that the way they try to control her is totally unacceptable?
She doesn't want to cause problems, but I told her that this is a bad situation and someway she is gonna have to tell them that they are not gonna tell you what to do anymore and that they are just gonna have to deal with it. There isn't a nice answer to this problem.
My gf is 19 (20 in april - I am 20, 21 in july) and her parents are very controlling of her. She has to ask when she wants to go out. They tell her how long she can go out and when she has to be home. This is not just with me, but even with her friends as well.
Most times when we are out (or when anyone ever goes out), things don't always go as scheduled. Dinner starts late, a movie runs long, etc. Life happens and sometimes the night takes a couple extra hours.
The last time she was over (she came over for dinner with me and my family last night), she was supposed to be home by 9:30. She got home at about 10:30. 1 hour late, no big deal.
Anyway, she tells me today that she now has a curfew and is only allowed to go out 1 time a week (1x/7days)!
WTF are her parents thinking? This has been happening for so long and every time it comes up, they seem to threaten her living situation, telling her that she lives in their house so its their rules. She has tried talking to them in every imaginable way and they are just totally unreasonable. There is no compromising with them.
What kind of fscked up people are they? I am not gonna say anything to her parents as this is a problem between her and her parents, but I would like to help her out somehow.
What do I have to get her to say to her parents that the way they try to control her is totally unacceptable?
She doesn't want to cause problems, but I told her that this is a bad situation and someway she is gonna have to tell them that they are not gonna tell you what to do anymore and that they are just gonna have to deal with it. There isn't a nice answer to this problem.