Originally posted by: Carbonyl
I wish a smart ass like you would show up telling me how to raise my kids. Fun to shoot my nail gun at moving objects. The her parents not her roomies we need more like that.
[strongbad]WAT ARE YOU TOKKIN' ABAHT?![/strongbad]Do you people have any idea how difficult it would be to pay rent in an appartment and still pay for school? We are all old enough to make decisions for ourselves at 18, but most people until they hit about 24 (or are out of university) can not afford to live on their own. Its just not reasonable to expect that.
Originally posted by: Stefan
Btw, she is paying for school herself. She is in a full course load and will be in med school in 2 years. Not to mention that she is working a lot as well. She is NOT loafing at all. Hell, she's the only person in her family to ever go to university.
I simply focused on part of your message: yo umake it seem like they are totaly out of their right, and that is not the case. She lives with them (under them) and is supported by them, and they have the say of her conduct during that time. they are forcing rules on her due to a parental decision, for one reasonor another, and I really don't expect that to make sense to people that aren't parents.Originally posted by: Eli
Originally posted by: godmare
That's the most bass-ackwards statement in this thread yet. They're not making her turn tricks for food and board.Originally posted by: Eli
If they realized that, maybe they would shape up..
What are you talking about? You took my statement totally out of context, read it with the other sentances.
What is the point in forcing these rules on her? That's right, there are none. Why can't she live her life? It does not matter that they are providing food and shelter, they can still be reasonable.
Originally posted by: Stefan
I can't understand you people who say "If she doesnt like the rules then she should move out" and "as long as she lives in the house she has to live by the rules". That is just absurd.
Do you people have any idea how difficult it would be to pay rent in an appartment and still pay for school? We are all old enough to make decisions for ourselves at 18, but most people until they hit about 24 (or are out of university) can not afford to live on their own. Its just not reasonable to expect that.
Of course your parents are providing a great service for you by letting you live at home. But the fact is, THATS WHAT BEING A PARENT IS! You help your kid with things until they can support themselves. If you are going to school full time and working to make some money for yourself your parents should help you with shelter and food as long as you need. Obviously you pay for your personal things like clothes and entertainment, etc.
What kind of fscked up parent thinks "Ok, well my kid is 18 so I dont have to LEGALLY support him, MY JOB IS DONE"?!?
See... that's fscked up. It sounds like she is being very responsible. She's going to, and paying for school...
She either needs to have a talk with them, or tell them to fsck off and move out. Maybe she can move in with you until you guys can find your own place.
Originally posted by: Stefan
Btw, she is paying for school herself. She is in a full course load and will be in med school in 2 years. Not to mention that she is working a lot as well. She is NOT loafing at all. Hell, she's the only person in her family to ever go to university.
Perhaps you were more trustworthy, or perhaps your parents were more lax (for better or worse, that's not the issue).My parents were never like that... It's called trust. I have been able to go anywhere and do virtually anything I wanted to since I was around 12. Of course, I had to be home by dark in the earlier years, but.. lol.
I cannot imagine having controlling parents like that.. For what purpose? There has to be a reason. If there is no reason, then it's BS.
There, that's very sensible. Aside from telling them to fvck off, that is...She either needs to have a talk with them, or tell them to fsck off and move out. Maybe she can move in with you until you guys can find your own place.
Originally posted by: godmare
I simply focused on part of your message: yo umake it seem like they are totaly out of their right, and that is not the case. She lives with them (under them) and is supported by them, and they have the say of her conduct during that time. they are forcing rules on her due to a parental decision, for one reasonor another, and I really don't expect that to make sense to people that aren't parents.Originally posted by: Eli
Originally posted by: godmare
That's the most bass-ackwards statement in this thread yet. They're not making her turn tricks for food and board.Originally posted by: Eli
If they realized that, maybe they would shape up..
What are you talking about? You took my statement totally out of context, read it with the other sentances.
What is the point in forcing these rules on her? That's right, there are none. Why can't she live her life? It does not matter that they are providing food and shelter, they can still be reasonable.
You see, she's not actually living her life yet, as you say, she's partaking in theirs. If the rules are inconvenient, etc, then by all means she should talk with her parents 'that doesn't mean telling them they are stupid, then running to her room that they provide for her and slamming the door that they have hung for her, etc., it means presenting her case in an adult fashion. If they do not sway, for whatever, very likely good, I might add, reason, and they do not defer whatsoever after a period of religious 'rule-following', then she should take her independent self up to the local 'this place is hiring' joint and get an application. This should be done in several places, really. Then, when she has her own capital rolling in, she can create herself whatever reality she wants in her own home.
Originally posted by: Stefan
Btw, she is paying for school herself. She is in a full course load and will be in med school in 2 years. Not to mention that she is working a lot as well. She is NOT loafing at all. Hell, she's the only person in her family to ever go to university.
She should have planned ahead. If she did good enough in school, she'd have all teh scholarships in the world to pay for school, and excess to pay for rent/living
I bet they're Chinese parents
Originally posted by: Stefan
She should have planned ahead. If she did good enough in school, she'd have all teh scholarships in the world to pay for school, and excess to pay for rent/living
She already is going to school on scholorships (not full scholorship though). She had the highest average in her HS (like 95 or something - and she was taking all kinds of AP classes - plus a 1st year university calc class)
Originally posted by: Stefan
only allowed to go out 1 time a week (1x/7days)!
If you've only been going out for two weeks, then just leave it alone, or find another girlfriend.
Start developing a friendlier relationship with the parents where they know you and can trust you.
The best you can honestly do, is get them to like you