Why are [Western] women expected to change their last names after getting married?

[SandEagle]

screw that. My last name is long. i'm not changing it!

lol my daughter keeps saying she is going to merry a guy with a last name like "smith" or such. something easy LOL

Waggy Long? i didn't know you were Asian.

 

[waggy]

Waggy Long? i didn't know you were Asian.

naa my penis is longer then 2 inches! :awe:

..though waggy long does sound kinda neat..

Alot of chicks are starting to Hyphenate their last name into it. I only see this on Facebook though, I doubt this is their legal last name that show up on their license

you have got to be trolling..

 

[Red Storm]

I don't think they're expected to do it, a lot of them do so simply because it was common practice.

 

[schneiderguy]

Seems only like the fair thing to do if we are moving toward and free-er, equal and open society. Amirite?

Sure thing. Sign women up for the draft while you're at it. And they can open their own fucking pickle jars too.

Anyone who hyphenates is an asshole.

This. If I ever become a serial killer my victims will be solely comprised of people with hyphenated last names.

 

[rudeguy]

This. If I ever become a serial killer my victims will be solely comprised of people with hyphenated last names.

every woman I've ever talked to who hyphenates (at least 200) is a pretentious, snobby bitch.

I could understand if she were famous or had a famous family...but these morons whose name is now Jones-Snobloski is just stupid. You are just pissing off everyone who has to type or write your name. There is absolutely no good reason to do this.



PS: *IF I ever do get married, I'll take my wife's name.

 

[dabuddha]

Why not?

 

[CPA]

Alot of chicks are starting to Hyphenate their last name into it. I only see this on Facebook though, I doubt this is their legal last name that show up on their license

They do that so it's easier for old high school and college friends to find them. My wife did it, however, her legal last name is just my last name. She did not hyphenate.

 

[nickbits]

I hate hyphenated names.

I told my wife: change your name or not, I don't care but don't hyphenate it!

As to equality, there really is no equality when it comes to many parts of relationships. Why are men expected to buy engagement rings? Why are men expected to propose?

 

[radhak]

Some women don't change their last names when they marry, and those who do aren't required to do so by law. Thus, they're doing it of their own free will. Do you oppose women having a free choice in this matter?

This. True everywhere, even Asia.

My wife never changed her last name; a few of her wedding gifts were bank checks ( ) with her first name and my last name : the banks would not honor those, and we had to go back to the gifters...

Our daughters are now saying her first name with my last name would have sounded cool, she should have changed. Of course, every time she comes across a new last name, my younger one tries it out with hers - 'just to see how it sounds'...

On name lengths - my first name is nine characters, last name is 13, and middle is 9 again. Unless I initialize the middle, it never fits many forms. When we closed on our home, we realized that one letter in my name was misspelled all over the papers, so I had to correct it, and initialize, in around a gazillion places. That was one time I envied my colleague named Li Ni or something, or even my wife, last name length 5.

 

[torpid]

Cue the Avett Brothers.

 

[Baked]

Anything is better than people creating combos with their parents' last name. Seeing how most retards in this country can't stay married for more than a couple years with the same person they claim to love in the 1st place, you now have children with level 3 or 4 step parents, and combo last names that make it difficult for employers like me to enter into the payroll system. So I just ask for their biological father's last name.

 

[SunnyD]

One of my daughters' first name is hyphenated. Take that bitches!

 

[D1gger]

My wife choose to take my last name, but then added her maiden last name as a middle name. No hyphenation, but she got to keep both.

 

[torpid]

Anything is better than people creating combos with their parents' last name. Seeing how most retards in this country can't stay married for more than a couple years with the same person they claim to love in the 1st place, you now have children with level 3 or 4 step parents, and combo last names that make it difficult for employers like me to enter into the payroll system. So I just ask for their biological father's last name.

I have a friend who has no middle name because her parents expects her to take her maiden name as her middle name when she gets married. I'd say that's worse. I would do the opposite in protest if someone pulled that crap on me.

 

[Remobz]

I rather nobody gets married...problem solved!!

 

[HardcoreRobot]

why do arabs have 300 names?

why do latinos have 4?

culture and tradition, interesting subject but not really one of the worlds unsolved mysteries

for westerners, women were property of their fathers until they were married, at which point they were property of their husband. logical to carry the associated label.

 

[sixone]

I debated this when I got married. I don't think anyone else would have cared whether I kept my maiden name, took my husband's name, or hyphenated.

In the end, I decided that if we were going to be a family, we should all have the same name. Never occurred to me to ask him to change his - he would have said no, in any case.

But I did miss having all three initials the same. Glad to have that back.

 

[MrColin]

I think that the trend away from this is a tiny part of a larger political and cultural campaign against men in general. Only time will tell how much men in the west will allow the radical feminist movement and white-knighting politicians to perpetrate against us. We are already less than equal to women in the eyes of the law.

I'm a hard lefty on most issues so I think my concerns on this might give pause to those who might try to dismiss my view as parroting rush limbaugh.

I could actually care less about the name changing thing though, it should be decided between the parties involved.

 

[shopbruin]

Alot of chicks are starting to Hyphenate their last name into it. I only see this on Facebook though, I doubt this is their legal last name that show up on their license

I have my maiden and last name on my FB, but I didn't hyphenate (I absolutely refused) my last name after getting married.

I still haven't changed everything to my new last name. Truthfully, it's a big pain in the ass to change your last name.

- change social security card
- then change drivers license
- credit cards didn't care, they changed it over the phone
- change name at work
- slowly change everything else as the situation comes up.

Still haven't updated my passport, or my bank account. I tried to change my paypal and they wanted my marriage certificate! This after I sent them my new drivers license, and they said it wasn't enough. I said F it after that point.

I'm another one of the "maiden name is now middle name" people.

 

[sixone]

I have my maiden and last name on my FB, but I didn't hyphenate (I absolutely refused) my last name after getting married.

I still haven't changed everything to my new last name. Truthfully, it's a big pain in the ass to change your last name.

- change social security card
- then change drivers license
- credit cards didn't care, they changed it over the phone
- change name at work
- slowly change everything else as the situation comes up.

Still haven't updated my passport, or my bank account. I tried to change my paypal and they wanted my marriage certificate! This after I sent them my new drivers license, and they said it wasn't enough. I said F it after that point.

I'm another one of the "maiden name is now middle name" people.

Yeah, Paypal didn't get a copy of my divorce papers, either. I just set up a new account with a new email address. Screw 'em.

 

[rasczak]

I have my maiden and last name on my FB, but I didn't hyphenate (I absolutely refused) my last name after getting married.

I still haven't changed everything to my new last name. Truthfully, it's a big pain in the ass to change your last name.

- change social security card
- then change drivers license
- credit cards didn't care, they changed it over the phone
- change name at work
- slowly change everything else as the situation comes up.

Still haven't updated my passport, or my bank account. I tried to change my paypal and they wanted my marriage certificate! This after I sent them my new drivers license, and they said it wasn't enough. I said F it after that point.

I'm another one of the "maiden name is now middle name" people.

Off topic, your food blog made my mouth water. Especially that spicy tofu. I'm going to try that one tonight!

back on topic, my wife waited a year before changing hers. It wasn't a big deal to me. But, just before our daughter was born, she changed her last name.

 

[BoomerD]

Because I dun kidnapped the bitch from her family. She's now part of MY family...not the one she grew up with!!

It's definitely an odd sort of convention, but I still prefer it to the hyphenated name.

 

[jagec]

I have a hyphenated last name, and f*ck all you guys.

I had nothing to do with getting it, I get grief from half the websites/banks/insurance companies telling me that I don't have an "acceptable" name for their forms (I mean, hyphens have been part of the ASCII character set since computers were still in the stone age, what POSSIBLE reason can there be for excluding them in f*cking 2012?), and I get mail addressed to every combination of last name imaginable.

Hyphenated last names are like non-traditional spellings of traditional names. You can't really blame the kids.

OP, how in any way does this TRADITION hurt you or anyone else? Liberals bitch and moan about staying out of people's business, especially when it doesn't hurt anyone, then turn around and want to force the end of a TRADITION.

I don't see anyone "forcing" anything. Saying that you think the tradition is silly and should be ended is so completely different from saying "there oughta be a law..." that I wonder how someone who was clearly bright enough to get a decent postgraduate education could possibly confuse the two.

 

[rudeguy]

I have a hyphenated last name, and f*ck all you guys.

I had nothing to do with getting it, I get grief from half the websites/banks/insurance companies telling me that I don't have an "acceptable" name for their forms (I mean, hyphens have been part of the ASCII character set since computers were still in the stone age, what POSSIBLE reason can there be for excluding them in f*cking 2012?), and I get mail addressed to every combination of last name imaginable.

Hyphenated last names are like non-traditional spellings of traditional names. You can't really blame the kids.



I don't see anyone "forcing" anything. Saying that you think the tradition is silly and should be ended is so completely different from saying "there oughta be a law..." that I wonder how someone who was clearly bright enough to get a decent postgraduate education could possibly confuse the two.

did you choose to hyphenate or was it assigned to you?

 

[ShawnD1]

I have my maiden and last name on my FB, but I didn't hyphenate (I absolutely refused) my last name after getting married.

I still haven't changed everything to my new last name. Truthfully, it's a big pain in the ass to change your last name.

I wouldn't change my name; it seems like too much effort and no reward. It's a relic from the days before people used their name for important things like applying for loans or government benefits.

and I get mail addressed to every combination of last name imaginable.

My friend had a problem with this because she would always include her middle name. People would just throw in random hyphens. Example: assume my name is Shawn Steven Jones and I write that as my name. Mails will be addressed to:
Jones, Shawn-Steven
Steven-Jones, Shawn
Jones, Shawn
Steven, Shawn