Why Chinese Mothers are Superior

[timosyy]

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704111504576059713528698754.html

In other words, Western parents are concerned about their children's psyches. Chinese parents aren't. They assume strength, not fragility, and as a result they behave very differently.

Author paints pretty broad strokes (if the article title wasn't enough indication), but I think there is potential for pretty interesting discussion here. My parents are Chinese, and I can identify with much of this article growing up in their household. I'm not sure exactly what style I'd employ with my (future) children, though. I find myself agreeing with some of the points the author's (Western) husband makes.

Thoughts?

(I'd quote the entire article but it's pretty long)

 

[olds]

It became like that here when dads stopped raising their kids.
Metrosexual dads don't count.

 

[God Mode]

Many asian mothers also smack their kids if they mess up.

 

[MagnusTheBrewer]

Ever hear of Lake Wobegon?

 

[timosyy]

Ever hear of Lake Wobegon?

I think (or hope) the article title/subsequent article are intended to be tongue-in-cheek to stir up discussion.

 

[halik]

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704111504576059713528698754.html



Author paints pretty broad strokes (if the article title wasn't enough indication), but I think there is potential for pretty interesting discussion here. My parents are Chinese, and I can identify with much of this article growing up in their household. I'm not sure exactly what style I'd employ with my (future) children, though. I find myself agreeing with some of the points the author's (Western) husband makes.

Thoughts?

(I'd quote the entire article but it's pretty long)

Same thing for people from eastern Europe, my mom always stressed academics over everything. All my cousins are on track for Grad school.

That being said, that lady is a bit outta whack. You need both the carrot and the stick.

 

[ahenkel]

Ever hear of Lake Wobegon?

Where all the children are above average.

 

[ivan2]

she has attractive daughters

 

[NikolaeVarius]

Many asian mothers also smack their kids if they mess up.

Smack? I got beat with a bat when I got bad grades.

 

[Binarycow]

Creativity to me is just important (if not more) compared to externally perceived intellect. I'm sure the guys that invented the light bulb, napster, first windows OS, facebook, etc, weren't straight A students in school or even graduated from school in some cases.

Different cultures have different ways to nurture their best individuals but ultimately it's the individuals that decide what to do with themselves.

 

[Binarycow]

Smack? I got beat with a bat when I got bad grades.

I always wonder, what if the kid is naturally stupid or schooling is not something that he/she can be good at, then how does hitting him/her change his/her intelligence level?

 

[techs]

Chinese mothers are INFERIOR.
They teach their children obedience to authority.

Which is why China is a dictatorship that ranks amongst the most barbaric on Earth.

 

[Ricemarine]

The one problem I always find with Chinese children raised under these conditions... when the mother isn't with them, all hell breaks loose. This usually applies to when they go to college.

I hear they're usually pretty good party-goers.

 

[yhelothar]

And that article shows exactly why chinese are seen as a bunch of hardworking lifeless robots that can't innovate for shit or have an ounce of imagination. It's been beaten out of them in the desperate attempts of parents to rigidly measure their kids up to their lame pointless yardsticks.

Confucianism is fail. The Japanese realized this that's why they didn't fail in the way of the Chinese. Not letting your kids be themselves is fail.

I still <3 my mommy though!

 

[ahenkel]

What I get from this is a sense of entitlement from the mother that she must force her kids to be successful so they can take care of her.

 

[Binarycow]

Chinese mothers are INFERIOR.
They teach their children obedience to authority.

Which is why China is a dictatorship that ranks amongst the most barbaric on Earth.

I hope that was a tasteless joke that you made or you have just proved that whoever raised you possibly did a much worse job than a typical- stereo-typed chinese mother.

 

[busydude]

Chinese mothers are INFERIOR. They teach their children obedience to authority.

Its not just Chinese, most of the east societies behave the same way. I don't think that means it is inferior at all.

We are taught not to question the authority. I got smacked pretty bad when I was kid.. I remember pretty clearly the last time my dad smacked me about 12 years ago.

Its the norm, not an exception from where I come.

 

[Albatross]

Yeah the Chinese system is so superior that they emigrated to the USA...
Just dumb societal conformism,although for a good cause.

 

[wirednuts]

i think we are all just biological machines intended to build electromechanical machines capable of harnessing the way our brains work. build AI machines, the machines build themselves and humans go extinct because the environment changes too drastically. the machines live on which means in the grand scheme of things, life goes on. because thats all life really is, self replication. so this chinese mother thing hardly matters.

 

[Daishiki]

That's how I was raised and I turned out just fine.

*twitch*

 

[Howard]

Chinese mothers are INFERIOR.
They teach their children obedience to authority.

Which is why China is a dictatorship that ranks amongst the most barbaric on Earth.

Really? Most barbaric?

 

[ConstipatedVigilante]

i think we are all just biological machines intended to build electromechanical machines capable of harnessing the way our brains work. build AI machines, the machines build themselves and humans go extinct because the environment changes too drastically. the machines live on which means in the grand scheme of things, life goes on. because thats all life really is, self replication. so this chinese mother thing hardly matters.

wtf?

 

[Schadenfroh]

My boss married an Asian lady, their daughter was apparently forced into an engineering major against her will. She used to eat with her parents at work and would constantly complain about being an engineer and how she wanted to do marketing, being a loser in the family for not going to graduate school, etc.

 

[yhelothar]

Chinese mothers do have a good mindset, and that is that if you put your mind to something and never give up, you can achieve practically anything. But where that fail is forcing their own ideals down their children's throat.
If they allowed their kids to follow what they love, but made them be persistent on it, then that is what would breed success.

 

[ivan2]

Yeah the Chinese system is so superior that they emigrated to the USA and made more than Americans on average

FTFY