why do i fall for guys who treat me like dirt?!

[goog]

Good stuff Moonbeam, you could've been a pychologist (assuming you aren't). Look for the subtly people.
And before I get dissed for saying that let me say that I am not a fanboy, I've been around the block a few times and I happen to like having eakers around AT.

Kat just be yourself, don't push it - give it time girl you're young. You'll find what you want when you're not really looking for it.
If they don't like you for you move on, same thing with the guys we're not going to change so unless you're in it for the challenge (which can be fun) toss him and move on. There's lots of fish in the sea.

BTW i'm currently single

 

[DannyLove]

eakers: do you really strive for attention? starting to get a small flashback. Just dont turn into another happykitten.... please. opps, too late.

danny~!

 

[timelapse]

Eakers, here is a U2 song i slightly modified and i dedicate it to you... hope it helps...


The heart is a bloom
Shoots up through the stony ground
There's no room
No space to rent in this town


YOU're out of luck
And the reason that you had to care
The traffic is stuck
And you're not browsing anywhere


You thought you'd found a friend
To take you out of this place
Someone you could lend a hand
In return for grace


It's a beautiful day
Sky falls, you feel like
It's a beautiful day
Don't let it get away


You're on the road
But you've got no destination
You're in the mud
In the maze of their imagination


You love this town
Even if that doesn't ring true
You've been all over
And they've been all over you


It's a beautiful day
Don't let it get away
It's a beautiful day


Touch yourself
go to that other place
Teach yourself
I know you're not a hopeless case


See the world in green and blue
See Canada right in front of you
See the canyons broken by cloud
See Forums screaming at you now
See the Bedouin fires at night
See the oil fields at first light
And see the bird with a leaf in her mouth
After the flood all the colors came out


It was a beautiful day
Don't let it get away
Beautiful day


Touch yourself
go to that other place
Teach yourself
I know you're not a hopeless case


What you don't have you don't need it now
What you don't know you can feel it somehow
What you don't have you don't need it now
Don't need it now
Was a beautiful day

 

[Jerboy]

eakers, while you say alot about cute guys not treating you right, how well do you treat them? I don't think guys really like girls who try to portray themselve as a sexy beyoch, yet act like don't want to date.


put those whose hot, whose not want to date or not stuff aside, couldn't you just talk to them as a friend?

 

[phatcow]

<< HOW COULD I BE SO FREAKING STUPID.
WELL THAT SOLVES IT BOYS, I DESERVE TO BE TREATED LIKE CRAP. THANKS FOR COMING OUT, IM DONE WITH YOU NOW.
>>



before you pass blame on others, maybe you should look yourself in the mirror to see if YOUR the type of girl that a guy might want to date... I mean, from that past sentence, it seems like your the type that will snap at a person if you disagree with them.. very 15 year old....you also jump to conclusions very easily, very 15 year old..... you cannot take criticizm for your facade you put to us about yourself... hmm thats prolly behavior accustomed to 13 year olds.... from what i conclude, please grow up first.. then deal with boys later.... boo fukin hoo..

your almost as bad as happykitten.
.... i said almost...

 

[dfi]

I have a theory.

Women have a mental inventory of what I call "back-ups". These "back-ups" are guys that they like pretty well, the so called "nice guys". Now, women actually like these "back-ups", not only because it makes them feel special but, because they give her security. Women know that these "back-ups" are waiting in a tux at the alter, so it's ok to leave them hanging for a while. In the meantime, women go after relationships that might not work out.

Now, of course, women are quite clever about this. They know that these "back-ups" wont be around forever. Oh, no. "Back-ups" need to receive a gentle nudge every once in a while. Enough to keep them around, but not enough to lead them on too much. Phrases like "why cant my bf be more like you" and "you're the coolest guy I know" work like magic on "back-ups".

However, sometimes a "back-up" will become more aggressive. Maybe the woman gave him a bit too much encouragement. Or maybe his friends got him a set of balls. Either way, this can become quite a dilemma. I believe this is where popular phrases like "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" and "I dont want to see other people; I just want the option to see other people" come from. Ingenious.

Just a theory...

dfi

 

[KBTibbs]

Girls are lying. To themselves and others. Lots of them say they want a kind, funny sensitive guy, who will be a gentelman, well, I'm all of those. Girls are hardly ever honest enough to list good butt, face, and abs. Several times I've been voted most funny (in yearbooks and stuff), but I all the girls I've asked won't go out with me, and I've only been asked by like a 10 year old (and your your information we DIDN'T go out--I'm no pedophile).

I admit, I'm not an underwear model, I'm average height, a little over weight, and I love computers. So girls....just be honest and say, that you want an underwear model, it in my experience, funny,smart, sensitive, is secondary to looks.

Too many girls have come crying and bringing their broken hearts to me like I'm their gay boyfriend who helps them pickout outfits, and match their drapes to their towels, and I'm kind, understanding, and sensitive, and that gets me nowhere (not that I make moves on them when they are hurting), but you know what I mean.

I HATE BEING A FRIEND.

 

[Geekbabe]

<< I have a theory.

Women have a mental inventory of what I call "back-ups". These "back-ups" are guys that they like pretty well, the so called "nice guys". Now, women actually like these "back-ups", not only because it makes them feel special but, because they give her security. Women know that these "back-ups" are waiting in a tux at the alter, so it's ok to leave them hanging for a while. In the meantime, women go after relationships that might not work out.

Now, of course, women are quite clever about this. They know that these "back-ups" wont be around forever. Oh, no. "Back-ups" need to receive a gentle nudge every once in a while. Enough to keep them around, but not enough to lead them on too much. Phrases like "why cant my bf be more like you" and "you're the coolest guy I know" work like magic on "back-ups".

However, sometimes a "back-up" will become more aggressive. Maybe the woman gave him a bit too much encouragement. Or maybe his friends got him a set of balls. Either way, this can become quite a dilemma. I believe this is where popular phrases like "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" and "I dont want to see other people; I just want the option to see other people" come from. Ingenious.

Just a theory...

dfi >>




LOL, such a great amount of thought has been put into all of this...


There really is no forumula involved here... you just kind of like who you like, some of us are prone to finding certain physical or personality traits attractive but beyond that there's no secret code,no forumula that needs to be decoded.



sitting here chuckling at all these goings on

 

[Jerboy]

Guys, I have to mention this. I added eakers to my ICQ contact list just to say hi, then I was like WTF?! for next few minutes.


Her authorization request message said:
"oh oh im a hottie and you cant have too many hotties on your icq list!"


I said hi, but she was in N/A mode. The N/A message I received said:
"shower then going to the pornography store where i will purchase pornography."


Do you smell something here? This is pathetic. I mean really. What kind of idiot of put up that kind of ICQ not available message?

 

[linuxboy]

sitting here chuckling at all these goings on

Hehe. Hey Jean, remember that entire piece of nonsense I posted on here awhile back? That whole business that actually looked liked a proof involving gender differentials. Now I think that was even worse than this fellow's attempts since I can back up each premise with articles. :Q


/me chuckles along.


Cheers !

 

[dfi]

<< sitting here chuckling at all these goings on

Hehe. Hey Jean, remember that entire piece of nonsense I posted on here awhile back? That whole business that actually looked liked a proof involving gender differentials. Now I think that was even worse than this fellow's attempts since I can back up each premise with articles. :Q


/me chuckles along.


Cheers ! >>



Muwahaha, you're worse than I am! HONEST!

I do believe the "back-up" theory applies to some girls. Of course, I have to judge them on a case-by-case basis. Guys do this too. Except, in a guy's case, it's called the "I think I might be able to get a hotter piece of tail" theory.

dfi

 

[Geekbabe]

<< sitting here chuckling at all these goings on

Hehe. Hey Jean, remember that entire piece of nonsense I posted on here awhile back? That whole business that actually looked liked a proof involving gender differentials. Now I think that was even worse than this fellow's attempts since I can back up each premise with articles. :Q


/me chuckles along.


Cheers ! >>



Actually what's really strange is the fact that you crack me up even though I haven't the foggiest idea what you're going on about most of the time

 

[goog]

<< There really is no forumula involved here... you just kind of like who you like, some of us are prone to finding certain physical or personality traits attractive but beyond that there's no secret code,no forumula that needs to be decoded. >>



Amen.

 

[HombrePequeno]

From what I hear you'll grow out of liking the bad boys.

There's no real advice anybody on a forum can give you that will help. You need to think things through by yourself.

 

[PistachioByAzul]

It seems that her concious believes herself to be content with her life to enough of a degree that she can come here and pretend like she isn't for the sake of rounding up pity from all the guys who will invariably rush to give her attention. The irony, this post is not geniune in the least, and yet it is. Her subconcious crying out for help - maybe.

Everyone is the master of their own domain, the only problems are the ones we create for ourselves.

 

[CKDragon]

I befriended a girl who was with an @$$hole over the summer. He dumped her (for an immature reason) in an effort to keep her as a backup. I was the shoulder to cry on and we were best friends for almost 4-5 months before we finally decided we wanted to be more than friends. We're now in month 3 and while we're past the 'honeymoon' stage, we're still best friends with very open communication. I never would've dreamed I could be so happy with the same girl I met so long ago in June.

Moral of the Story (other than me getting to share my happy thoughts): Keep an open mind about your friends, the people you communicate best with become the best girlfriends/boyfriends if the opportunity arises.

Good luck!

CK

 

[thraashman]

man, I don't know much about eakers emotional state, but with the way some of you respond, you better hope she's pretty secure, else you've just thrown someone into a deep depression. What is the famous line "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."

As far as pretty girls falling for not so nice guys goes. Upon reflection I've come up with several answers.

1. Pretty girls often feel they can do good, so they want the pretty guy. Pretty guys know they can get the pretty girl. Guys are pretty much naturally arrogant, and pretty guys are arrogant to the point of being a$$holes. Therefore they treat everyone as if they were a lesser.

2. nice guys are timid, nervous, shy even. They generally are literally too nice. They fall for a girl, and because they can't think of the idea of chicks are a dime a dozen, they fear being rejected by said girl, and therefore do pretty much nothing about it. The only thing they do tend to do is perform stupid acts in order to get the girls attention, and in the process end up coming off as psychotic.

3. Girls are naturally not as intelligent as men, therefore they can't see through the facade a a$$hole guy puts on as easily as his fellow guys can.

4. I'm probably the only guy in the world who will say that I am a jerk. Every guy is in some way. In my case, I'll be your good friend and treat you great (guy and girl friends, I'm usually too nice to the point of I'm in debt), but when you piss me off, my goal is to make you feel so bad about yourself, that at the very least you attempt suicide. (ie. don't piss me off) Of course there's only a few things that really anger me, and one is lying to me, I've succeeded in making people cry because they lied to me about something, I've cut contacts with others for it. You have to have a pretty good excuse in order to make me forgive you if you lie to me.

I've lost track, what was this thread about. Oh yeah, eakers, good luck, and remember that in order to get a guy who treats you right, you have to be pretty humble yourself.

 

[Palek]

Unless you get over that huge craving you have for attention you are setting yourself up for some major disappointments in your life. How will you ever be satisfied with the love and caring that one man could give you? I just hope that you are aware of this yourself and know that there will come a time when you should step away from the limelight.

P.S. You will grow out of it, I'm sure!!! You know who the smart ones in this forum are, listen to them.

 

[Nemesis77]

<< 3. Girls are naturally not as intelligent as men, therefore they can't see through the facade a a$$hole guy puts on as easily as his fellow guys can. >>



Ooooo, you are going to get some flak for that comment :Q

 

[RSI]

Hey Kat,

If this thread is serious - sorry to hear that.

But it really really does just look attention grabbing. I stook up for you in the past because I thought you were being unfairly accused.. But I do understand where those people are coming from, cause at this point it really does look simply attention grabbing.

That said, I'll continue with my post. Why do you fall for guys who treat you like dirt? You want those guys, that's why. Either that, or there ARE no nice guys where you are. Which I highly doubt (there are tons of us, you just don't want any of us). I used to think all the girls just wanted jackasses and were beyatches.. but then I met my GF.

-RSI

 

[virtuamike]

You think that's bad, try and top this:

I find out from my live-in gf's webpage of all places that she's been hanging out with this guy when she hasn't been spending time with me, in fact she spent an entire weekend with him. Emotionally, I felt she cheated on me. In a fit of jealousy and rage I get drunk and throw her out, tell her some awful things that I can't remember because I was that drunk. Later on I find out that she's been fvcking this guy for a month before I unleash my drunken fury, and now that we've recently broken up she's madly in love with him. What hurts the most is that she blatantly denies crossing any boundaries with this guy while she was with me. Evidently giving head and fvcking third parites qualifies as perfectly legitimate behavior for normal couples. Emotionally, physically, and even financially, I have been cheated on. If you've been treated like dirt, then I've been treated like the crap of the mites that live in that dirt.

So unless you all can convince me otherwise, girls are suck. Just as much as guys that treat girls like dirt. Dirt dirt dirt dirt dirt. In fact I am led to believe that nice people in general are inherently the victims of manipulative people. They twist hearts and cheat love. They use people and in return create an atmosphere of spite and hatred. The melancholy of lovers' sorrow lies not in the faults of man nor woman but in the blackness with which some people pass off the pretense of love all in the name of sex. In general, I believe people are screwy. If I don't see any counters to the points I've made then I am going to get drunk off my ass, so as to ease the pain of a world gone horribly wrong. You guys have 24 hours to cheer me up.

 

[IGBT]

Another purty mouth...

 

[Jingoh]

... It's all my fault. In a drunken state, on New Years Eve, I wished Eakers a Happy New Year.
Of course... now, she's doomed to the opposite. ::

 

[Supahfreak]

HOW COME YOU GUYS NEVER POST LIKE THIS ON MY THREADS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ugly guys need love too you know...

FreAk

 

[SiLEighTy]

looking at the wrong places i presume