I dont know what it is. Maybe its b/c im so close to being a cop now here on long island but it goes back further than recent events. I've always been interested in law enforcement, i was brought up not to do drugs (of any kind) although i tried marijuana about 5 times in college.....
I dont like to be around it mostly b/c it can screw me out of probably one of the sweetest law enforcement jobs in the country. Whether someone gets caught with it while im around or second hand smoke can give me a positive drug test?......i dunno
But my biggest issue is with the girl ive been dating for 2 months. She was a serious smoker....everyday. Then we met and shes curbed it to at most once a week usually every other. But it just sticks out there like a sore thumb in our relationship. Shes truly an amazing girl. All around the best girl ive landed in my life. Yea yea its only two months, but being older now (27) i know what i want and know when i've found it. But I cant get past this whole "weed" thing.
Oh and i forgot to mention, both her sisters and boyfriends are huge potheads (everyday smokers) and her parents (mom and stepdad) like to smoke on occasion. What her parents do in their own time at this stage in their life is their business and i can respect that. But its kinda hard to hang with her sisters and their significant others and not feel like im imposing. For instance we want to go to six flags and her sister and boyfriend are taking a seperate car b/c they want to bring weed with them and i refuse to have it in my car.
Am I just being a baby? B/c i really dont think I am.
Cliffs:
1- I have a complex with marijuana smokers
2- Current g/f smoked a lot now doesnt that much
3- Current g/f's family smokes
4- Dont know if what i feel is normal or very unreasonable.
**Update**
First off I'd like to thank everyone here for responding. It was good to get both sides of the issue at hand, and while I might have been offended by certain posters to this thread........everyone influenced my thinking and it really helped.
I took most of the night off after posting. I logged back in to read the rest of the replies then left my apartment and took a walk on the boardwalk.
It did wonders. I agree with what everyone had to say and I felt a little better to see that my thoughts and feelings weren't abnormal or childish.
So later that night I talked with my g/f. I explained to her that I might have been a little obtuse but that I've thought things over. I told her that im flattered that she's come this far in curbing her "habit" just for me and it means a lot to me. I told her that I'll deal with her occasional smoking as long as im not put in a position where it would make me uncomfortable. She said she would never do that to begin with and that she was envious that my dream, since I was a kid, might finally be coming true.
She then said....."Well when you get into the academy I'm going to stop completely. If I had to choose between smoking weed and being with you, I'd stop in a heartbeat. It doesn't mean that much to me."
So all in all it worked out just fine. And the semi "make-up" sex was amazing
Thanks ATOT.
I dont like to be around it mostly b/c it can screw me out of probably one of the sweetest law enforcement jobs in the country. Whether someone gets caught with it while im around or second hand smoke can give me a positive drug test?......i dunno
But my biggest issue is with the girl ive been dating for 2 months. She was a serious smoker....everyday. Then we met and shes curbed it to at most once a week usually every other. But it just sticks out there like a sore thumb in our relationship. Shes truly an amazing girl. All around the best girl ive landed in my life. Yea yea its only two months, but being older now (27) i know what i want and know when i've found it. But I cant get past this whole "weed" thing.
Oh and i forgot to mention, both her sisters and boyfriends are huge potheads (everyday smokers) and her parents (mom and stepdad) like to smoke on occasion. What her parents do in their own time at this stage in their life is their business and i can respect that. But its kinda hard to hang with her sisters and their significant others and not feel like im imposing. For instance we want to go to six flags and her sister and boyfriend are taking a seperate car b/c they want to bring weed with them and i refuse to have it in my car.
Am I just being a baby? B/c i really dont think I am.
Cliffs:
1- I have a complex with marijuana smokers
2- Current g/f smoked a lot now doesnt that much
3- Current g/f's family smokes
4- Dont know if what i feel is normal or very unreasonable.
**Update**
First off I'd like to thank everyone here for responding. It was good to get both sides of the issue at hand, and while I might have been offended by certain posters to this thread........everyone influenced my thinking and it really helped.
I took most of the night off after posting. I logged back in to read the rest of the replies then left my apartment and took a walk on the boardwalk.
It did wonders. I agree with what everyone had to say and I felt a little better to see that my thoughts and feelings weren't abnormal or childish.
So later that night I talked with my g/f. I explained to her that I might have been a little obtuse but that I've thought things over. I told her that im flattered that she's come this far in curbing her "habit" just for me and it means a lot to me. I told her that I'll deal with her occasional smoking as long as im not put in a position where it would make me uncomfortable. She said she would never do that to begin with and that she was envious that my dream, since I was a kid, might finally be coming true.
She then said....."Well when you get into the academy I'm going to stop completely. If I had to choose between smoking weed and being with you, I'd stop in a heartbeat. It doesn't mean that much to me."
So all in all it worked out just fine. And the semi "make-up" sex was amazing
Thanks ATOT.