Why does everyone suck after going away to school and come home for the summer?

[TallBill]

Everyone of my friends has a frickin ego and attitude about them that just plain ole sucks. We hung out every day last summer.. now i dont even get a phone call from em.. and they have sooo many excuses.. like that they work, etc.. well i work 50-60 hours a week, and im game for going out any night of the week... even when i get up at 5 am.

 

[vi edit]

Don't worry. Give 'em a week or two to realize that they are living with mommy and daddy again and that things are quite different from the dorms.

They'll come around, just let the enamour of college to wear off a bit.

 

[Pastore]

People change like you wouldn't believe when they go to college, especially when it's away from home. Not much you can do about it.

 

[TallBill]

the weird thing is.. like.. a fourth of my friends... actually improved.. while the rest just suck as of late. o well... not like i dont have stuff to do.. but its weird

 

[Balt]

Originally posted by: vi_edit
Don't worry. Give 'em a week or two to realize that they are living with mommy and daddy again and that things are quite different from the dorms.

They'll come around, just let the enamour of college to wear off a bit.

Yup, that's probably right on. Of course, I avoid the bother of a deflated ego by simply remaining in school for the summer.

 

[HappyPuppy]

Your friends went away to experience life and grow intellectually while you stayed at home and atrophied intellectually. They went to parties nightly where they got stoned, drunk and laid in their dorm rooms while you went back to your pathetic bedroom that you have been living in for the last 18 years, you know, the one where you still have the Teddy Bear propped up against your monitor.

I'm just jerking your chain.

What has happened is that you have been separated from your "friends" long enough for you to have developed a new perspective. They were probably jerks all along, but you were too close to the problem to recognize it.

 

[Cyberian]

I live in NY State.
I had friends that went away to college in Virginia and came home for Thanksgiving with a southern accent!

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

no comment

 

[kgraeme]

People change. Change yourself.

 

[Triumph]

Originally posted by: Cyberian
I live in NY State.
I had friends that went away to college in Virginia and came home for Thanksgiving with a southern accent!

For whatever reason, your friends are probably faking it. Once you reach adulthood ages, you have to actively work at changing your accent. I lived in southwest VA for 5 YEARS, working in close quarters with people who have thick, thick accents, and I speak no different now than I ever did. I don't even say "ya'll". In fact, I've only met one person whose accent had changed after moving there from Deleware, and she has been there for about 25 years. And people's speech certainly doesn't change over a 3 month time span!

 

[TallBill]

I sorta picked up a jersey accent in 3 months.. dropped it real fast tho

 

[vi edit]

For whatever reason, your friends are probably faking it. Once you reach adulthood ages, you have to actively work at changing your accent. I lived in southwest VA for 5 YEARS, working in close quarters with people who have thick, thick accents, and I speak no different now than I ever did. I don't even say "ya'll". In fact, I've only met one person whose accent had changed after moving there from Deleware, and she has been there for about 25 years. And people's speech certainly doesn't change over a 3 month time span!

I'll politely disagree. A lot has to do with the individual and how well they adapt to local dialect and speach patterns. Everyone picks things up at a different pace. It's easy for me to tell since here in the midwest we are the "standard" for accentless speaking.

 

[SALvation]

Chicks with Australian accents are uber hot.

 

[yakko]

I dated a girl who came home for the summer and I was glad she sucked.

 

[notfred]

Originally posted by: HappyPuppy

What has happened is that you have been separated from your "friends" long enough for you to have developed a new perspective. They were probably jerks all along, but you were too close to the problem to recognize it.

Actually, the more accurate description is probably that THEY developed a new perspective, after having spent a year living on thier own, trying new things and new experiences. This has probably led to a change in personality, and a change in thier circle of friends. Meanwhile, you stayed home, did basically the same thing you've done since you were 5, and since you didn't really change, you didn't expect them to, either.

edit: I'm not trying to be hard on you, or insult you for staying home, but I've done it, too. I went to a CC for a year and a half after high school, while most of my friends moved away. when they came back, they had new interests, and new people to hang out with. All I had were the other guys who went to the CC, and I had done the same exact thing, except at a different school, that I did in high school. I decided I had to move away to really start my own life away from my parents.

 

[joohang]

Originally posted by: kgraeme
People change. Change yourself.

 

[GiGoLo]

I dated a girl who came home for the summer and I was glad she sucked.

well said

 

[Carl Uman]

Originally posted by: vi_edit

For whatever reason, your friends are probably faking it. Once you reach adulthood ages, you have to actively work at changing your accent. I lived in southwest VA for 5 YEARS, working in close quarters with people who have thick, thick accents, and I speak no different now than I ever did. I don't even say "ya'll". In fact, I've only met one person whose accent had changed after moving there from Deleware, and she has been there for about 25 years. And people's speech certainly doesn't change over a 3 month time span!

I'll politely disagree. A lot has to do with the individual and how well they adapt to local dialect and speach patterns. Everyone picks things up at a different pace. It's easy for me to tell since here in the midwest we are the "standard" for accentless speaking.

Ditto on that...
It varries from one person to the next and also were you started from and went to. I'm one of those that adapt relitively quickly without choice.


Edit:
To be more on topic here...
Like others have said "People change". I know I have changed a lot in the last 10 years (since high school) and people I was friends with before I might not like as well now. We've had different life experiences and that influences who we are.

 

[GSOYF]

<< had friends that went away to college in Virginia and came home for Thanksgiving with a southern accent! >>


that sucks....that is deserving of a beat down!!

 

[Mill]

My southern accent has gotten less and less living in Atlanta. Goddamn Atlanta is a freakin' yankee town these. Rediculous.