"Efficient socialization." I love it.Less evolved humans are social animals. People who are higher on the evolutionary scale have evolved to disregard face to face socialization, and replace it with more efficient forms of socialization like ATOT.
That sounds quite exceptionally familiar...
Well your first problem is that god awful assumption. Second, it's really only considered "good" by others who are social, so if you feel like you are being "repressed" in any sort of way, then I'd say it's because your assumption is false and you/we are in the minority.
I'm very social with my friends, but I detest making small talk when there's no chance of a friendship evolving with that person.
Asking a bunch of geeks on an anonymous forum "why is being unsocial bad" is like asking a bunch of geeks on an anonymous forum "why is being a virgin so bad?"
Humans are social animals and need social interaction. Look at what happens to humans in solitary confinement. Even antisocial humans, when essentially isolated from other contact, have mental breakdowns.
Second, being social gives you perspective. It gives you other ideas and different viewpoints on things. Sitting at home playing video games or watching TV with a beer is all fine occasionally, but it really doesn't make you into a better person or give your character any depth.
Third, it helps you build conversation skills. It is easy to have conversations with guys you have known for years, but it is difficult to have a conversation with someone you barely know if you are socially awkward. This, in the end, also helps with talking to women. You've said yourself that making small talk is a chore. Here lies the problem; you shouldn't be making small talk. If you had developed the proper skill you could have an actual conversation with an actual human being,
I used to be an "unsocial" person. I wasn't anti-social, but if given the option I would hang out with the same one or two people at home, occasionally make it out for family events, interact superficially at work, and turn down offers for dinner, etc. I started telling myself "I just like being this way." When I finally came out of my shell and started making the effort to go out and enjoy people I started to love it. I am no socialite but I am your average social person and I do not believe that any well-adjusted adult really LOVES being an unsocial introvert all the time.
Being an introvert is not abnormal. You only hear the pro's about being an extrovert because extroverts speak up and introverts don't. That only makes extroverts "seem" like the majority.
because society is based on being social.
wait what?! D:This is going to be the biggest downfall of at least america should we ever go through a country-wide catastrophe...just look at the smaller instances of looters, rapists, and other opportunists in our history.
Being an introvert is not abnormal. You only hear the pro's about being an extrovert because extroverts speak up and introverts don't. That only makes extroverts "seem" like the majority.
this. I'm not a social person, but this is obvious.
wait what?! D:
Good point
The thing I hate is how most extroverts try to "convert" you to their side, they are always trying to get you to talk etc, its so annoying... Its like us going "Shut up, I want to enjoy a bit of silence"
Must be nice when society is backing you up heh... And they have no idea how it feels like for us to be in crowds and all that, if they did they would realize how hard it is to speak up and socialize
The bottom line is we just put more thought into everything we do... Im always thinking of things I COULD say in a conversation, but 99% of the time I decide they are not worth talking about, so I stay quiet and listen instead
There's nothing wrong with you.. Even thought I'm not a huge fan of myers-briggs generalizations it'd probably do you (and other introverts) some good to spend a few hours on the intj or intp forums..
Unfortunately once the power goes out, our society here feels it's every man for himself.
Japan is actually a model that would never occur here and that is sad to me. I have family in Japan and it's nice to know they don't have to worry about their neighbors.
i feel like the latter. i have a small, select group of friends and people that i like to spend time with due to us have similar mindsets and hobbies, etc, but if i spend the entire weekend out of town with friends...come monday i just dont want to see anyone for a day or two.
ive tried hard the last year or two to find people i like to hang out with, so its not *As much* as feeling drained now and a bit more just wanting some of my privacy and me-time back
sames, being an introvert kind of sucks, but we get excellent at entertaining ourselves.
To quote my friend:
Woman at Bar: You know, if you want to try to sleep with a woman, you should buy her a drink
Friend: How about I buy myself two drinks and go fuck myself
Good point
The bottom line is we just put more thought into everything we do... Im always thinking of things I COULD say in a conversation, but 99% of the time I decide they are not worth talking about, so I stay quiet and listen instead