Why Is Punctuality So Ambiguous For Women?

[cherrytwist]

Better late than pregnant.

 

[tami]

i'm female and i get stressed if i'm running late. i aim to be very early.

 

[trmiv]

If we have to leave for anywhere semi early in the morning, it's IMPOSSIBLE for my wife to leave on time. Say were are going somewhere on a Saturday (visit my parents for example), and I say we have to be out of the house by 9am, guaranteed we don't leave until 9:45 or 10. So, I've resorted to saying we have to leave by 8am to make sure we leave at the time I really want to leave, 9am. But that often results in an entirely different problem where my wife complains about not being able to sleep in on a Saturday or Sunday.

 

[jagec]

Originally posted by: KoolAidKid

Originally posted by: Ornery
Punctual seems pretty damn clear to me. Where do women get the idea that being somewhere on time is open to interpretation?

Actually, it pisses me off. The later somebody is, the more pissed I get. 90% of the time, it's women who pull that crap, but some men do, too. They'll usually discover that I won't wait for their sorry ass, either. I know I'm not the only person who feels this way, and wonder why women are usually the offenders. They attend the same schools, and functions men do. They're raised by the same parents. When and how does this schedule apathy creep in?

If I were to pick the one factor that was most likely to turn me to homosexuality, that would be it.

Oh? Not your secret burning lust for big biceps and chiseled jaws?

 

[rh71]

The only time I'm consistently late is when my parents expect me to go over...

 

[Eli]

I completely agree.

I always have been and probably always will be (somewhere) 5 minutes early(or more!) and leave 5 minutes late, where applicable....

 

[KoolAidKid]

Originally posted by: jagec

Originally posted by: KoolAidKid

Originally posted by: Ornery
Punctual seems pretty damn clear to me. Where do women get the idea that being somewhere on time is open to interpretation?

Actually, it pisses me off. The later somebody is, the more pissed I get. 90% of the time, it's women who pull that crap, but some men do, too. They'll usually discover that I won't wait for their sorry ass, either. I know I'm not the only person who feels this way, and wonder why women are usually the offenders. They attend the same schools, and functions men do. They're raised by the same parents. When and how does this schedule apathy creep in?

If I were to pick the one factor that was most likely to turn me to homosexuality, that would be it.

Oh? Not your secret burning lust for big biceps and chiseled jaws?

That would probably be number 4, behind "more likely to think in a way that I can predict" and "less likely to bring the hot water heater to its knees."

 

[her209]

Because they are self-absorbed ego-maniacs.

 

[Fritzo]

Originally posted by: KoolAidKid

Originally posted by: jagec

Originally posted by: KoolAidKid

Originally posted by: Ornery
Punctual seems pretty damn clear to me. Where do women get the idea that being somewhere on time is open to interpretation?

Actually, it pisses me off. The later somebody is, the more pissed I get. 90% of the time, it's women who pull that crap, but some men do, too. They'll usually discover that I won't wait for their sorry ass, either. I know I'm not the only person who feels this way, and wonder why women are usually the offenders. They attend the same schools, and functions men do. They're raised by the same parents. When and how does this schedule apathy creep in?

If I were to pick the one factor that was most likely to turn me to homosexuality, that would be it.

Oh? Not your secret burning lust for big biceps and chiseled jaws?

That would probably be number 4, behind "more likely to think in a way that I can predict" and "less likely to bring the hot water heater to its knees."

I've often considered this as well Just think- having a partner that likes sports, video games, beer, and doesn't get moody once a month. The big problem with this plan is guys get horny like 10 times a day...this would be bad.

I wonder if I could be gay and just not put out? That way I could get all the benefits without the nasty details.

 

[bryce31]

Waiting for my girlfriend to get ready as im writing this reply. Had enough time to register a new account and everything. We are already 30 minutes late to the function.

 

[DigDog]

you been waiting for 15 years?

 

[jmagg]

Its in the ancient scrolls. Even if a woman is ready early they make you wait.

 

[pmv]

This is really not something where I've ever noticed significant variation between genders (compared to the variability within each of them). Maybe I just happen to have known some very unreliable blokes. I'm not that brilliant on the topic myself, though nowhere near as bad as certain individuals I've known (all male).

Now, if we were talking about irrational terror of spiders, then I'd venture a gender-based generalisation.

 

[ultimatebob]

Wow, we actually had more than 2 female posters to ATOT back in 2005. Impressive... I had no idea!

 

[Captante]

2 female posters to ATOT

Shens.

 

[destrekor]

Old thread, sure, but I'll bite.

It has nothing to do with genders, everything to do with personality/temperament/attitude/mental health.

I've come to learn (confirmed/affirmed, really, long suspected) that it seems I've ADHD-I. Punctuality and I have never been on good terms. It's gotten me repeatedly into trouble too, still does in fact. An utter inability to truly fix that, among many other traits, finally led me to challenge the original diagnosis and find a new doctor.

 

[MetalH2600]

Old thread, sure, but I'll bite.

It has nothing to do with genders, everything to do with personality/temperament/attitude/mental health.

I've come to learn (confirmed/affirmed, really, long suspected) that it seems I've ADHD-I. Punctuality and I have never been on good terms. It's gotten me repeatedly into trouble too, still does in fact. An utter inability to truly fix that, among many other traits, finally led me to challenge the original diagnosis and find a new doctor.

Maybe you don't have ADHD, you just need to do more and make use of your mind, i was diagnosed with ADHD when i was abused by my parents, in foster care i had the opposite diagnoses and i always fought against any BS from a doctor besides obvious things, it turned out i have a well above average intellect (i had various brain scans when being on drugs for epilepsy which was caused by Ritalin) and i had to be tested for cognitive ability. Oddly my father has a way below average intelligence, odd huh? child was way more intelligent, it shows too.

Just sharing my experience, you never know, there may be other reasons for why you are like you are, ADHD is a very easy net to throw all children under.

 

[brianmanahan]

Now, if we were talking about irrational terror of spiders, then I'd venture a gender-based generalisation.

so it's 2:30 a.m...and a girl who lives 3 floors below me...

 

[MtnMan]

Last time my wife was late for anything... we had a kid.

 

[s0me0nesmind1]

Best attributed to job interviews.

Last time I remember a job interview I was in the parking lot 20 min early passing time by practicing talking points in my car....because I didn't want to walk in so early that I awkwardly twiddled my thumbs because the manager was in meetings.

Wife would definetly be the type where she is lucky to be running out the car to arrive on time or will be (most likely) 5-10 min late.

 

[Fritzo]

LOL @ punctuality being a "woman" thing...I'm 50 and I think I've been on time to work about 7 times in my life

 

[Muse]

Punctual seems pretty damn clear to me. Where do women get the idea that being somewhere on time is open to interpretation?

Actually, it pisses me off. The later somebody is, the more pissed I get. 90% of the time, it's women who pull that crap, but some men do, too. They'll usually discover that I won't wait for their sorry ass, either. I know I'm not the only person who feels this way, and wonder why women are usually the offenders. They attend the same schools, and functions men do. They're raised by the same parents. When and how does this schedule apathy creep in?

Well, realize that time is man's invention (you could think of it as a gender thing, too), not nature's. The notion of simultaneity is a fiction, not a reality. I say this because I'm a philosopher, not because I am not punctual. Actually, I'm one of the most punctual people you'll encounter. But I'm aware that it's just me, not something written in stone. It's my choice. When other people aren't punctual I usually just let them slide, don't say anything.

 

[s0me0nesmind1]

LOL @ punctuality being a "woman" thing...I'm 50 and I think I've been on time to work about 7 times in my life

Right but there is "on time" to work - where no one is expecting you, and you don't have meetings...

And then there is "on time" to work - where you have an 8:00 sharp meeting that you have a big part in.


I have no problem waking up at 8:30 and waking up my laptop while I grab a coffee during days where I don't have shit to do.

The difference for me - is when ANYONE is depending on me. If someone is depending on me, then I make sure I'm well ahead of schedule and am prepp'd.

 

[Fritzo]

Right but there is "on time" to work - where no one is expecting you, and you don't have meetings...

And then there is "on time" to work - where you have an 8:00 sharp meeting that you have a big part in.


I have no problem waking up at 8:30 and waking up my laptop while I grab a coffee during days where I don't have shit to do.

The difference for me - is when ANYONE is depending on me. If someone is depending on me, then I make sure I'm well ahead of schedule and am prepp'd.

:: pulls collar ::

Ahem...uh...yeah! I'm totally...that 'n stuff...

 

[GodisanAtheist]

2005 AT had a strong red pill vibe going on...

I know plenty of absurdly punctual women and sloppy show up an hour late or never men, and vice versa.

I am imagining a forum of guys who think putting on their cargo shorts and flip-flops is an acceptable level of "getting ready" for a major event like a wedding or anniversary dinner while their ladies try to put some effort in.

Personally, I don't sweat being 15 minutes "late" to most informal events, although work and "big" events definitely demand being early even if it means waiting in the car. Never had an issue with my wife slowing us down though...