Why is this generation at the peak of socially retarded?

[MajinCry]

Thread didn't go as OP expected, eh? Wonder when Blue Max will nip in and rant about the SJW boogeyman.

And the hell was that statement about feminism? Some lass ranting about a greasy creeper has nothing to do with feminism; an example of feminism, would be the efforts being made against the (mostly Middle-Eastern?) culture of throwing acid in a woman's face, should she refuse sexual advances from a man.

Never understood the whole "feminism is bad because this lass said a thing" debacle.

 

[Eli]

Men don't do things like that for a woman unless they want to bang the crap out of them. Or they're asexual/homosexual.

That said, the FB poster needs to lighten up. It's a complement. He finds you attractive. If you don't find him attractive and/or are in a committed relationship, that's fine, but it's not necessary to get all high and mighty about it - let alone be "offended". If you're an attractive woman, he's not going to be the last (married) man to ask you to coffee.

Take the coffee. Converse. Go about your merry way. Don't let the game of life play you.

 

[Anubis]

Its Just Lunch is the name of a real dating site/service

 

[BurnItDwn]

I eat lunch at lunchtime. Sometimes, I sit at the table with 2 of my female coworkers during lunch and I try to look as creepy as possible. Lunch is fun.

 

[tcsenter]

This was viewed/considered more taboo or inappropriate in prior generations.

 

[Naer]

cause it's gonna be the last generation. birth rates are majorly on the decline. I guess we can always grow babies in a lab, so dunno

 

[Newell Steamer]

 

[edro]

dude is probably ugly, if he looks like Brad Pitt, she would probably think he is so sweet to bring her that coffee and a nice guy for asking her to lunch.

QFT

Who just shows up with coffee for someone you dont know? Thats what makes it suspicious.

Bill Cosby does.

 

[motsm]

The girl does sound terribly annoying, but she's probably not wrong in this case.

 

[Ruptga]

I like this one better, it's just more polished.

 

[JSt0rm]

Unexpected twist: OP is the creepy married dude stalking her on her FB.

 

[StinkyPinky]

Man, some of you guys must be weird around girls.

I go to lunch with women I don't know that well all the time, and have never ever even thought about getting in their pants. I just like to have lunch with someone and try and make some friends. Especially if it's a new place.

 

[JSt0rm]

Men don't do things like that for a woman unless they want to bang the crap out of them. Or they're asexual/homosexual.

That said, the FB poster needs to lighten up. It's a complement. He finds you attractive. If you don't find him attractive and/or are in a committed relationship, that's fine, but it's not necessary to get all high and mighty about it - let alone be "offended". If you're an attractive woman, he's not going to be the last (married) man to ask you to coffee.

Take the coffee. Converse. Go about your merry way. Don't let the game of life play you.

Would be awesome of the dude came back and said he was married to a man and just wanted company for lunch. lol.

 

[Imp]

I've always wondered about this. Can simply asking a coworker to lunch get somebody in trouble for sexual harrasment?

"Hey, can I take you out to lunch tommorow?"

Some time later I get an email

"Umm, Futurefields, we're gonna need to see you in HR office...."

sometimes I think even if a girl is just in a bad mood, she can get a guy in a lot of trouble by making claims

I had a bunch of female friends at a previous job, bought coffee for some of them occasionally. One was my "work wife" who was obese and I did not want, another my sort of mentee, and third was a "friend" but she hit on me more than a few times early on so door was open -- nothing happened. There was a fourth, she asked me to coffee and to "hang out" a bunch of times -- she initiated 90% of the time, not sure what was going on because she had a very open/sociable personality but was reserved around me.

Yes, I was concerned about sexual harassment accusations, but I assessed the individual relationships and drew boundaries. Oh, and they didn't seem batshit crazy to the point of reporting fake stuff to HR. I was right because one of those friendships imploded in a very ugly way and no HR.

P.S. I'm not ugly -- very important detail.

 

[AdamK47]

There was obviously a subtext going on there beyond what was actually said. If a guy starts randomly getting chummy with a girl it's almost never because he's actively seeking a platonic relationship. He's hoping there's something more in it for him down the line. Sitting next to her in class, buying her coffee, and asking her to eat lunch with him are all "safe" activities that he can engage with her in that, if ever challenged, could be written off as "just being friendly", or "just coffee", or "just lunch", when they're really his way of worming himself into her life.

I think she was absolutely correct in her assumption of what he was after.

I'm thinking it's this.

 

[sdifox]

Dude, she said no to your coffee and lunch, leave her alone!

 

[SlitheryDee]

I have another related gripe. This chick knew the guy was married because he was wearing a ring. I've noticed time and time again that many MANY married women don't wear their wedding rings anywhere. How the fuck is a single guy supposed to know not to hit on you when you're not wearing the ring? Are they inviting advances from guys just to bolster their self esteem? If not, then are they actually all open to extra marital affairs? If not, then why are they wasting our goddamn time?

 

[flexy]

Well my relationship "experience" (lol) has definitely taught me not to trust, I was ALWAYS proven right with my gut instincts.

Let's be honest, a guy doesn't "invite to lunch" or visit your gf/wife from a country far away without any deeper intention, sometimes maybe not even consciously. I KNOW BECAUSE I AM GUY and everyone here knows it's the truth.

Girls can be even worse, they can tell you all kinds of s** that they want to do normal, trivial "every-day" things with "some friend", and the funny thing here is that girls ACTUALLY BELIEVE THAT THEMSELVES, they're often subconsciously repressing the idea they could be unfaithful ("Oh I am married, OF COURSE this is just for a coffee!" etc.) and then they act guilty or "dumbfounded" when it turns out the harmless coffee DID indeed turn into something else.

Many females ARE acting on their emotions and often not exactly rational... And once you realize that you will also be somewhat suspicious.

 

[Imp]

Well my relationship "experience" (lol) has definitely taught me not to trust, I was ALWAYS proven right with my gut instincts.

Let's be honest, a guy doesn't "invite to lunch" or visit your gf/wife from a country far away without any deeper intention, sometimes maybe not even consciously. I KNOW BECAUSE I AM GUY and everyone here knows it's the truth.

I did that when younger and realized the bullshit of it all.

However, there are exceptions. The fat female friend I had. I had almost zero attraction to her -- ya I'm shallow. That didn't stop her boyfriend, now husband from getting really pissed at me -- heard through a friend who was also her friend. Guessing he thought I was trying to steal her. Lulz, no thanx.

 

[jagec]

This "triggering" thing. It's what we used to call "annoying", yes?

No. "Triggering" refers to an ordinarily innocuous thing that brings up a traumatic memory...e.g., a veteran is at Starbucks and the barista yells "Latte for FRANK!", and next thing you know he's back in 'Nam watching his friend Frank's head getting blown off.

It's a perfectly legitimate term. Now, when people start thinking that they have full-blown PTSD because someone at school called them fat, and expect the grocery store to remove the word "fat" from the nutritional information because it gives them a flashback to that incident, that's a new twist.

 

[MagnusTheBrewer]

Most of my friends are women. While attending various universities, I often bought women coffee and also asked them to meet me for a beer. I wear a wedding ring and rarely tell my wife before hand. The fb idiot needs to grow up.

 

[Capt Caveman]

Most of my friends are women. While attending various universities, I often bought women coffee and also asked them to meet me for a beer. I wear a wedding ring and rarely tell my wife before hand. The fb idiot needs to grow up.

Yet, there is no indication that this married man was a friend but instead was called "a guy", big difference.

 

[MagnusTheBrewer]

Yet, there is no indication that this married man was a friend but instead was called "a guy", big difference.

How do you think we became friends? On second thought, I wouldn't want to be friends with someone so insecure.

 

[MongGrel]

I really even hate leaving my house these days for anything.

I wish I could hit lotto or something and just stay inside forever, I think society has gotten that weird in general.

 

[DrDoug]

The OP is the retarded one. The fact he actually created this thread then complains like a woman like usual here about other women, is hilarious.

The guy brought the woman a coffee last week and this week is asking her out to lunch. Yes, he's interested in her.

I read the title, checked who posted it and came in thinking that he was finally going to admit how stupid he is. Instead, all he does is show how stupid he is.

Again.

I agree w/ you, he's interested in her.