Whether or not he's interested in her isn't the point. The point is that the assumption that anyone who behaves in that manner must be up to no good and can't be trusted is stupid.
OP, would you accept "coffee" from a complete stranger and not knowing what really is mixed in it? You'll have to be really retarded to do so.
Regardless if that married guy is in the same class as that female, he is still a stranger. She should be cautious of what his intentions are. To some it's just "lunch", to her it's not respecting her and inviting out of the blue.
So you're one those people would just accept an invite/food of unknown source from someone you don't know. Respect is earned, not given. D:You have an odd definition of respect and acceptable social interaction.
So you're one those people would just accept an invite/food of unknown source from someone you don't know. Respect is earned, not given. D:
You can say "no thanks" without getting all huffy and offended.So you're one those people would just accept an invite/food of unknown source from someone you don't know. Respect is earned, not given. D:
Must > 90% probability. Often when probability is high, people make the extra leap themselves to say it's a certainty.Whether or not he's interested in her isn't the point. The point is that the assumption that anyone who behaves in that manner must be up to no good and can't be trusted is stupid.
You can say "no thanks" without getting all huffy and offended.
Personally I'd go have lunch with them unless they were obviously nuts and I didn't have anything else on.
So you're one those people would just accept an invite/food of unknown source from someone you don't know. Respect is earned, not given. D:
Hahaha - Wow, loved what this topic turned into while I was out at a client for a couple days.
We have the socially illiterates on one side that would NEVER touch such a HARSH social scene of going out to eat with a colleague/coworker - and the other side that says "well, why not? What's wrong with that?"
There is a clear social divide, and something tells me one side is more inclined to simply be socially inept and have their "safe zones" in life. I'm sure they will deny it, what with having all 2 social interactions per month, they are very social, right? Personally, I find the bitch to be ridiculously judgmental on something she can't possibly know - nor confirm, but assumptions are great for making asses out of people.
edit: For the record - for anyone socially retarded that can't yet take a hint: Asking someone to lunch is not (and CAN NOT) be in ANYWAY considered creepy. If you think it's creepy to ask someone to have some fucking lunch, you're an idiot.
Let's put this on the other shoe... Based on what you are saying, if some guy buys you a coffee as a gift and then later asks to take you out to lunch, that never could be considered creepy by you. Right? It's not creepy if some strange guy treats you and then asks you out, therefore women shouldn't be creeped out either. Yeah...
If you think this is OK then I'm going to bet that you're one of those creeps. :biggrin:
Ahhhhh... I can attest to that.
At an old job, I had two gay friends. Both came out after I got to know them, and I think I was one of the few to know. However, I always got the feeling that they were interested in me, one more than the other. So, when they asked me to lunch alone, I went the first two or three times, then started blowing them off so they wouldn't get the wrong idea.
One of them asked me if I was also homersexual -- other did too, but while asking, I noticed that his hand moved towards mine, almost like he was ready to grab and hold it if I answered in the affirmative. That creeped me out a bit.
Oh, and both of them were bigger and taller than me.
P.S. Not homersexual. Not that I care if anyone is.
Ahhhhh... I can attest to that.
At an old job, I had two gay friends. Both came out after I got to know them, and I think I was one of the few to know. However, I always got the feeling that they were interested in me, one more than the other. So, when they asked me to lunch alone, I went the first two or three times, then started blowing them off so they wouldn't get the wrong idea.
One of them asked me if I was also homersexual -- other did too, but while asking, I noticed that his hand moved towards mine, almost like he was ready to grab and hold it if I answered in the affirmative. That creeped me out a bit.
Oh, and both of them were bigger and taller than me.
P.S. Not homersexual. Not that I care if anyone is.
IOW, they were interested in you and it creeped you out. I had a similar thing happen too, so join the club. Nothing against being gay or anything but I'm a vagitarian, I don't eat meat.
If you're a vegetarian you might as well just be a woman.
Probably half way through transitioning, what with all the estrogen in Soy.
I'm being sardonic, good for you and your health!
Umm, you might want to reread what I wrote. Look at the spelling, very carefully! :biggrin:
Umm, you might want to reread what I wrote. Look at the spelling, very carefully! :biggrin:
Let me get this straight. In an age where we have elected Obama twice, where we have common core in the schools, where grown adults don't understand the value or intentions of the Constitution, where college students are more likely to be able to name the 5 Simpsons characters rather than the 5 elements of the 1st amendment, where we have both Clintons lying to the entire country yet the female version is still being considered for President rather than prison, where radical muslims are taking over entire countries without firing a single shot, this example is the best you can come up with for this generation being socially retarded.
God help us all.
actually, none of that.
Let me get this straight. In an age where we have elected Obama twice, where we have common core in the schools, where grown adults don't understand the value or intentions of the Constitution, where college students are more likely to be able to name the 5 Simpsons characters rather than the 5 elements of the 1st amendment, where we have both Clintons lying to the entire country yet the female version is still being considered for President rather than prison, where radical muslims are taking over entire countries without firing a single shot, this example is the best you can come up with for this generation being socially retarded.
God help us all.
Honestly the Internet is probably the greatest invention of my time, but it has made people dumb as fuck.