Well, at the risk of sounding like an armchair psychologist, I'm gonna suggest that another reason might be because you haven't yet learned what success looks like. This has little or nothing to do with effort. Hang in.
I am very sure that the reason that I fail is because I didn't try hard enough.
Have these women even looked at themselves? lol, when the GIRLS decide to grow up they can call me, until then I've been over playing their games for a few years now and that's why they become "sex objects".
That voids the entire article. Besides, problem isn't the decline of "man". It's the increased tolerance of human trash and low standards of living.
If anyone's seriously interested in this subject, read the books Why Men Are The Way They Are and The Myth of Male Power by men's movement writer Warren Farrell.
http://www.amazon.com/Why-Men-Are-Wa.../dp/042511094X
http://www.amazon.com/Myth-Male-Powe.../dp/0425181448
...it isn't surprising that Cammile Paglia supports Warren Farrell. Both of them set up a "straw woman" they call Feminism, invest it with all of their personal disappointments and disagreements with feminism, and tear it to shreds, all the while claiming the insider's knowledge and right to criticize.
The bulk of WMATWTA is Farrell's reading of the articles and advertisements of women's magazines like Cosmopolitan. These magazines have been criticized by feminist writers for decades, not least for appropriating language and jargon from feminist thought to add a liberated edge to a reactionary gender message. So, Farrell parrots what has already been said about the content, but argues that this is what women really want.
Farrell's other project is about the economic relation of the two genders. The way he paints it, men slave away all day, often at dangerous jobs, while women remain safe and sound at home, pocketing the paychecks and complaining that their worn-out husbands don't talk to them. Farrell looks at the military draft of men only, the statistics of workplace injury and illness and the flow of money in the household, and concludes that women really don't want to change society because they benefit from a system that regards men as expendable. What Farrell has stumbled across, but refuses to recognize, is class divisions in society (and race, to a lesser extent). Sure, it's men who get their body parts blown off in foreign jungles or exposed to toxic chemicals, but it is not for the benefit of women as a gender. Rather, it's poor men (and women) who work themselves into an early grave for the benefit of rich men (and women). Remember, "patriarchy" means rule by fathers, not rule by men. (Race adds a further dimension of complexity that Farrel doesn't touch on at all.) To accurately explain the hierarchies of our society, you need to place interactions in the context of race, class and gender. Farrell makes the mistake of trying to shoehorn everything into gender terms, and ignoring the intricacies of the interaction between the three.
Nonsense. While your brothers may not have amounted to much, you still can. And perhaps you would have made a better woman, but tough luck. Play the hand you were dealt.
He could always chop his penis off and start the estrogen treatments...
can't say i disagree with the article.
most of my "boys" from growing up are still single and live at home. they are all nearing 30 (as am i). hell one of those friends, who has actually had a consistent job at morgan stanley the past 10 years, JUST got his first credit card. literally a month ago, and his limit is $500. none of them went to college or finished. one of them is still working waiting at restaurants. they all still want to just go bang 18 year olds, but none of them actually do.
it does mimic the article quite a bit, except none of them play video games. i actually play video games myself a lot. but i also have a balance that i feel is good in my life. i'm married 3 years now, just got a huge raise at work that is significantly going to help us, especially next yea when we have a kid and my wife isn't working, we're about to purchsae a home, and we go on 2-3 pretty exotic vacations a year.
it literally is like a totally different lifestyle that i live compared to my friends. i don't hang with them that much anymore, but it isn't because i never go out or anything. my wife and i go out quite often, it is just with a different crowd a lot, because neither of us are looking to find 18 year olds to bang.
i'm not saying anything is wrong w/that, because i am a firm believer of to each their own, i'm just stating that i definitely can see some consistencies with the article and a LOT of the friends i grew up with.
also my little brother in law (17) doesn't hvae a job yet, and my little brother (nearly 19) just got his first job. i was working at the age of 14 while going to school. i definitely see a HUGE laziness factor coming into play with kids growing up now a days, both male and female.
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and one of my "boys" from growing up just had his first kid couple months ago, out of wedlock, and him and the mother do not get along. aren't even a couple.
There aren't enough middle class jobs to go around anymore, I think that's what it boils down to. You can't take your HS diploma to a factory or shop and make $40k, you either go to college (and, increasingly, graduate school) or you end up with a shitty job in retail or a call center or something.
lol and people still think feminism is a good thing. They think pushing "girl power" is going to make the world a better place, lol. The Western World hasn't needed feminism in quite a long fucking time, yet it's still in full force. I cannot stand feminists as they believe creating equality through inequality is the right course of measure. Because they were so opressed for years. How many women alive in the USA have been oppressed? How many here remember when they didn't have the right to vote? Not very fucking many. I'm also sick of being called "unresponsible" etc for not being married, for still having room mates and doing what I WANT at 26. Have these women even looked at themselves? lol, when the GIRLS decide to grow up they can call me, until then I've been over playing their games for a few years now and that's why they become "sex objects".
There aren't enough middle class jobs to go around anymore, I think that's what it boils down to. You can't take your HS diploma to a factory or shop and make $40k, you either go to college (and, increasingly, graduate school) or you end up with a shitty job in retail or a call center or something.
I fall on both ends of the spectrum. I've made a decent, middle-class living since right after finishing school, own a house, no debt except for my mortgage, etc etc. I can cook & don't allow my place to turn into a disgusting stereotypical bachelor pad. I'm sure Bill Bennett would approve.
OTOH I'm 27 & unmarried, could probably best be described as serially monogamous, and while I'm not against marriage if I found someone really awesome I certainly don't consider it a goal either. I have no particular desire to have kids, and aside from having a reasonably successful career my biggest priority in life is probably enjoying it. I take two or three trips per year and in all honesty kind of shake my head in sadness at people who're stuck at home with kids and for whom a big outing is a trip to the beach. This may mean I fail at this bloviating douchebag's definition of manliness but I don't really care. I support myself and don't bum off of anyone else, and I didn't sign up to be any kind of role model. Maybe prioritizing enjoyment over having kids makes me selfish, but seeing how the world's population is pushing 7 billion people I really fail to see why I should feel obligated to reproduce.
you are kind of agreeing with the laziness of the people then. if someone can't get a job straight out of highschool making $40k/yr, why not go to school to learn how to be able to do that? simple reason is because they are lazy.
you are kind of agreeing with the laziness of the people then. if someone can't get a job straight out of highschool making $40k/yr, why not go to school to learn how to be able to do that? simple reason is because they are lazy.
when i talk about my "boys" in my above post, THEIR vacations currently are driving 3 hours to the beach for a weekend, and partying their asses off, like twice a year. while on the other hand, the vacations my wife and i go on, are typically out of the country on some white sand/clear water beach. i shake my head at those guys, similarly to how you shake your head at the other people.