Originally posted by: MrWizzardOne reason I can think of is once you have had a child you realize how incredibly selfish and self centered your life has been up to that point.
Originally posted by: Mxylplyx
It's your responsibility as a responsible, educated adult to pass your wisdom to a new generation. Otherwise we cede the world to the retards. Now I'm going to have to have one more because your too damn selfish to help out your own team.
Originally posted by: Nightfall
Originally posted by: MrWizzard
It's easy for someone who has children to think they are better than someone who doesn't.
One reason I can think of is once you have had a child you realize how incredibly selfish and self centered your life has been up to that point.
Not saying you are just what most people say who wait to have kids till they are older.
That I can agree with to a point. Human beings by nature are selfish and self centered. Everyone wants things and they are only interested in their own well being for the most part. Getting married and having a successful marriage requires you to be something other than selfish and self centered. Having kids adds and extra level to that.
Its funny cause to some people, if you don't have kids, you are selfish and self centered. Even if you can't have them, the same rule applies. The key here is not caring what others think of you and doing what you feel is right for you.
Assuming that there was no malevolent government intervention. It would be a much different world if people had to be certified to have and raise kids.Originally posted by: Nightfall
Why to people who have kids show it off like a badge of honor or a special club? Lets face it, kids are not hard to have. You don't need a special degree or certification to have one. All you need to do is have sex. So why do people perceive themselves to be better than others cause they have kids and you don't? Or just because they have kids and they think their kids are better than others. I just don't get it.
Originally posted by: Nightfall
Originally posted by: thepd7
I respect people who decide not to have kids more than those who end up having accidents. My roomate from a few years back decided he never wanted kids and siad he was going to get a vasectomy at 18. I don't know if he did or not but it wouldn't suprise me.
People who are smart enough to recognize that they don't want kids and don't have them are great, just like the people who love kids, prepare for having them and then do it.
It's the people who don't have a clue and then end up having kids that are the idiots and should be asked all the time "when are you going to stop having kids?"
Personally I want 4 kids though. Props to you and your wife for being responsible and that is awesome that you told someone you were sterile. LOL.
The whole sterile thing was a trip. I really made her feel badly because I told her we were trying and trying and it just wasn't working. Then, I went to the doctor and found out I was 100% sterile due to my testicles not able to maintain a good temperature. She was put on the spot and just couldn't recover. She felt so bad asking and that was my intention.
I have to agree with you there. There are people that plan for the future, and those are the ones that are the most responsible. The ones that don't have any plan that have them are the worst. I know a couple that had a daughter and wanted one. However, they had no plan for what to do afterwards. She is 6 years old now, and they argue over who is going to watch her from one night to the next. By the time she gets to be 12, she is going to have a complex like she is a pain in the ass to watch over. Thats not the way a child should be raised.
Originally posted by: Descartes
For longer than I could probably fathom, one of the major reasons for getting married was to raise children. It's a natural assumption. Things have certainly changed over the past few decades though.
Originally posted by: aldamon
Originally posted by: MrWizzardOne reason I can think of is once you have had a child you realize how incredibly selfish and self centered your life has been up to that point.
I have no idea why this is a bad thing. Maybe you can clarify?
QFT x 100Originally posted by: MrWizzardonce you have had a child you realize how incredibly selfish and self centered your life has been up to that point.
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Before that there is immense pressure from the relatives to get you married off. :roll:
It because it's just the way things are "supposed to go". It's understandable to get sick of hearing it, but the people who say it mean no harm.
Originally posted by: Descartes
For longer than I could probably fathom, one of the major reasons for getting married was to raise children. It's a natural assumption. Things have certainly changed over the past few decades though.
Originally posted by: Papagayo
I have a kid and there is nothing I would not do for him. But that is our decision. If you don't want kids, there is nothing wrong with that. Please don't judge other people. There is nothing wrong with people not wanting kids. Just the same, there is nothing wrong with people that wants and loves kids.
Originally posted by: zerocool1
Originally posted by: Nightfall
Originally posted by: thepd7
I respect people who decide not to have kids more than those who end up having accidents. My roomate from a few years back decided he never wanted kids and siad he was going to get a vasectomy at 18. I don't know if he did or not but it wouldn't suprise me.
People who are smart enough to recognize that they don't want kids and don't have them are great, just like the people who love kids, prepare for having them and then do it.
It's the people who don't have a clue and then end up having kids that are the idiots and should be asked all the time "when are you going to stop having kids?"
Personally I want 4 kids though. Props to you and your wife for being responsible and that is awesome that you told someone you were sterile. LOL.
The whole sterile thing was a trip. I really made her feel badly because I told her we were trying and trying and it just wasn't working. Then, I went to the doctor and found out I was 100% sterile due to my testicles not able to maintain a good temperature. She was put on the spot and just couldn't recover. She felt so bad asking and that was my intention.
I have to agree with you there. There are people that plan for the future, and those are the ones that are the most responsible. The ones that don't have any plan that have them are the worst. I know a couple that had a daughter and wanted one. However, they had no plan for what to do afterwards. She is 6 years old now, and they argue over who is going to watch her from one night to the next. By the time she gets to be 12, she is going to have a complex like she is a pain in the ass to watch over. Thats not the way a child should be raised.
are you going to adopt then?
Originally posted by: MrWizzard
It's easy for someone who has children to think they are better than someone who doesn't.
One reason I can think of is once you have had a child you realize how incredibly selfish and self centered your life has been up to that point.
Not saying you are just what most people say who wait to have kids till they are older.
Originally posted by: NightfallSo why do people perceive themselves to be better than others cause they have kids and you don't?