Wife has a Internet Boyfriend

[frogger]

What the hell! Why should my wife need a guy to tell her "what is wrong" with our marriage?

I found the info in plain sight on our computer!

She has always told me what she expects, and we work through the problems. Why should I take a back seat to a computer ass*ole.

When I told her what I found, I got the "you are cut off" line.

The freak lives 500 miles away, I don't think it will get past the internet communication level.

Sorry to vent, it just pisses me off to have a complete stranger to stand between me and the bi*th.

 

[Bryan]

Make a copy of anything you find. I hate to say it, but you may need it one day. I hope not, and maybe you should let your ISP bill "go" for a while. :frown:

 

[Rudee]

Wow, I sense some serious deep seeded problems with your ability to control anger. Relax dude. Deal with the problem rationally and with a calm level head. If all you are going to do is swear at her and refer to her as bit*h, she will soon be your ex-wife! That's for sure.

 

[BiggieN]

only thing you can do is Love her. you will never understand her nor will you ever be totally problemless in a relationship. the only thing that Men can do is Love their women. if they are just friends than don't worry too much. think of the person as just another guy at her work or something.

maybe GirlFriday can spread some more light on this issue since she has about 500 internet Boyfriends (most on OT)

 

[Yo Ma Ma]

Well that's a betrayal, why wouldn't he be angry?

 

[frogger]

Bryan
I need it to do my work. Thanks anyway!
Rudee
I just tired of being the third wheel in my own marriage!

 

[Bryan]

If I were caught on the net talking to a woman about how bad my marriage is, I'd be kicked in the jimmy so hard, even my typing would go up an octave.

EDIT - How about using Net Nanny to block the site she's chatting on?

 

[hzl eyed grl]

Well, you need to talk about it of course. Find out what was bothering her about your relationship that she felt that she needed to get fulfillment from someone/something else. I know that if my husband (When/if I get married.) did that, I would be pretty pissed too.

I'm sorry to hear what happened. Like Bryan said too...make copies if you have to.

 

[Stifko]

Damn that sucks, don't do anything rash or crazy, be cool and avoid her untill you're calmer

 

[madthumbs]

I lost my ex-wife to an "internet" boyfreind. It wasn't fun, and it's not what's right, but I think I'm better off without her now that I've learned to be happy alone. I still wish I had someone, but I'm much pickier now in the sense that I know what I want in thier character. Your wife is making you miserable. Being alone, I'm not miserable... just alone. I hope you straighten things out. Wether you stay or not I just hope you can learn to be happy.

 

[IBhacknU]

<< When I told her what I found, I got the &quot;you are cut off&quot; line. >>

what does this mean? cut off?

 

[frogger]

Nope, time has passed. I used to be understanding.

Time to end it!

Time to log out and finish the job.

 

[Bryan]

WAIT. Don't do anything rash. This is the rest of your life here. Please sleep on it, and don't let a bunch of us silly strangers push you to a quick decision.

 

[IBhacknU]

man... thems fightin wurds

take it easy. No matter how long this has gone on, you're a more rational person than this. Think about your options here.

 

[BiggieN]

think before you do anything. you know like how you say your wife has a stranger telling her what's wrong with your marraige. this is almost the same thing. exceptyou have a bunch of people talking to you. we would never know the full story. you need to take some time on this and find out which way your marriage is going at a more reasonable time when you are calm and relaxed.

 

[Bryan]

Well, he's logged out.... :frown:

 

[BiggieN]

oh man...this can't be good. too many problems in one night! i'm trying to help everyone here but it seems everyone has problems. i care too much...i'm kinda like the forum Psychiatrist/therapist...

 

[IBhacknU]

time to update your sig then BiggieN

 

[BiggieN]

happy now...just don't ask me where i'm certified...

i am an ordained minister you know...

 

[IBhacknU]

yea... and my dad's a shrink

(seriously)

 

[BiggieN]

i'm an ordained minster...seriously.

 

[narzy]

I've had so much theripy I am a certified theripist, (seriously)

 

[Whisper]

Well, the only thing I'd say is that the first rule any therapist should follow is to never make assumptions, and generally to never give advice. Otherwise you're acting as a confidant more than a therapist. Help people figure out what they need to do on their own, and provide as little direct input as you can. Usually we have a pretty good idea of what's right somewhere deep down inside, we just sometimes need an extra person to help us get there.

In this poster's case it's really all up to him. He's the only one who has any knowledge about previous problems in the relationship, how things are currently going between him and his wife, how much trust exists currently, and all those other spiffy little details. The best cautioning (as mentioned above) is just to try and cool yourself off a bit, take some time away from your wife, and try and get your thoughts clear and straight before you attempt to talk to her. If after a few hours or a day or so you still feel she's crossed a line, then let her know. Yelling solves nothing for the most part, and only results in more yelling. Good luck with the current situation and hope things get worked out soon

(and no, this post in no way was meant to criticize any of the above posts/posters)

 

[BiggieN]

kinda like what i said earlier eh?

 

[Whisper]

w3rd